Together for almost 16 years with alot of good times. She started a relationship with a coworker and left me for him even loved me right up to leaving me. We are divorced now and she told me that she fell out of love with me. But its a small town and I know she had to say more than that or she would look bad. I heard from a friend that she tells her close friends that I was emotonally abuseing her! Telling her she is beautiful and sexy is abusive? I was good to her maybe to good as I think she is nothing more than a spoiled brat who got everything she wanted growing up. Do I defend my character or just let it go??? I really am a nice guy as I have no reason to BS on yahoo Q&A...
2007-07-25 05:56:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she did not love u, ur living in a fantasy world.
don't reply... let it die down.
besides, all these people really could care less, well, maybe for 15 minutes worth of juicy gossip. everybody has there own problems and they don't have time to sit around and think about why ur marriage broke up. most people r trying to keep theirs together.
2007-07-25 06:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by (!)listen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I guess only say something to the people that matter to you, the rest who cares, sounds kinda like me now, my boyfriend of 17 years told me same thing wasn't in love with me anymore, but married me 3 months ago, and still treating bad , only he actually is emotionally abusing me, your ex wife how can she say that, she was emotionally abusing you. but I guess she feels guilty for that so made it look like you was because she knew she was wrong, saying what she did makes people think good for her for leaving you, sorry but what a b****, you seem to be doing okay though how long have you been divorced now? she gave away you for some desire, she will so regret it. and you will meet your true soul mate,I guess we both was and are going through some tough stuff, because our true mate is waiting and we will know a little bit more this time. this is my 2nd heart break. i guess 3rd is a charm
2007-07-25 13:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by dontcha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people ask, then yes, you should defend yourself. But don't bring it up if no one else does.
She maybe saying these things but often times people know what is really going on. Many people, especially in small towns, easily sense a person's character. I think most people probably know that she is the one at fault.
2007-07-25 13:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do people know she had an affair, then you don't need to defend yourself. She is trying to justify her bad actions, and and decent person knows there is no justification for an affair. Your unhappy or being emotionally abused you leave, you don't start running around with someone else.
2007-07-25 13:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by jlcjills 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ex's are ex's for a reason! Be true to yourself....... it makes you a stronger man to hold his tongue in adversity than to slander and degrade her for the sake of clearing your own name! You know who you are.... you know you're a good guy, portray yourself in this manner and people will have no choice but to see your actions and feel the same! She will look like the fool in the end on her own when peole find out her words are untrue!
2007-07-25 13:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine's Pic Is on 360 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any person who knows you in real life, surely knows the type of character you are. I don't think there is any reason for you to explain how great you were to her!
I'm sorry she is doing this to you. Sounds like she feels guilty and wants everyone to think you were the "bad guy".
2007-07-25 13:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by beanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe what you are saying. I would set the record straight! Do not let a spoiled cheater get away with destroying a good guys reputation.
2007-07-25 13:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, she didn't love or even respect you at the point she had an affair with a co-worker. Who cares what she tells her friends? What is she going to tell them? That she was bored with you and found a new penis to fill her void?
2007-07-25 13:00:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you don't try to defend yourself to anyone. People that know you know better and the ones that don't well they really don't matter do they. If you try to defend yourself it just makes you look guilty
2007-07-25 13:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by rebeccaangel2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, the people who know her, know what she is about and capable of. I say let it go. You sound like a pretty decent guy, and your character will speak for itself. It sucks that she is going around saying horrible things about you but you cannot control what she says...
Best luck and wishes.
2007-07-25 13:02:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋