I am engaged to my fiance who is such a dashing prince and i know he is truly sent from heaven. we are so in love and as Christians we are supposed to not have sex until we get married. I try so hard and so far we are winning the battle of the flesh but sometimes the feeling get so strong. It feels like such an emotional torture. we do not live together but we live on the same road so we spend a lot of time together. I know god has the perfect plan for us and sex outside marriage is not part of it. i guess i just need some encouragements from other people who have gone through this successfully.
2007-07-09 04:08:45 · 38 answers · asked by Jesuslovesmeyesiknow 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh, by the way we have been together for 2years. and august 1st this year will be 1 year since we have been engaged. and no im not American. i am African but have been living in London for 15years. im 24
2007-07-09 04:31:43 · update #1
well as a young girl i plan to not have sex until marriage until sex since it is wrong in the eyes of god even though i have not reached your point yet , i just want to commend you on staying faithfull i hope i find a guy who has the same patience as your fiance. anyway dont give up now !! u have reached far just dont think of it ok just know in your heart that one day u will get to do it
2007-07-09 04:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I didn't know ppl like u existed... i kinda agree with the rest of these ppl who are sayin "Just Do It".. but i honestly think that since u've made it this far, hold on for a bit longer!
Still hang out with each other and stuff...but u have to resist the temptations. I know ppl r gonna hate me for this and so will i ; im saying against the stuff i believe in.
Try not to look so sexy. Don't show cleavage or wear revealing clothing. Like tank tops or mini skirts. Always stay in a public area.
I've said somethin im not proud off, but i have strong beliefs in christianity.
You know what u can do.. get married around christmas and then... well u know. Hope this helps!
2007-07-09 04:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think just asking this question is great the American thing though I hate were not like that not all of us anyway we live in a completely free nation were you don't look down on anyone for there choices FREE COUNTRY but i admit many people make the wrong ones stay strong and if your in love get married what are you waiting for don't mess it up stay strong and if you ever have any doubts check out this American page
http://yourstdhelp.com
2007-07-09 20:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by Joel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both committed to remaining virgins or celibate until marriage, then try to resolve to do so. If one of you gets weak, hopefully the other will be strong, and can remind the other that you both really want it to be this way. Just don't both be weak at the same time. LOL!!! Repeat the mantra: "We will wait !!!" over and over again.
Think of how special and wonderful it will be if you wait until your wedding night; and how happy you'll be that you waited.
You won't have any guilty feelings, and can always say that you waited until your wedding night, and that you were virgins when you got married.
As an added incentive, from the many entries posted here, so many say that their sex life was great when they were single, but then their sex life deteriorated after they got married. That just confirms to me that perhaps they should have waited until marriage to have sex.
2007-07-09 04:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by Tweety 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Enjoy other interests with each other movies, reading the bible together is a good thing and will keep you both within the guidelines seriously, talk, reason together about other things in life besides sex, cook together, just have fun and enjoy each other but without the temptation of sex getting in the way, i'm sure you can both win through this good luck.
2007-07-09 04:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep reminding yourself why you want to wait. Just think of how great it will be to be able to look your children in the eye someday and be totally honest about when you first had sex. You will not have anything to be ashamed of. You will not be a hypocrite when you tell them they should wait until they are married. If you keep thinking of that, it will help to remind you that you have a lot at stake and how much it really matters. I didn't wait. And now I feel like an *** telling my kids they should. Ya know? I think you are incredible to wait, I think that's awesome! I think both your parents should be very proud and you should be also! Just keep holding out, if you give in you will be disapointed in yourselves and that's not how you want to begin your lives together! Good luck and best wishes for your married life together!!
2007-07-09 04:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by christy j 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
omg u must be so strong!!! I dont want to sound insensitive but if it were me i would have to chain a good eld pair of metal knickers on and swallow the key (bit like tht movie robin hood men in tights) LOL!
but seriously if uv went this long and kept it together, u can make it the rest of the way! and just think of that honeymoon night..... it will be fireworks and soooo much more!
2007-07-09 05:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, just wait. Sex was created by God to make the couple "one". All the covenants of God are "sealed" with blood. Marriage, oneness, is also sealed by blood, and blood is shed on the wedding night and the couple have the oneness promissed by God. Why give this gift to another just because it feels good? Give it to each other with God, not against God. If you don't like the rules then argue with the one that made the rule, God.
2007-07-09 04:30:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly how you feel hun. I'm a mormon and we have the same values. (No sex before marriage) It's really tough. Try to stay in public places and avoid being in a room alone together. Just make sure you keep busy and try to keep your minds off sex. If that means no kissing than so be it! Just hang on in there, after the wedding it'll all be worth the wait!!
xxx Good luck!!
2007-07-09 04:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
YOu know what owuld be funny, if you get marriend and turns out you are nto sexually compatible and end up divorced....I am 100% Catholic and trus tme, God cares more about you doing good actions for others than "not having sex before marriage". besides, he never said that, tha tis just another add up of the church and some rules have to be updated.
Jus tlike you need experienc ein datin, you also need experience in sex.
But if you REALLY want to ge tthere a virgin, then you sgould try not to see each other so pften and avoid activities where you are just idle holding each other, cuz thats when the kisses start, do stuf flike bikin or running in the park or crap like that
2007-07-09 04:14:56 · answer #10 · answered by corporal.hicks 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you believe that sex is only for marriage, then you will be disappointed in yourselves if you don't wait. You will feel like you let God down and yourselves, too. Maybe if you pray together about it when you get the urge to have sex, the feeling will go away. Make an agreement that when the urge comes between you and your fiance, you automatically change what you are doing. God knows that we are human and have urges and forgives us if we ask Him to. We also know that if we can glorify Him in our actions, He is pleased with us. Pray that God will give you the strengh to be able to wait until the proper time.
2007-07-09 04:22:15 · answer #11 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋