i tried cheating, but he forgave me.
2007-07-09 03:18:41 · 27 answers · asked by Julie S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you can be so cold as to cheat, then telling him you don't want to be with him should be no problem for you.
2007-07-09 03:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lila 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you cheated AND he forgave you. Sounds like you've got a man who loves you very much. Why would you want to leave him? Didn't you make a vow to stick it out for better or for worse? You sound like you are being awful selfish. It is hard to find a man who loves you so much that he would take you back no matter what you do. Trust me, it will be very hard to find someone else like that. Even if you don't 'feel' like you love him anymore, you can find that love again. You just have to really try. Love is an action. It ebbs and flows with the seasons of your life. You have to put hard work into any relationship. I know you may feel the grass looks greener on the other side but once you get there, you will find it too needs tending.
2007-07-09 03:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well there comes a time in every persons life that we sometimes feel that things aren't the best between a couple. If your husband fully understands that you no longer love him there is many different ways you can tell him that you no longer want to be with him. First if you have any children you could discuss with him that you've been trying to make the best out of things for them, but you realize that they're growing up and can deal with the situation. Slowly but not harming him you can start to hint him that things are going sour. If that doesn't work you can just talk to him privately and tell him something like "Things between us aren't the same, but i do still care for you, just not in the same way as before." Although these are just some examples of what i would personally do, every situation is different. All i can say is if he truly loves you he will let you go. Love is letting the person you love be happy even if its not with you. Good luck and i hope this helped. ^_^
2007-07-09 03:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by elena 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The best way is to tell him the truth as if he forgave you for cheating he must really love you and i dont think there is anyother way as you have already tried the worst thing you can do
2007-07-09 03:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by Mandy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you're some catch, I'll say. You tell him that you are not planning on keeping the vows you made when you got married. You tell him that you are not into working on the marriage to make it better for both of you. You tell him you are selfish and want what you want so you are leaving. Then, do it. He will be so much better off without you. What an attitude of entitlement you have!
2007-07-09 03:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You tried cheating??? Um.. ok.
The least you could do is tell him and go out of it with some respect.
Talk to him. If you really have been married for 13 years, I think you can handle talking.
Then have some papers drawn up.
It is not that hard. Use some brains.
2007-07-09 03:25:10 · answer #6 · answered by lifeiscake 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a lawyer. Do you have kids? If you don't just tell him you want a divorce. If there are kids involved, I think the situation needs to be handled more delicately. End result is you have to tell him you want to leave him.
ps- was the affair good for you?
2007-07-09 03:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by ccnice1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, the passive/agressive route didn't work for you? No big surprise there. Guess you're going to have to be an adult and talk to him directly about wanting to break up with him, instead of doing things (like cheating) that you hope will anger him enough to get him to break up with you.
2007-07-09 03:23:44 · answer #8 · answered by stmichaeldet 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my you are a coward (cheating on him to hope he leaves you). If you have tried to work things out and can't then leave. It is best for him to if you break it off clean. Hopefully you don't have children.
The man sounds to good for you, I would have packed your bags and called a cab after you cheated.
Good luck.
2007-07-09 03:25:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best thing to do is be upfront. Tell him how you feel. If he loves you he will understand. If someone loves you they are willing to do what is best for you even if it means losing you. Cheating is never the answer. It only hurts everyone involved.
2007-07-09 03:26:44 · answer #10 · answered by Kaila H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is not a good way to end the relationship. After this long you should have the respect to end it in a adult and honest manner. He must not be ready.
2007-07-09 03:22:16 · answer #11 · answered by corryglory 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋