Marriage & Divorce - 9 July 2007

I found out my husband kept old love letters, photos (some are nudes) and momentos in a sealed box marked "personal" in the very back of our closet. These items are of good times spent with his gorgeous ex-girlfriend. The girlfriend broke his heart into a million pieces and she royally screwed him over for an entire year while he kept forgiving her over and over again for all of the lies and cheating. He finally broke up with her 2 years ago. I thought he was over her. We've been married for for 1 1/2 years.

He sees nothing wrong with this at all! He says he does not open the box and can't seem to give me a good reason why he keeps this box in our closet. He won't get rid of the box. He does not keep nude photos and love letters of his many other ex-girlfriends, only her.

Am I over reacting? Should I be concerned about this? What would you do?

2007-07-09 16:47:13 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous Joe 1

I have been dating a man going thru the tailend of his divorce. I am not the reason fo rthe divorce-btw. It has been 3 months of casual dating and we agreed together that he was not ready for a committment, but that we really enjoy each others company and would like to hang out when he has the time. He works 7days on & 7 days off. On his 7 days off, he has his son full time for the summer. Also, he just got word 3 weeks ago that his hearing has been postponed, per his lawyer trying to commit suicide. His Ex is just a nightmare and taking as much money from him in the meantime. I have started to progress in my feelings for him and he has gone into a depression. So I don't hear from him in days, but when I do, it is so nice to talk. But I think I want more now & I know he can't.
I have decided to step back from him. I want to see him once he is thru the divorce, but for now, I need more & I don't want to add to his stress. How do I break up a non-committment & let him know I care?

2007-07-09 16:38:10 · 9 answers · asked by Mitch 2

I'm married, and recently I became really attracted to another guy and have fallen big time for him. It feels like I've started something with him, but we haven't crossed a line yet.... He's told me that he would wait for me but he needs to know as he doesn't want to be hanging around all this time for nothing.

I told him I was leaving my husband, but that its not something that is going to happen overnight.. there are things to sorted out and arrangements to be looked at - he understands all this - and has now said that he wants to be just friends and needs the time apart so he can get sort him out - and that if when I'm ready he's still around.. then maybe!!!

Can we still be friends... did I get played some how or have I done all the playing... I can't help like feel I've been made a fool about by this other guy... let alone what I've done but haven't done if that makes sense to my husband?? Is he worth still being friends with.. or should I just cut my loses??

2007-07-09 16:37:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Basically me and my girlfriend would like to get married so that Americorps would allow me to spend time with her during the breaks instead of having to go to relatives/family. Basically they pay off the travel fairs for it so I heard. Otherwise I'd have to travel for an entire day from So.California to Oregon if I go to my parents home for break. Which in gas now is a good 200-400 bucks. Plus by the time break comes around parents may sell my car.

I'm joining Americorps to help people but also to save money for college and starting a life with my girlfriend. We're both 19 and know we want to stay together for life (been going out 4 years).

Anyways troubles are for example, her insurance would be canceled if she did get married, Unfortunantly the Insurance from Americorps doesnt extend to family,(cheap bastards) and the dont allow use to spend breaks with Fiance's.

It's a pain in the butt cause she is forgetful about trying to fix stuff and I want to spend more time w/ her.
Help?

2007-07-09 16:21:35 · 6 answers · asked by rezruf 3

I caught my husband out on a lie the other day, then another a couple of days after. He tells me little lies often and then makes me think it is in my head. We are in marriage counseling for the second time and I'm really putting in 110% to get this marriage to last and work. I feel betrayed by him and just don't know if my counseling is a waste of time. We have been together for nearly 5 years. It truly has been a struggle from about week 8 into our relationship but I have stayed and stuck it out because I truly do love him and see he has some really beautiful qualities that I love. Now I'm growing tired of trying and getting let down when I think all is well and we are starting to make progress. It was a couple of days ago with the lie episodes. Its nothing like he is cheating etc, little lies. I just don't appreciate the fact that I'm being 100% he is still telling little lies. I feel like its the principal of it all. Now I just can't stand the look of him. What do you's think??

2007-07-09 16:15:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

This happened to a friend and I wonder how many other people have gone through something similar. After being married to her nearly a decade and fathering her child, he decided he was gay. I hold no judgment... I am only curious.

2007-07-09 16:04:42 · 6 answers · asked by getusedtoit 4

I am a mother of four that has been a stay at home mom for 13 years now. I am suppose to be going back to school this fall. I am going back to become a LPN it has always been a dream of mine to become a nurse. The problem I'm running into is that everyone, but my kids think that I am being selfish. They fill this way because we are in a very bad financial situation right now and they think I should get a job instead of going back to school. My husband's family is really putting me down and making me fill bad for it, they say I'm putting too much on my husband. That he shouldn't have to be the only one that works. I think that they aren't seeing the bigger picture, if I went to work tommorow it would have to be a minimum wage job and after I finish school I would have a very well paid profession, one that I can be proud to have. ur probably wondering what my husband thinks, to be honest I think he fills the same as his family does. Please help, tell me what u'd do in my situation.

2007-07-09 16:01:10 · 10 answers · asked by earthwater_76 2

Does anyone stay faithful anymore?

2007-07-09 16:00:30 · 18 answers · asked by getusedtoit 4

We have absolutley nothing to talk about. There is no subject that can be brought up that doesn't start a fight, so much of the time we spend together is in silence. Divorce is out of the question. I can't afford to live on my own yet.

2007-07-09 15:58:18 · 24 answers · asked by fuzzbuzz514 2

2007-07-09 15:49:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you found your man had been calling prostitutes, by phoning numbers on his phone bill, what would you think? If he swears it is just curiousity and he has never been to one, and you know he hasnt had the oppurtunity....would you believe him? Would you stay? Guys? Have you ever called them just to ask what they do?

2007-07-09 15:46:44 · 12 answers · asked by bluegirl6 6

What is considered kidnapping? My good friend is going to leave his wife. He told her he wants a divorce. Divorce papers have not been filed yet. Does the mother have the right to leave the country with the child without telling the father? Does it matter what state they live in? They live in TX and she wants to take thier son to the Philippines. He found 2 plane tickets in her car. He wants custody. Should he go to the airport w/ Police and catch her in the act and charge her with attempted kidnapping to win custody of his son, or should he let her take him and then charge her with kidnapping after they are already gone?

2007-07-09 15:33:53 · 8 answers · asked by misspoo4 2

Well in a { Nutshell } -- My best friend since first grade (i'm 23 now) Had an affair with my wife for a year!! During which he was still coming over acting like nuthing was going on.... Once i found out i FLIPPED out on both of them ... Since My wife and I have a 4 year old son together we will always be in contact ;( But for my (so called brother) the last thing i told him was to BURN in hell!!!.. Am i wrong for washing my hands of this back stabbing &%$#er??? What would you do?? =P

2007-07-09 15:26:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-09 15:23:19 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-09 15:18:30 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

ie store, online, club...

2007-07-09 15:15:53 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

to partying every week. He is a wonderful father and great provider. We have a great home financially are doing ok! For some reason he feels the need to go out with his buddies about 2-3 times a week to have a few beers he comes home about 10-11 o'clock. I have tried for years not say anything about it so we wouldnt fight but now it seems like this is all we do only because i'm calling his cell like crazy to get his butt home. I have even threatened to imbarrass him in front of his friends. Every Saturday he apologizes and says he wont go out anymore but then in the same week here comes Wed. and out he goes. I"M madly in love with my husband but dont think hes in love with me anymore when i confront him he says I'm crazy hes in love and the sex well thats about once or twice a month he says I'm to blame for that because I rejected him so often he got used to doing without it. Is my marriage over? He also told me as soon as he walks in the door i start complaining about everything.

2007-07-09 15:14:50 · 14 answers · asked by mmedina96 4

i have known her for 14mo and she is a good friend!

2007-07-09 15:09:16 · 4 answers · asked by sweet p 1

2007-07-09 14:50:12 · 26 answers · asked by ~fullofluv~ 2

even though I am married I feel so lonely
i give all I can and get nothing back I long for some affection
to go out together to make love everything
at this rate I might as well be single and back in the dating scene
but strange as it is when he does do it on rare occasions its great but
advise please any males want to share some affection with me..........

2007-07-09 14:31:27 · 22 answers · asked by Jeni W 2

We have gone through a very acrimonious split, and are currently divorcing. Unfortunately he now has terminal cancer. I am sad, I just dont want to go to his funeral because I hate his family for what they have done to me and our children. If he dies before the divorce is finalised, is he still my legal responsibility? Because if I take control of the funeral arrangements, it will be family only to protect my childrens feelings, knowing his family it will become a three ringed circus. We were married for 25 years.

2007-07-09 14:06:31 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-09 13:53:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

why is it when a man comes in late from work, he is accuse of cheating?what can he do to stop this?

2007-07-09 13:45:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got marreid at 16 years old which in turn made my husdand who is 22 my legal care taker we are getting a divorce and i want to know if i will need a new care taker i already have a child.

2007-07-09 13:44:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a normal muslim and so is my husband. But since we came to Australia some muslim families want to mix with my family through my husband whom I consider extreme (their wives wearing borkhas/hijabs and husbands with long beards and very dominating). I already have friends who are normal white Australians and also from various nationalities and we go along very well. We invite them to our house and we go to theirs because by background we are not conservative, rather very liberal people. Now the problem is that when my husband invites these muslims to my house their wives have a tendency to try to take me into their groups by saying my husband is good friends with their husband so we should be good friends too. But I do not like them or their lifestyles and I am happy the way I am. Tell me what to do to get rid of these people and what should I say to stop them from coming to my house?

2007-07-09 13:41:18 · 9 answers · asked by love 2008 2

I`M REALLY HOT,NICE AND LOOK NICE IN HOT PANTS.

2007-07-09 13:26:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is turning 21 soon, and besides getting him drunk I don't know what to do. O want to do soemsthing special

2007-07-09 13:23:35 · 7 answers · asked by Queen_of_Nice 2

I was just wondering if most people believe in soul mates- and with this soul mate they will never fight or be hurt emtoionally or grow apart. If they married their "soul mate" marriage and the relationship would be easy and require little to no work? What do ya say people?

2007-07-09 13:21:54 · 15 answers · asked by girl 3

most answers people give are-DIVORCE-DIVORCE- even when it is a minor problem that can easily be worked through. Why is there so much intolerance and impatience when it comes to the vows. Breaking up a family isn't a big deal anymore. Are we chasing a picture perfect hollywood movie or soul mate?

2007-07-09 13:19:30 · 25 answers · asked by girl 3

I'm a recently divorced 29-year old. My ex and I were separated for two years. When we separated, she was in her first year of medical school, and I was in my first year of law school.

I flipped out. I passed my classes, but I was an emotional disaster. I only kept working out of anger.

Now I'm calmer, I've graduated and am studying for the bar. But I feel that I've given the best years of my life to anger and my ex. I haven't dated much over the last two years except for a few flings.

Friends are starting to have kids, and I think I royally screwed my life up. I'm working hard for the bar, and it doesn't seem that anything will change soon. And I haven't had any real female companionship in a long time. I feel too old to do anything but work, like a slave. But I realize I have a life ahead of me, I just can't see it ever being any good. Any thoughts?

BTW, I've been in treatment for depression since the separation.

2007-07-09 13:17:06 · 28 answers · asked by thinwhiteduke 2