Seems like there are a lot of people who stop talking to their old friends after they get married. Why is that?
2007-07-09 04:49:34 · 25 answers · asked by introversive_guy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I stopped talking to my old friends because all they wanted to do was go out and get in trouble. Also I thought it was easier because me and my husband are very private people and in the beginning we noticed we started to have problems when our friends would come around and try to get us to do things that we didn't really want to do but did because of guilt trips and things. So we decided to just keep to our selves and pretty much dump our friends. Now we do have friends but they are married and have mutual feelings about what I just described.
2007-07-09 05:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by Christina G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many times, their 'old' friends are still single and expect the one who is now married to resume acting like he/she is still single, therefore putting stress on the married person. Examples: going to clubs or bars or hitting on the opposite sex. Also, after getting married, they have more responsibilities at home. It is ok for them to go out with their buddies once a week though. Or have their friends over for a cookout or movies or a game night. However, they should still talk to the friends they had all along before they got married. Just make sure that their friends will respect that they are taken and not try to push them for the 'single life'.
2007-07-09 04:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not that we forget about our old friends. Actually it is quite the opposite. It is impossible to stay in close touch with all of your friends from before you were married. That is just a part of life. When you give yourself to another person wife/husband that person is your best friend. You want to spend time with them..get to know them establish your marraige. It took me several months after I got married before I even wanted to start going out without my wife. Even then it wasn't for the reasons you think either. I miss my old friends, and when we get to talk/hangout it makes it that much more fun. If you have never been married it is hard to explain. We never forget me just grow up a little.
2007-07-09 04:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by Nicktacular 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people get married they tend to forget friends
because what is foremost in their minds is how to make
their marriage work. Also, they tend to be busy in their
work because of the added responsibilities like the payment
of bills, amortization on a house or a car. But, don't worry
maybe after some adjustments in their marriage they will
eventually find time to renew their friendships and social
life.
2007-07-09 05:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by Orlando M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually do not believe what you're doing is proper. I imply it's extra like you're dishonest in a way. If you exhibit your husband then that is extraordinary however as proper now this can be a mystery and that to me is improper. Think approximately what your doing and if this was once the wrong way round. If your husband was once doing this you could often be a bit of disillusioned. Its no longer valued at ruining your marriage. If you 2 had been meant to be in combination the whole thing could have labored out. Good good fortune. I desire you do the proper factor.
2016-09-05 20:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by willmon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many activities of singles aren't conducive to a successful marriage. In short if the things you are missing are things that would involve splitting the married couple particularly to go out and party it's probably not going to happen. The relationships can be maintained if the friends accept the fact that the married couple now has vows that they should respect.
2007-07-09 05:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by dano 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe with marriage there just isn't a lot of time between work family and spouses to hang out with old friends. I myself have a dear friend to me i have known for 20 yrs. In he last 3 yrs. we have went out one time. We talk on the phone and text each other a few times a week but we both have are own lives and don't have extra time that often. You have to make the choice to devote your time to your spouse and family (if you have family) or hang out with friends all the time. If your not ready to give up hanging with the boys all the time then please don't get married.
2007-07-09 08:05:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't usually do it on purpose though. Sometimes it's b/c they are pre-occupied with starting a new life and don't realize they're not allowing time for their friends. Other times it could be because they can't relate to their friends as much. I'm 21 and married and I unintentionally don't spend as much time with my friends. I also have a 2 yr. old and none of my previous friends are married or have kids so we have nothing in common now.
2007-07-09 04:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by Lilrose1013 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when people get married they want to spend time together and there families and if they have children, they need time too. It is unfortunate, but married people have a lot of people pulling at there attention. Knowing how to create a Balance between each other, kids, parents, other family and friends is hard. It usually takes a while for that couple to even realize whats going on, I wouldn't take it personally.
I dealt with this myself, and Literally had to write out a schedule who I was spending time with or called each day.
It was stressful for awhile, but eventually, I talked to the people pulling and arguing for my attention the most and told them what was going on and how I was dealing with it.
After awhile it worked itself out.
2007-07-09 05:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same reason when you graduate from HS and go off to college... you rarely hang on to all your friends from HS.... especially the ones that were a grade below you or one off to a different college.....
It's called moving on with life.
Just because people move on, doesn't mean they have forgotten their old friends.
2007-07-09 04:57:00 · answer #10 · answered by LittleFreedom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋