Letter I writing to my soon to be ex-wife?

Question

any thought on it, or changes should be made, please help thx

I would like to sit down face to face with you somewhere quiet near future. Sit down and explain what the best interests for us in this marriage we can both accept If we don't, it will come back to haunt us in many ways. We can both accept. The key is to do it maturely, without deliberate pain, so that we can both accept. You as my wife have questions, I answer them as fairly as I can for you without confusion.
Or choose other options, such as marriage counseling. These can also be logical steps that may help to keep this marriage together. Might even be able to stay friends. Or if not, we can look back on our time together as an enjoyable experiment which just didn't work out the way we originally hoped. I hope to spend some time together in November, I still would like to fulfill that day for you in Vegas,Canada or at a Romantic Lodge. We can share a peaceful moment together as best as we can. .

Answer 1

NO NO NO, you sound pathetic and that will never get her to give you a chance not only that but its as boring as a business letter. Throw that letter away please and start over.
1. Remind her of all the good times you shared
2. Let her know you still love her but you are willing to let her go
3. Don't sound so boring try romancing her a little "If she likes poetry write her a poem.
4. Don't sound so logical (love is from the heart not the brain) make the letter sincere and heart felt so that when she reads it she won't just dismiss it without a second thought.
5. Write from the heart "It might just knock her socks off
I hope this helps I really do but your going to have to get in touch with your inner emotions and try being romantic in the future.

Answer 2

If your letter was an attempt for a reconciliation I found it way too confusing and not to the point. You might be best to change it, maybe to something simple such as this;
I am writing you this letter as a way to ask if you are willing for us both to spend at least one last quiet evening together, to be able to talk things over, and hopefully help us decide if we both are willing to do whatever it takes to keep our marriage together. I am willing if you are. If for some reason this attempt does not work out the way I hope it would, then just be reassured that there will be no demands from me to you and I will respect if you wish to continue with the divorce. I would at that point wish for both of us to at least be able to come through this on friendly terms and just know I do wish the best for us no matter how it should end up" See what you think about saying this to her and best of luck to you.

Answer 3

If she's soon to be then why would you consider counseling? Too many questions not enough answers...and maybe she doesn't want to be anywhere alone with you...maybe suggest a restaurant or something. Talking it out is never a bad thing, if a marriage has to be ended then it should be done so amicably. So everyone can move on and not be hurt more than divorce already does. Also, I suggest proof reading and spell checking it many many times before sending. Nothing worse than a serious letter that is supposed to be of a very personal matter, sounding like it was written by a 15 year old.

Answer 4

You mentioned marriage counseling. I think I'd ask her face to face if you both could do that together first really try to work it out.
I wouldn't give her the letter, first because I don't know both sides (just yours) and I don't know why your marriage isn't working out for the two of you. So I think if you go to counseling the counselor can get both of your opinions about your marriage and work with you to either continue the marriage or not.

Very sincere letter by the way, sounds very nice.

Answer 5

Sorry this is downright confusing. "We can both accept"is not a full sentence for instance.
What are you trying to achieve with this letter? Start with that thought, because that, to be honest, is not in there. What I read is a letter that is about not wanting a divorce and yet not wanting to continue a marriage. Wanting some level of mental intimacy, despite hurt.
Trust me on the latter, it does not work! Make some distance for a while, before you talk

Answer 6

Your being thoughtful Who's idea is it for the divorce sound like hers since your writing the letter if your idea than disregard this answer>But anything you put on paper will bit you in the butt. In court an out as everyone will see it. Your divorcing her not making a date if it was any good you wouldn't be getting a div=== so let it go for know, if down the line you get together so be it.Just my thought.

Answer 7

You cannot mention divorce and a romantic getaway in the same letter. It's a fickin oxymoron and is leading her on. You sound like you are telling her from a distance. It's only right to tell someone to their face. I think she will be angry and your sympathetic words will just anger her more. Try not to be so sympathetic. Why don't you tell her the reason why you want a divorce instead of totally avoiding it. it sounds half like a dear john letter and the other half like a girl wrote it. talk to her face to face and don't plan out what you are going to say. let it come from the heart.

Answer 8

It kind of sounds like a general letter to me. Why not write it to include how you feel and what you really would like to see happen with your marriage. If you want to try and work to save it, let her know this as maybe ask how she feels about whether or not the marriage should end.

Answer 9

I think I need to know the background info.... did you do somehting wrong or was it her choice? I think you need to state if you really want to stay together or not. This letter sounds like a business proposal and it would make me feel angry and upset to read such empty words.

Answer 10

Your ideas are good, you just need to work on the words. I'm assuming English is not your first language. I would sit down with a friend who writes well, tell them your thoughts and have them compose the letter for you