My husband received an email a few days a from ex. She emailed him twice, he responded at first with a "I'm sorry I don't remember you". She refreshed his memory that they dated for 2 months nearly a decade ago. She's emailed him 2 times since then and he hasn't responded. He asked for my help in coming up with a 'nice way' of telling someone "I'm not interested in talking to you". I can't for the life of me think of how to phrase that without sounding rude. Have any of you ever had to say something like this to an ex?
2007-07-09 04:20:46 · 26 answers · asked by razor_sharp_redhead 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She KNOWS he's married - I guess that's the problem I have here. I can't help it, I still care about not being rude. Perhaps I need to stop caring, you're right.
2007-07-09 04:32:50 · update #1
He should continue to ignore. If she e-mails once again, he should respond by saying "Hi, I am happily married now, and my spouse and I have agreed not contact people we used to date, so I'm sorry, but out of respect for my wife, I really can't answer your e-mails."
That's my suggestion.
2007-07-09 04:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by btpage0630 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's not a matter of being rude. He simply needs to let her know, in no uncertain terms, that he's married. Thus he has neither the time nor the interest. Should she persist, that could be considered stalking. And she can then be strongly advised on that matter as well. But since she has not responded further, perhaps she's gotten the message.
2007-07-09 11:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he just ignores her, 9 times out of 10 people will give up and realize the other person isn't interested.
If he really wants to say something, however, there's no real way to say it without being blunt. But something like, "I understand we dated at one point, but I am happily married and am not interested in rekindling anything. Good luck to you." or something like that and she should get the hint.
2007-07-09 11:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by Yogi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about, I am glad that you remember me, but now it is a little to late to try to rekindle something that we had over a decade ago. I am now happily married to the love of my life, and I would prefer that you not contact me any longer. Any further contact from you would be considered spam, and I would get rid of it accordingly. Then spam her address the next time she emails.
2007-07-09 11:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about,"I appreciate you searching me out but I'm currently in a serious committed relationship and I hope that you are able to find the same for yourself. Best of luck in your endeavors." Hows that? Sounds nice and not rude and yet a final fair well?
2007-07-09 11:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically he needs to block from receiving her emails & not worry about being nice. A "nice" response is still a response & since he truely just wishes to discontinue contact with this woman because he doesn't remember her or wish to stay in contact with her, he needs to just block her.
2007-07-09 11:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by martiek7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband ex used to call us all the time(she close to his family somehow although they all say they hate her, that is how she gets are number) she would say she loved him and needed him and so on. i tried to be nice by simply saying you know we are together know and i understand you bother had your relationship but that is over and you need to let him go. that did not work over and over i asked her this . then one day he went to jail and she wrote him(2 yrslater this is) that she missed him and needed him and couldnt live without him blah blah blah and even if he loved me if he would atleast be with her one night. this made me pist and i went to where she was saying and she lied and i showed her the letter and asked why would a person want this when he is in love. so i held her down and cut her hair off. lol she hates me for that but she no longer loves him and she will not talk to him with out my permission and if you want to know we actually are friends now. so i say being nice gets you know where. but trying wont hurt i guess
2007-07-09 11:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something like this will come off rude to anyone who doesnt want to hear it. "Im not interested in talking to you" seems sufficient. If that doesnt get the point across then opt for stronger words adding that he is married and doesnt desire any further contact under no circumstance.
2007-07-09 11:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by mrsNO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can answer this one! I had the same thing happen with my husband---his ex-wife sent a little "secret" email to my husband to get the contact going again with him, I suspect she has been really slow about moving on with her life.
My husband lets me read his email site (he volunteered this) and I saw her email----with his permission I ANSWERED HER. I would have loved to see her face when she got an answer from me! We havent heard from her again.
Dont worry about being rude when an ex is not being respectful toward you--hey, she wants to get it going again with your husband!! Good luck.
2007-07-09 11:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by skyward 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He could put this...I am married now but it sounds like you have a good life...that is great...listen out of respect for my wife I really cant be emailing other women..it just isnt right. Hope you understand.
2007-07-09 11:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋