Marriage & Divorce - 9 July 2007

We're all human - we're all subject to make mistakes and be upset when mistakes are made. I get that - I'm positive that I've been the desire of someone's choke hold fantasies ~plenty~ of times. All of that in mind have you ever just wanted to flick the one you love square on the forehead?

2007-07-09 07:35:36 · 18 answers · asked by razor_sharp_redhead 3

my man looks at porn on the computer (he thinks I don't know) often - and believe me we have sex often too! What I don't get is why he finds it necessary to look at porn "after" we have had sex when I am not in the room? Am I not satisfying him or is it just a guy thing? Help me understand this whole porn turn-on thing. Ladies - if your man looks at porn everyday - how do you handle it?

2007-07-09 07:34:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you have a girlfriend or you're married and you have intercorse with another person but you wear protection, does that still mean you've cheated? The reason I ask is due to the fact that you're wearing a condom, there's really no contact between the 2 people.

2007-07-09 07:31:03 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-09 07:30:07 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do women have fantasies and if so, what are they? Being a male and having male friends I know the kind of fantasies males have and they are generally more rough and aggressive...what kind of things do women fantasize about?

2007-07-09 07:29:16 · 20 answers · asked by Cupcakes Moosey! 4

I've been hearing a lot of different opinions on this subject and there are still a lot of blank spots in my mind. i myself am not a lesbian and im not trying to get an argument i just want to hear people's opinions from both points of view.

2007-07-09 07:29:04 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my husband have been married 11 months and we don't have sex. We had a child before we got married and he's 3 now but our sex life used to be wonderful we would have sex 2-3 times a day. It was wonderful. Then I got pregnant with my son and started producing milk and he kind of got grossed out about it so my whole pregnancy we didn't have sex what so ever. Then we do it once a month if I was lucky. And then we got married and didn't even have sex on our wedding night! I ask him is it me do you not find me attractive but he says he does. And that the problem is that we have both put on more weight then we liked and he says that we are too fat to have sex, so we have been married 11 months and he still hasn't done anything about losing weight but I have lost about 45 pounds. So what's the deal, with him why doesn't he want to loose weight so we can have regular sex again? I am so frustrated with this. How can I talk to him about this?

2007-07-09 07:28:32 · 11 answers · asked by Melanie N 2

2007-07-09 07:23:08 · 25 answers · asked by shaie 1

29yrs old. 16 year relationship. 3 kids. not married. he is the father of all three children. does he deserve a chance? i love this man.

2007-07-09 07:21:37 · 23 answers · asked by 30 going on 40 1

what is the easiest way to migrate to either canada ot US? some friends say, "get married to a canadian citizen or to a US citizen. ... but i dont know any cnadain or american.... and i want to marry only for love!!!!!

2007-07-09 07:20:36 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

okay heres the deal. we are very young, im 19 he is 20. we have been together since we were 15. he has been with one other woman before me, and he is my only partner. we have been toying around with the idea of a threesome but have never agreed to it. the other day he told me that im free to be with another man as long as he doest find out. he told me that he is afraid that once were older and have children that i would regret only having him as a partner. i in turn feel the same way, i dont want him to regret not "exploring" so i too told him not to let me find out. we did set a deadline though, we didnt have a wedding but went through the courts. so we plan on a wedding next year in july, that would be the deadline. we have a few rules like no strangers, no romance, no where where we usually are ie. bed, car, fav restuarunt... anyway is this a good idea. i know it sounds a bit crazy but im torn. i mean part of me thinks it could work the other... im scared.

2007-07-09 07:19:51 · 24 answers · asked by crabybuttcute 2

We've been married for 12 years and he's been stressed and had an anxiety attack a few months ago. He really went off the deep end and left 2 weeks ago. He's home again but I don't know what to do. He has an appointment with a psychiatrist Wed. He won't say I love you or kiss me. I've been bending over backwards so he can rest when he comes home and isn't stressed out. He tells the kids when they have a problem to take it up with the cook or tell the waitress. I begged him the last time we had sex and it was almost a week ago. He thinks it may be mental and that's why he wants to go to the psyciatrist. He says he feels numb and tingly inside and gets pissed off easy. How should I handle this? What should I do?

2007-07-09 07:19:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

her husband was abusive towards her and divorce is now final option, we are unsure of how this can be done legally (muslim way) being based in UK

2007-07-09 07:11:44 · 5 answers · asked by KULFI 1

any help?

2007-07-09 06:38:02 · 11 answers · asked by HereIam 1

that you hate the person for being such an idiot and you hate yourself for loving them?

diga me.
Gracias.

2007-07-09 06:34:26 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am mad because ever since my husband has gotten this game console he has done nothing except been on IT!!! He wont keep ajob or even look for one anymore, He wont help clean or cook when he is hungary he asks me all the time for stuff, and if I dont get it for him he doesnt eat and complains his head hurts cus of it. He doesnt do the greatest job watchin the kids..they are in to everything by the time I get home. Anyways my question is Is this an addiction? What can I do about it? Does anyone else have this problem. If I mention that he is on it too much and try to get him off and to spend time with me and the kids he makes up excuses not to go or he just gets mad...I am at my wits end and really thinking bout divorce..but why over such a stupid thing..if he were working and playing it .I wouldnt care. HELP!!!!

2007-07-09 06:34:20 · 9 answers · asked by QTforlife 2

My husband and I have been married for 4 years. We have been having some major ups and downs lately, and we are working things out. Anyway, a male friend of mine, whom I have known since grade school, has started calling me quite a bit in the last couple of months. I did confided in him what has been going on with my husband, ONLY because I wanted to get a male perspective as to some of my husbands actions. But he knows things are much better now, with me and my husband. My friend called me last Friday and as we were hanging up he told me " I love...uh...Later." Yeah, I'll talk to you Later." I nearly fainted. This friend of mine is someone I was crazy about, until I met my husband 5 years ago. During our teenage yrs. my friend knew I liked him, but he was never interested in me, yet he would get all upset if I dated someone or didn't pay attention to him. Although we have remained friends over the years, do I just ignore what he started to say or do I just stop a 23 year friendship?

2007-07-09 06:28:42 · 13 answers · asked by Amy L 4

So I have been dating a man going thru a divorce. We are very good friends with benefits. We made that decision early on in the relationship, because he was so emotionally unavailable at the time. It has been three months of this type of dating, and now I am finding myself caring for him more than i anticipated.
Also, his divorce hearing got postponed two more motnhs, which sent him into a slight depression. And he has been distant ever since. Not returning calls, texts, etc... But when I talk to him eventually, he is super sweet. And last week we had this super intense convo... he said he loved me. I understand what he is going thru is tough and I want to be there for him in every capacity. But I don't want to add any new stresses of my emotions. BUT... I really like this guy, and he is super sweet and I finally found a NICE GUY.
So... he has not called this week. Should I tell him how I feel or just stop calling and walk away?
My heart is hurting...

2007-07-09 06:27:26 · 12 answers · asked by Mitch 2

My husband is Turkish, 42 and have ben married 20 years have 1 daughter 17. I am 54, of Italian parentage but have lived in UK for 40 years. I caught him cheating 18 months ago and he now says that he was too young to get married that he is a free spirit and that he wants to do whatever. He has got an apartment where he used to stay 3 days a week, but now stays there less. He says he wants to leave the house we live in to our daughter and that I can stay here till I die as long as I don't get another man. (half of it is in my name anyway). What he is saying is that he will look after me in every sense (inc. sex)only if he is allowed to come and go as he pleases. I am still an attractive woman but I work alone and don't know many people to mix with as he kept all friends at arms length. I am asking myself whether I can trust this arrangement as I have no guarantees that he would change his mind later on. I can't decide what to do my daughter is doing exams don't want to unsettle her.

2007-07-09 06:26:18 · 26 answers · asked by Angela O 1

My husband cheated on me with 2 different women, and I am very hurt, it has been about a week since I found out, I wanted to leave him at first but didnt and still dont have the strength to do it. We talked about it last night and all and we tryed to figure out what we are going to do, and he thinks we should try to stay together, but to me it just doesnt feel right. sometimes I will be perfectly fine and then other times I look at him and cant stand the pain that he has caused me. What should I do? Should I give him this 2nd chance? Does he deserve it? I dont know what to do or how to stop hurting over this, I want to work it out, but dont know if it is worth trying?!?

2007-07-09 06:24:33 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

Preferably not married, straight, has a job, and respectful. I've just about given up. Men don't seem to want women who are self sufficient beautiful and smart.

2007-07-09 06:13:51 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

ive been with my husband for 6 yrs married for 3....we decided to take a "break"....he is 23 i am 21...he still wants to party and go out and well i do as well but i rather spend my time with my family...oh we have a 3yr old...so i'm soooooo sad and depressed i cant eat, i cant sleep....i throw up withought eating i feel like i'm making my self sick.....in 2 days i lost 5 pounds....i know that i will be okay during this seperation but its sooooo hard...i cant be at home alone becuase i just cry and depress myself........i have thoought about suicide but i have to be strong for my son....wat can i do 2 get over this?

2007-07-09 06:13:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My cousin is trying to get a divorce but it's been years since she has seen her ex...and has no idea where he is now...does anyone know how she would go about it?

2007-07-09 06:00:57 · 25 answers · asked by Sheyla 1

if you had to make a choice ?

do u marry the person u love and doesnt love you back ?

or the person who loves u but u dnt love then ?

and why ?

2007-07-09 05:59:06 · 10 answers · asked by renaaa 2

this might be my last chance with the girl i love. i talked to my x gf this past weekend and she told she might be gettin engagement and leaving to california with this guy that she met 2 months ago she live out of state but she came to town for a conference i asked to meet and she agree, she agree to meet me with the attention of just seeing but it ended up that her feelings resurrected for me. i love her too. we talked and i told her to not leave with me that it should be me that should be with at the end of the convo she told me she is torn between me and this new guy she still loves me but is scare of getting hurt again but she also mention now she is confuse, she also mention his negative side. i ask her think about it and she said she will, because she doesnt want to leave with him and be thinking about me she call me 5x today and text me 4x
what can i do to convince her that i m the one for her
any one ever in this situation

2007-07-09 05:57:31 · 17 answers · asked by simple J 4

Yesterday, I asked my husband if we could just cuddle . he said he was busy reading.I felt like he was not considering my feelings and I told him how it made me feel. I also brought up a few occasion I have felt like he lacked affection.I felt like most of the time he is affectionate is when we are making love.I told him that sometimes he is not very kind with what he says and that it hurts me .I did not mention the good things he does during this conversation coz I felt that I needed to let him know what I thought was wrong.well, he got mad at me and now he will not talk to me coz he says that I do not appreciate the good things he does &should consider the good aspects before I paint him as a heartless monster.he said his reading is important.we have a good relationship &get along well but sometimes when I try to tell him something he will either hear me or he wont &then he gets made and will not talk to me for days.tell me what I did wrong, how to solve this & how to avoid fights

2007-07-09 05:47:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband earns a lot more than me and I contribute to the household relative to my salary, so I technically live beyond my means as it wouldn't be practical for me to eat economy beans on toast while cooking him fancy dinners, or whatever. But now he wants to trade in my old Renault Clio so he can buy a nippy little convertable. He's got a jag estate, but I don't want to have my car bought for me, and would feel uncomfortable driving it to a place of work where people are on much smaller salaries- I'ld be embarrassed- should I let him have what he wants?

2007-07-09 05:16:17 · 27 answers · asked by emily_jane2379 5

My ex and i have been seperated for 5 years now i am with someone and have children by my recent boyfriend of 4 years. One day we would like to get married but my ex will not give me a divorce. what should i do??/

2007-07-09 05:14:49 · 13 answers · asked by lvly691 1

You are in a club in Vegas. It is a great night; you and your significant other (or spouse) have both been drinking, dancing and having a great time.

You've met some people at the club, strangers, but lots of fun. One of the women in that group is a lot fo fun and has been talking with both of you most of the night.

The night is getting late. The friendly woman from the group leans in close to your significant other (or spouse) and says she would like to go back to your hotel room with both of you and have a threesome.

Does your significant other (or spouse):

A. Say HELL NO

B. Say HELL YES

C. Say IT'S VEGAS, LET'S GO FOR IT

D. Say NO, but later regret it

PLEASE -- put your age, gender and marital status in your answer. AND PLEASE explain your answer.

2007-07-09 05:05:56 · 54 answers · asked by Raster T 1

We have been together 7 years and have a son together. If something were to happen to me, I know he and my son would be okay financially because I have left him everything. However, this would not be the case if something were to happen to him. His 2 brothers are his beneficiaries.

Though I have a good paying job, I still rely on his income to help pay our bills. I know we would struggle. And I also know that I would be the one to organize & pay for his funeral.

His argument is "My brothers aren't greedy. They won't leave you high and dry." I don't feel it should be necessary for me to ask them for anything.

Then he tells me, "You're so money hungry. How do I know when I die, you aren't going to spend it all on your new boyfriend?" WTF?! Maybe twice in the seven years we've been together have I asked him for money and it's never been for more than $20.

So am I wrong to be upset about this?

2007-07-09 05:01:42 · 29 answers · asked by Nicky G 2