I know I am only 16 and he is 18 but I think about marrying my guy every day, that is how much I love him...I dont want to get married right now but after college, I just want him to be the one I spend the rest of my life with...I think about marriage even though I know it is not a good time...Is that so bad...
2007-07-09 04:11:31 · 14 answers · asked by ~Lost N' Love~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would that be bad? I think it's good that you realize that you need to wait until you're done with college. If you're still together then, you'll know it's meant to be. Congrats on finding someone that you love so much! But I'd warn you- don't get too serious- still be a teenager. Spend time with your friends...
2007-07-09 04:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, thinking about marriage with a guy you're in love with is not a bad thing. I was 16 too once and I thought the guy I was with was "the one." We were together for 2 years, talking about what we were gonna do after college. Well, the first year of college, I guess he realized he wanted to "taste the rainbow of flavors out there." LOL, yes, I realize that's a Skittles commercial, but it's the best way I can explain it. Point is, I never married him, though we keep in touch, it's more of a "big brother-little sister" type thing, I could never go backwards or even forward with him, over the years, I've seen all sorts of fundamentals that aren't compatible with each other. Enjoy the love for now, you never know what life may throw at you, if you guys are meant to be, nothing and no one will get in the way.
2007-07-09 04:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down honey. I felt the same way at your age I got married at 19 now I am 25 and have a 4 year old in the middle of a divorce and a custody battle. The man I once knew so well and loved more than life itself, now I dispise with every ounce of my being. But your relationship is different right? It may be but you do have your entire life ahead of you. Make sure you go to college and get a career, if you still feel the same after all that life expereince, Go for it. The best of luck to you, but try to not get obsessed about it.
2007-07-09 04:18:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 05:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal to think about marriage at your age. Maybe if more people put some thought into it we wouldn't have so much divorce. Just remember 2 things. 1. Spend more time getting to know yourself than you do getting to know your guy. So many of us spend endless hours wanting to know everything about our guys likes and dislikes without knowing what we like or don't like. 2. Trust your instincts. So many of us ignore what our instinct tells us to do, or we let others tell us our instincts are wrong.
At 16 , 6 years or so of waiting can seem like forever I know, but at the same time marrying when your not ready or he's not ready can make even 1 year of marriage feel like an eternity.
Hugs from NC
2007-07-09 05:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by Kim K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's not a good idea. You aren't anywhere near grown up. You will change lots as a person by the time you are 19, then by the time you are 22, and even more by the time you are 25. At each of these stages, you will not be interested in the same type of guy, because you will mature and change.
2007-07-09 04:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think most everyone here has said something at least half way useful........
no one can stop you from day dreaming about marriage (you're a 16 year old girl, that's what you do)
but god please don't get pregnant, drop out of school, or actually marry this guy any time in the near future. you have the rest of your life ahead of you and trust me you want to doors as open as possible for when you are ready to settle down with Mr perfect.
2007-07-09 04:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by mike 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to think about marriage. All young girls dream about the day they will marry, and their fairytale wedding. You're wise to know to wait until after college. If you and he are still together then, you'll probably end up getting married.
Enjoy the dream, just don't ruin the reality.
2007-07-09 04:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by Tweety 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think all young girls think of marrying the guy they are with but what you dont know is once you get married they are totally different....married 6 years and now he comes home and tells me hi and then it is off to do his own thing...oh after he eats...and showers and lays his cloths on the floor and pretty much after you get married he is like a big kid...at times you will get so pissed and then other times he is okay.
2007-07-09 04:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No sweetie your not thinking bad.I am 16 and my guy is 19 but I think about marriage too and I am pregnant.But you just really like this guy so don't let him go if you like him and if you want marriage you should go for it.Don't let anyone tell you what you shouldn't do and bring you down.
2007-07-09 04:18:02 · answer #10 · answered by Hotmom1216 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋