even though I am married I feel so lonely
i give all I can and get nothing back I long for some affection
to go out together to make love everything
at this rate I might as well be single and back in the dating scene
but strange as it is when he does do it on rare occasions its great but
advise please any males want to share some affection with me..........
2007-07-09 14:31:27 · 22 answers · asked by Jeni W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if he only takes part in the marriage occasionally it's not worth it. if you have talked to him and given him a chance to fix the situation and he hasn't, move in - don't waste your life feeling lonely.
2007-07-09 14:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is a bit emotionally closed off and is likely the kid of guy that is not the romantic type all of the time. That is hard. I have been in relationships with 2 different women that were like that. I would imagine that there are some other circumstances affecting him. There is really only 3 options.
1. Talk and work it out
2. Seek Counseling
3. Decide if you need to move on
In the meantime. Big hug for you! It will get better.
2007-07-09 21:39:26 · answer #2 · answered by Wise One 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are married, you should never be lonely or long for attention, or think twice about why you are not fulfilled or getting the attention you desire. People make a million excuses why they don't have the time or energy; kids, career, bookeeping, you name it. The number one thing is, if you feel that you are being neglected then LET HIM KNOW! Don't hold back, be upfront about everything; allow yourself the chance to hear perhaps the things he's been meaning to tell you, it may surprise, it may please, but either way, you will FINALLY know what's going on and you can then make a clear strategy from that point. If you want to talk email me at perrygreenwich@yahoo.com
2007-07-09 22:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by perrygreenwich 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Right now, in my marriage, i am so lonely it hurts. By far the hardest thing i have ever done. But it will get better. Does your hisband know how you feel? If he does, and doesn't change, be persistent, give him an ultimatum. People need to realize how they are making their spouses feel, you can't do it back to him because you don't want him to feel like you don't care, right? Well, your gonna have to if you want your marrriage to work, 1 person cannot make both sides of this thing work. The marriage is a sacred bon life and God has given us, and people take it for granted too much these days. No one should be lonely in their marriage, and enough people shouldn't where we shouldn't be able to find others so easily. It's a wrench in the workings, and most people don't realize what they are doing. let him now, as i did my wife, and tell them. they may get annoyed, mad even, but it will sink in. thats all i got.
2007-07-09 21:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by g_saiyaman2099 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to be talking to your mate about how u feel and ask him for affection instead of trying to find it with someone else.
End your relationship with your mate before u go elsewhere.
Nobody deserves to be cheated on and if u do it, karma will come back to bite u in the butt.
I was in a lonely marriage as well. No conversation, and after years of it, I left even though I loved him with all my heart. We just grew apart.
If he wont compromise with u, then its time to get out of it. Nobody can live like that. Its not fair to u.
Good luck.
2007-07-09 21:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know where you are coming from. I lived with that for 15 years and did try counseling, it didn't work for us. I strongly suggest counseling, but both have to be willing and give it their all for it to work. In the meantime, an affair is the wrong answer. Try getting into a female group; book club, stamping/card making group, start selling Mary Kay or Avon. Anything to get you out of the house and make friends.
2007-07-09 21:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by msims52 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that many men would share some affection with you. But you need to have a heart-to-heart with your husband about this before you start trolling for guys on Yahoo! Maybe he is working hard and is tired at night. Maybe he feels the same way you do, but can't communicate it.
Talk to him. If that doesn't work. Talk to a preacher or counselor first. Talk to your mom or other older women and get their advice before you start messing aroung with the roughnecks on Yahoo!
2007-07-09 21:36:26 · answer #7 · answered by Blade_III 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't go looking for someone else until you talk to your husband. I know from experience. Tell him your lonely. Tell him exactly what you're feeling. Because once you cross the line in a marriage, its hard to get past it. Tell him you want to seperation. This will wake him up. He will then ask you why, or he will then be truthful with his real feelings. Does he come home right after work? If he does he may too be in a slump. COMMUNICATION please. Don't do anything until you talk to him openly and honestly!!!!
2007-07-09 21:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by Laura B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my wife.She wouldnt show affection and wasnt interested in sex.We went to counseling and everything was great for awhile then it went back to the way it was.Its a miserable life to live not to be able to get fulfillment from your marriage.Shes now my ex-wife.
2007-07-09 22:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by catfishhunter 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to find a common interest. Start with taking an interest in things he enjoys. The intimacy will come later.
Good Luck.
2007-07-09 21:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by Tim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋