Is it possible for a man who has a coke habit to stay faithful to his wife? My husband has never given me reason to doubt his fidelity. He tells me I can call the numbers on his cell whenever, he 'appears' pretty comfortable. He's pretty much always home, loves and plays with the kids, we used to have sex alot (Up until last week when I discovered his coke habit and that hurt too much). I just wonder if coke habit = equals= unfaithful all the time? Thanks everyone. I'm seriously messed up in the head with all these doubts. I feel like leaving work I'm so sick even thinking he could be lying.
2007-07-25 05:02:25 · 11 answers · asked by Hope 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hope I am so sorry, I have and still am going through the same thing. Yes it is very possible that he is faithful, but there is a chance he isn't. You would know by a feeling, deep in your stomach, if he was cheating. You didn't really mention anything that would indicate his being unfaithful. I would not harp on me for the habit, it will just drive him away from you. I would keep a little closer eye on him. From experience you keep him close and let him know everyday how much you love him, make him feel extra special. Hang in there Hope my husband is my soulmate and I am deeply in love with him and I know he loves me with all his heart, but when he is overusing and abusing he changes to someone I don't know. Keep the lines of communication open, the worse thing you can do is tell him to quit. But I do know that it will bring bad things to your marriage eventually. Watch for changes, like he may be waiting for something- someone (anxious), hang up calls, wrong numbers, if he stops coming home and playing with the children, he is moody, irratable, suddenly doesn't have time for you or the family affairs, then it is time to reel him back in and let him know that you and the children need him and love him very much. If you start getting angry with him he will not talk to anymore and start shutting you out, keep your cool. I wish you luck and I am sending blessings your way. Be Strong for him and yourself.
Patty
2007-07-25 05:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by pattycake046 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sound like he had been faithful especially in terms of relationship with you......However when it come to drugs and the influence it could have on one's behaviour it will be tempting for him to be unfaithful. He does not mean to be unfaithful though that i am sure....and that is just from what you tell me.......he loves you alot that is for sure.....the temptation of being unfaithful will come when he had to choose between telling you the truth which would hurt you and at that time he is under the influence of the drugs.
If i were you i will not worry about his unfaithfulness but to get him out of the drug that could lead to such temptation. You know your husband best and you will know how to draw him into giving it up.....but you will be supportive every step of the way and believe me from what you tell that he cares for you and his family......tell him that you don't want the drug to come in between you and that you care and want him around for a very long time.....do not however say that he cannot control his behaviour but do tell that there is a chance one day the drug could be over used etc etc..
2007-07-25 12:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by soundfamiliar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Faith"
Faith means that you "Trust" in the past, present, and future. Although "Past performance doesn't always indicate future returns" ... it is a good measure.
This doesn't mean to "throw him away" (like trash) ... but invest time learning what cocain additions are ... what it did to him ... what steps he took to overcome his addiction ... what his addtiction did to his finances. Look at past bank statments during his addiction.
Financial problems is the #1 reason for divorce/break-up's. It's ALSO a huge way to follow him to see if he's fallen back into a coke addiction/ other women. Forget following the phone ... start following the money ... and make sure he never has large access to cash.
2007-07-25 12:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not likely because coke totally messes up a guys ability to even have sex. No *****! lol im not kidding and it kind of takes away your sex drive. look it up. Anyways what is your definition of habit? Maybes its more of a addiction and you're afraid to admit that. Get him some therapy.
2007-07-25 12:08:08 · answer #4 · answered by Im Terminally Unique 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drugs alter your ability to think normal. yes, there is a possibility but if you really feel you have a strong solid marriage I think you should be ok. I think as long as he's doing it at home than out somewhere else he probably wont cheat. But he defiantly needs to kick that habit. It is very costly and very addictive. It could create other problems between you two besides infidelity.
2007-07-25 12:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a drug addict doesn't automatically make you a cheater too. I've known lots of addicts and none of them were ever unfaithful to their partners. Being an addict and being a cheater don't necessarily go hand in hand.
I would focus less on what you fear and deal with what you know. He's an addict. He needs help, and you are going to have a lot of hard decisions to make. I would believe he didn't cheat.
2007-07-25 12:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by ╚╔╩╦ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Coke takes away the desire for sex. Does he do it all the time? He should get help for the drug use.Talk to him about all this and find our more about his use.
2007-07-25 12:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys get limpD I C K on coke.....
Don't worry about him cheating. he does have an addiction though- and that should be addressed.
Good luck to you!!!!
2007-07-25 12:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is on drugs then he needs help.
But being on coke doesn't mean he is cheating.
2007-07-25 12:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by David G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is the least of your concerns.
2007-07-25 12:13:35 · answer #10 · answered by diamondbullet66 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋