Marriage & Divorce - 9 July 2007

Ive been married my wife for about 7yrs who suffers from depression and has a very low self esteem. Ive thought about leaving her many times but when I get close to actually doing it I start feeling guilty. We have tried counseling and
just cant seem to shake this state of mind that she is in. Most of her problems come from living in a dysfunctional family growing up and she has been through alot in her life. We are both in our early 40's and we have been drifting apart for a while. I am a very determined person but I am getting to the point of giving up. I have tried the nice approach....the tough Love approach...and somewhere in between to get her to snap out of it but nothing seems to work. Her friends have tried to help her as well but no luck. She has heard the "You have to Love yourself before you can Love someone else" speech many times. I dont know if I could leave her without feeling like I have abandon her but the time has come for me to do something....

2007-07-09 04:53:11 · 14 answers · asked by ManWithThePlan 2

Seems like there are a lot of people who stop talking to their old friends after they get married. Why is that?

2007-07-09 04:49:34 · 25 answers · asked by introversive_guy 3

Its not any harder to just throw it in the clothes hamper, is it? :0)

2007-07-09 04:40:01 · 14 answers · asked by angl2839 3

Me and my husband got married four years before.He kissed me in past but very few and now from last two years he never kiss me.our marriage life and sex life is good.But i always feel that there is something missing without a kiss.i asked him many times but he never reply with satisfactory answers.he says that he does not feel so.Please help me out

2007-07-09 04:32:16 · 17 answers · asked by Urvi 1

Is it the fact that no one really wants them the reason they want to wait or are ugly people easier to brain wash?

2007-07-09 04:23:22 · 14 answers · asked by Just_the_facts 1

whenever my husband and i have an arguement or even a slight tiff he,claims that he has been unhappy in the relationship and says he wants to leave,yet just before the tiff he keeps asking me if i love him.

2007-07-09 04:23:07 · 22 answers · asked by irene c 2

My husband received an email a few days a from ex. She emailed him twice, he responded at first with a "I'm sorry I don't remember you". She refreshed his memory that they dated for 2 months nearly a decade ago. She's emailed him 2 times since then and he hasn't responded. He asked for my help in coming up with a 'nice way' of telling someone "I'm not interested in talking to you". I can't for the life of me think of how to phrase that without sounding rude. Have any of you ever had to say something like this to an ex?

2007-07-09 04:20:46 · 26 answers · asked by razor_sharp_redhead 3

She recently told me she thought he was cute, and I recently found out he had the hots for another girl and ended up in couseling with his wife. I've noticed her checking him out at family sporting events. My wife tends to be a people watcher and says she does not have the hots for him. Should I be concerned she has an interest? Is attraction OK as long as its contained? I don't want to be paranoid and keep her in a plastic bubble. Your thoughts?

2007-07-09 04:20:29 · 7 answers · asked by Jake 1

2007-07-09 04:17:15 · 5 answers · asked by crazy.jossgirl 1

Ok so I've been with my wife for 7 years, 1 daughter 3 years old and things are rough at the moment. Relationship has not been easy, I work abraod alot and i'm not very often at the house.
Xmas 2006 my wife started talking to 'F' who became a really good ear for my wifes problems so much so that they had a Internet Affaire that led to her 'watching' him over the internet

Ok, i understood that my actions over the last years havent helped and we have tried to talk and communicate our way through the problems, apparently this affaire helped her and it made me realise what i can do to improve our situation. I understand why it happened, but when we talk about it she keeps explaining that nothing physical happened so its not as bad as it seems but she doesnt want to explain her feelings.

The problem is now she wants a "Trial Seperation" to think about how she really feels about me (and I think i know what that means!)

What do you guys think? Do i give her space?

2007-07-09 04:12:42 · 11 answers · asked by Explosive 2

I know I am only 16 and he is 18 but I think about marrying my guy every day, that is how much I love him...I dont want to get married right now but after college, I just want him to be the one I spend the rest of my life with...I think about marriage even though I know it is not a good time...Is that so bad...

2007-07-09 04:11:31 · 14 answers · asked by ~Lost N' Love~ 2

I am engaged to my fiance who is such a dashing prince and i know he is truly sent from heaven. we are so in love and as Christians we are supposed to not have sex until we get married. I try so hard and so far we are winning the battle of the flesh but sometimes the feeling get so strong. It feels like such an emotional torture. we do not live together but we live on the same road so we spend a lot of time together. I know god has the perfect plan for us and sex outside marriage is not part of it. i guess i just need some encouragements from other people who have gone through this successfully.

2007-07-09 04:08:45 · 38 answers · asked by Jesuslovesmeyesiknow 4

My wife and I have been together for 18 years and have 2 teenage children. We have had a turbulent marriage and she has had numerous affairs. I have never been unfaithful. I have always forgiven her but it gets more difficult after each affair.

We have now decided that we should separate and we want to keep things amicable. We have to sell our house before we can separate so we are both still living together but not sleeping together.

She has started seeing someone else while she is still living with me. I know that she can do what she likes when we separate but this feels cruel. We both care for each other deeply and I get very upset at times, like when I think about her with him, and when she stays the night with him. She can't/won't move in with him.

I have asked her if she can put him on hold until after we separate but she doesn't want to.

I don't know how I should be feeling and I don't know what to do. Can you please give me some advice?

Thank you

2007-07-09 03:54:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and i have been happily married 16 yrs and make love 10 to 12 times a month its very satisfying and enough for both of us but my best friend said that amount a month is way below average is she right?

2007-07-09 03:47:23 · 28 answers · asked by vicky d 1

My husband sometimes has random women hit on him. It usually does not bother me, but sometimes when these women are throwing themselves at him, I tend to get upset. He brushes it off and says it's not a big deal, there's nothing to worry about. But recently there has been a female that he worked with for a few weeks that keeps texting and calling him. He says she's just a friend but as a woman I can tell she wants more. How would you handle this situation? I trust my husband but still there is always that "what if" in the back of my mind.

2007-07-09 03:44:31 · 29 answers · asked by Amanda 1

2007-07-09 03:38:18 · 11 answers · asked by sivakamy 1

2007-07-09 03:36:52 · 13 answers · asked by sylmeyrous 1

2007-07-09 03:30:49 · 14 answers · asked by mfamus25 2

I know some people feel differently about this subject, but I wanted some opinions. Do you think it's inappropriate for someone to contact their ex after many years when you know they're happily married?

2007-07-09 03:27:04 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know that the answer is no, but what can you do when you have tried almost everything? I'm a very sexual person and I could go 7 days having sex.

We've been married for 14 years and our sex life has been less satisfactory most of the time. I like to try new positions and do some different stuff, but I think I'm not going anywhere. I tried to seduce my wife most the of the time with little success until she turns me off. We have had moments when she starts it, but I don't reject her, even though that I feel frustrated for events on a previous night. I have told my wife to seek professional help, but she refuses to go.

I've had the chance to go out with other gals, but I always hit the breaks. I've been wondering if just finding another person to release my sexual frustatations will help me. I'm confused and tired. I tried it again last night and this morning, I failed.

Please help me with any thoughts

2007-07-09 03:24:40 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous

i finish work at 4pm but my boss is away and i am here on my own should i just go home early??

2007-07-09 03:24:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

i tried cheating, but he forgave me.

2007-07-09 03:18:41 · 27 answers · asked by Julie S 1

If your husband recevied an email from a woman he dated 10 years ago (and she knew he was married) would you email her what's she wanting? If you would, what would you say?

2007-07-09 03:10:21 · 22 answers · asked by thelilred_whocould 1

Dont get me wrong im not defending cheaters at all cause i think its totally wrong but everybody says to someone who has cheated why get married if your gonna cheat well im sure these people dont plan on cheating when they first get married.

2007-07-09 03:07:15 · 8 answers · asked by vicky d 1

My husband and I share a MySpace account. He recently received an email from an 'old flame' from over 10 years ago. At first he lied to me about who she was (claiming he didn't want me to think there was anything to worry about) But after the truth came out, he told me he has no interest in communicating with her, they only went out a few weeks and he had no idea why she'd email him after 10 years of not talking. As his wife, do I have the right to respectfully email her and ask her why she felt the need to email my husband? How do you even ask that respectfully? I have no intention of insulting her or making accusations but being a woman myself, I can't imagine sending an email to a boyfriend I had 10 years ago, especially if I knew he was married. Would you email her? If so, what would you say?

2007-07-09 03:04:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-09 02:57:15 · 7 answers · asked by kristine-ave 1

It seams to me people are on here with questions like " is it o.k. to cheat" or " am i a *****" or " am i over reacting" and there will be 30-50 answers 90% stating the obvious, yet they pic a best answer of the 1 or 2 people who support thier wrong doing. To those people i say to you, you are only cheating yourself. if you want real advice then listen to everyone, and not just your supporter.

2007-07-09 02:47:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My two friends and I were having some drinks on Saturday night and decided to all book a Carribean cruise, which we did. When I woke up in the morning I was like omg what did I do? Yeah yeah, I was silly, but that's besides the point. Anyway my husband it totally fine with me going, I asked his permission before I booked it. But, now I'm feeling kind of guilty and really want him to come, he says no because it's a girl's trip. What should I do, now that I'm sober again I'm feeling really guilty and really wanted it to be him and I for both of our first cruises. He is totally fine with this, I'm the one that's feeling bad. I can cancel with a full refund and tell my friends I can't get the time off work, but then I'll feel bad too, I don't know what to do, any suggestions. I love my husband so much and really want to go with him the first time, but I love my friends too and like I've said he is fine with me going. What do you guy's think? Should I be feeling bad like this?

2007-07-09 02:37:41 · 11 answers · asked by Wondering 2

mine is a dog, and i just realized it.
problem is, i know i need to cut him loose, for my own good, but i dont want to hurt his feelings.
if you lady was ready to move on, would you rather her stick around in hopes that she may see somthing in you that she missed, or
just say, get out, and get it over with?

2007-07-09 02:35:11 · 15 answers · asked by Shake-Zula 3

what could his wife do to make you feel better about having to share him?

2007-07-09 02:31:47 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous