I have been married for 4 years, and it seems that my husband has been cheating ever since.I only know of two girls he has had in our home, but every time i am gone for more then an hour he is on the pc talking to girls or phone sex.He says that he has a problem and he can not help it but i find that hard to believe. I really want to make us work out. Is there anything that could help him or should I just give up on trying to help him??
2007-07-25 05:45:06 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce. He is who he is, and it sure doesn't sound like he has any interest in stopping. It's too risky for you, and if you have kids, too hard on them. Bail now.
2007-07-25 05:48:35 · answer #1 · answered by John R 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hunnie, he has a serious problem and is making it yours. A man with that problem should have never made the choice to marry you in the first place. he needs serious counseling and if he refuses he is not worth it. I would drop him in a heartbeat, but you seem like you're stuck in this love cloud. We can all tell you to get away but chances are you wont because you've been with him this long. So, if you have to stay with him make him see someone. If he really loves you he will. if he doesn't get your head out of this cloud and snap back into reality. Do not let someone take advantage of you and hurt you on a daily basis. you will end up with some serious mental problems of your own down the road.
2007-07-25 05:54:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are several things you can do...install a keystroke logger, put a pass word on the computer so he has to ask you to unlock it or give it to some kid whose parents will never afford one. Then there is always, divorce him and he won't be cheating. Like you, I think he is actually a selfish, self-centered, sheet heel and not possessed by an I HAVE TO addictive demon.
Cut your losses now...99 out of 100 men that stoop to his level NEVER rise above it. YOU can't fix a man and they rarely ever truly want a wife's "help".
2007-07-25 06:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot of help for sex additive people .If this the his proplem your the enabler by letting him continue.Either get immedate counsling with, it stop now are get out. Your risking a disease and you demean your self. He's certainly anything so great to cling to.The problem is him ,and no excuse covers this. Your spending your life on cheap goods.There great men looking for one good woman,you should think of a different man.Please say no to him.
2007-07-25 06:01:58 · answer #4 · answered by oatesmokid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you must stop thinking he is the one needing help. It appears you bought into that excuse, "he has a problem and he cannot help it". He is only cheating because he can, he knows you will continue to forgive him and so there is no incentive for him to change. You either decide to take it or not take it. The decision is yours, he is not gonna change. I do hope you do what is best for you and stop listening to him lame excuses.
2007-07-25 06:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with all the other answers you have recieved. Your husband has an addiction- and it's dangerous and unhealthy for you to stay in this relationship with him.
Unless HE wants to stop doing this, and seeks help in order to overcome this problem, there is nothing you can do to help.HE is an adult and HE should address the issues that are causing him to act this way.
But if this has been going on for years already, it sounds to me like he DOESN'T want to stop...So I guess it's best for you to call it quits and end this toxic relationship. Good luck!
2007-07-25 05:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better than that! Do not waste any more time/money into this relationship anymore. Get out while you can and while you still have a backbone!! Do you really want to continue to be disrespected by this man? You're self worth out weighs this mans non-caring attitude towards you.
Good luck!
2007-07-25 05:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by beanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You husband keep cheating because you let him get away with it. I doubt that he only started cheating on you after the wedding. I personally couldnt stay with a cheater. I would never believe a word they said to me again. I would always wonder if they were going where they said they were going. I refuse to live like that, but that's just me. Youcan do what you want to do but you cant make him change he has to want to change. It doesnt sound like he wants to.
2007-07-25 05:53:04 · answer #8 · answered by kystik83 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dumb the man sorry but once a cheat always a cheat my husband cheated on me once and once is all it took he felt so guilty and he said it may him relize what he was going to lose. We have worked through it. Your husband has done it who knows how many times and has conitune to do it. DUMB HIM AND GET A REAL MAN.
2007-07-25 06:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better than that. Get off the computer and call an attorney before he gives you an STD and your life is ruined forever. It will be hard, but think what will be better for you in the long run.
2007-07-25 05:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by StormyC 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Throw in the towel. You only know of 2 and you know there are numerous more. If he has a problem he should seek help for it. Find yourself a new man who is loyal.
2007-07-25 05:49:22 · answer #11 · answered by Mike 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋