Explain this to me? I have been on Y!A long enough to see this Q over and over.. I just don't understand. Please explain why you think it is "hot" or "erotic" to see your spouse with another person (especially the opposite sex). I would freak out if I had to watch my man with someone else..
2007-07-25 06:34:02 · 13 answers · asked by Wildflower 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's a voyeurism thing, Wildflower, and admittedly not for everyone. It usually comes after many years of sex and sex partners, and becoming jaded as a result of all that sex and all that variety.
It CAN be a tremendous turn on, but only if you are at that stage. It is like looking through a window at something really sexy and forbidden, only you arranged it and your significant other is receiving (forbidden) pleasure at the hands of another. It can be a positively intoxicating experience!
But it is not for everyone, especially when young and relatively innocent. Give yourself 20 years of marriage and the same position and the same everything, and I promise you your thoughts will turn to more exotic things . . . .
2007-07-25 06:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally I think it only invites trouble. I know a lot of guys who would never invite another man in to their bedroom but have absolutely no problem with bringing another woman in to be with her ( bi curious sort of speak) I'm not sure honestly how I would feel about being on the receiving end here it's something I'd have to really consider and take in all the facts before I made a decision, but I can tell you this she better keep her mitts off my guy..... there will be no one touching him but me!!!! I don't share very well!
2007-07-25 14:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine's Pic Is on 360 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to see my partner with another person. In fact, the thought of it makes me sick. What we have together is between us and the thought of him touching another the way he touches me makes me sad to think about. That is for me.
Having said that, I will tell you that I'm not a prude. I'll watch porn with him on occasion and can get excited by watching other people having sex. Just not him. I don't share and neither does he. Also, it's a turn on to me that he does not even like to think of me with someone else. That means to me that the sex we have is out of love and is as important to him as it is to me. It just makes sex so much better when there is love.
2007-07-25 13:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank u. U say the words I wanted to say. I would probadly rip the chicks hair out if I saw her touching my husband and the same goes for my husabnd I am sure. Though my husband images me w/another women I tell him keep dreaming lol
2007-07-25 13:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of women out there who want to do a porno flick or dance in a topless bar for the viceral thrill of it. Different strok for different folks. You don't like it or couldn't handle it. Some people like eggplant. i can't figure that one out.
2007-07-25 14:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get that at all! I am with you on this. I would totally freak out. I can't even imagine my husband having sex with anyone but me. I don't even like to think about his ex's. I know that he has had other partners, but I don't want to think about it and I definately don't want to see it!
2007-07-25 13:42:46 · answer #6 · answered by faith 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I find it erotic but then I don't have insecurity or jealousy issues. I enjoy watching my g/f play with other people, but if she would go out on a "date", that would end the relationship. I don't live a vanilla lifestyle however, I wouldn't expect someone who does to understand.
2007-07-25 13:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I am not sure either. I would never go for my wife with another girl or guy! I have values I cherish!!
2007-07-25 13:37:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we talk about it only on pillow talk... but when you get right to it... HECK no.... i am a very jealous woman... and very proud of what i have between the sheets and i don't want any woman or man to have what i have....
2007-07-25 13:45:34 · answer #9 · answered by happygolcky75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's live porn!
and excellent if no feelings were to be attached to the other person, as well as chances of bumping into other person are non-existant.
2007-07-25 13:52:42 · answer #10 · answered by JMC 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋