Why do people ask a question looking only to be looking for rationalization for a obvious wrong doing?

Question

It seams to me people are on here with questions like " is it o.k. to cheat" or " am i a *****" or " am i over reacting" and there will be 30-50 answers 90% stating the obvious, yet they pic a best answer of the 1 or 2 people who support thier wrong doing. To those people i say to you, you are only cheating yourself. if you want real advice then listen to everyone, and not just your supporter.

Answer 1

Amen.

The worse case of deafness it's a person that refuses to hear.

In many cases, if you tell people the thuth, they feel "offended' and not only you get thumbs down but also you could be reported if the asker feels that your answer is not what she/he wanted to hear.

That's why I clearly state in my profile: If you already know the answer to your question, don't ask; if you ask for honest advice... handle it; if you don't want a stranger's opinion about your life, do not post it on the internet.

Good luck

Answer 2

You also have the people who ask about getting back into a relationship, for example, after a divorce...Someone like that may be asking while they KNOW the right thing to do DEEP DOWN. They just need validation of the logic.

Sometimes though, when someone validates the emotional side, then it just fuels a person to keep steering in the wrong direction. A person can't necessarily help that, as it is easier to follow the heart rather than the head.

Yes, you have stupid people who will post something so tacky...mainly to get attention or get others ticked and stirred up. I think for the majority of us, we're trying desperately to separate emotion from logic.

Answer 3

OMG! I totally agree with you. But, it's not everyone. A lot of people are really looking for guidance. The rest of them are looking for someone to agree with them so they can somehow justify their past/present/future actions. They try to relieve the guilt, maybe. It's mostly the younger crown that still know right from wrong, but sometimes it just feels good for them to do the wrong. If you have to ask other people questions like this-you already know the answer before hand. You're just looking for justification.

Answer 4

HAHA.... I am guessing because half of them are 14 and the other half just wants someone to agree. I mean how many people repeat the same question 100 times until they get the answer they want!! 100 people tell them no and 1 tells them yes- and they go with the one.

I also love that if you ask about your baby's daddy and weddings you get a tons of answers.... but if you ask anything that requires real thought, research or craft- you get NO answers! LOL

Answer 5

Because feeling justified for a wrong doing somehow makes a person feel better (for the moment). However, if they are posting something bad they did, they already know its wrong and the guilt sticks.
I guess they best answer the one that makes them feel good - I know what you mean...Ive seen this too

Answer 6

denial ain't just a river in egypt?

Most are women in here and that confirms the age old description of the female psyche.

They are never wrong and will battle you to the death until you admit they are right. Facts are irrelevant.

old Guy

Answer 7

People look to ease their guilty consciences, it's how they sleep at night. They should make a separate section for those who are just looking to justify bad behavior, the 'tell me what I wanna hear' section, maybe?

Answer 8

I agree with you.....they always pick the answer they WANTED to hear. Not the good advice.

Answer 9

i agree completely
i think people already know the answer to their ?'s but like you said, they want the OK for the wrong answer

Answer 10

I always give it to the one with the least points..........But yeah, I know what you're saying.....I've taken my questions off, when their really hard on me.........