2007-07-09 15:18:30 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband doesnt drink with his friends. If he drinks, it usally at home with me. Sometimes he goes out with a friend, or goes to a friends house but he is always home at a decent time.
2007-07-09 15:24:34 · answer #1 · answered by PenguinsWife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Linda, noticed you have 3 questions posted all to do with your husband drinking with friends. As you will see from other people's answers your husband's drinking habits are excessive.
I left my second husband because he was out Tuesday - Friday nights drinking with his friends. On Saturday he would go to the Pub at 10.30 am to run the 'Chook Raffles', selling tickets to the men in the Bar, drawing the numbers out and giving the chickens to the winners. All for his Golf Club coming home somewhere between 7.00-10.00pm. Then on Sunday he was up at 6 am to go to Golf and drink with his friends after.
I was at home with my daughter, no money, just home.
Then he was elected onto the Golf Club Committee that met Monday nights with friends and drinks of course.
He was a great person and a good Dad. He just was not there at home so I left. We remained friends right up until he died.
There are just some men who are 'Men's men'. What this means is that they prefer company of males more than they do of females for whatever reasons, drinking being the main connection. And they are not Gay.
For you, I think you need to ask yourself if you are willing to live your life under his 'drinking with friends regularly' rules or not? If he is abusive towards you or hits you, then you need to ask yourself if you want to stay with him.
Only you have the answers. Good luck.
2007-07-09 22:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by sag_kat2chat 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well my ex used to get pay, drop money off to me, and meet his friends down at the bar. He comes home just as broke, and drunk as a shrunk, he can't even talk, all he did was fall asleep on the couch, this was every weekend, until I ask him to get help or the marriage is over, he felt he didn't have a problem, so I left him living in the bottle.
2007-07-16 09:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you a story.When I was a newly wed my husband would go out on Friday night with the boys,and I would ***** and carry on.Ever week end was spent being mad until Sunday afternoon,we would make up.I try ed reverse physiology and it worked.Instead of getting mad I would just tell him OK.When he would say I wont be very late.I just said OK.He started coming home earlier and as the years pasted he quit going at all.You see men are just big little boys and they want to show you that you can't tell me what to do.but, if you don't care than it's not fun anymore.
2007-07-15 16:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After you get married the drinking and getting drunk stops. You find other things to do together. Maybe your husband has a problem.
2007-07-17 20:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine used to call on the way home after work - then go out with them once a month and get rat arsed!
He stopped doing that and joined the Special Constabulary - so now is out 3 or 4 nights a week, sometimes more!
Please look at your marriage carefully - ours has now broken down - and with hindsight the first signs were years ago - when he preferred to spend more times with mates than family. Be strong and don't be blinkered by "love".
2007-07-15 04:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by LilyB7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sigh.....my answer is no, not at all. Those days are long gone. Plan some romantic get-a-ways for those weekends, then the time will not be available for him to run with his buds. Usually the ones that like to run around and party are those who are not so much into giving up that life style if you know what I mean. Good Luck!
2007-07-17 19:07:30 · answer #7 · answered by ten151x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Used to. The one that sent no Im married to a grown up man HAS IT RIGHT. I put up with a drunk for 34 years. Now I cant believe I did that only by the grace of God. He stopped drinking about a couple of years ago. It is so sad to put up with someone that drinks and goes to bars. I fell for you. Put a stop to it now. Take care
2007-07-17 10:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by jj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband did these things all the time he didn't realize how immature it was especially when he had a family at home wanting to spend time with him. after 9 years i left him for another man who spends time with us and has not gone out drinking with friends once since we have been together(3years). A lot of men go out and drink-I personally think it wrong when your married or have a family, i mean if you want that freedom and single lifestyle you shouldn't of gotten married.Men are selfish and don't think about how it hurts their wife and family.
2007-07-17 09:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by lsp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not mine. My husband goes out with his friends on Friday's to a steakhouse usually, or to Wild Buffalo Wings to watch a pride fight, but he doesn't drink, and both him and his friends invite me. I usually go and have a good time, but sometimes I tell him to go and have fun. The latest he has come him is 11 or so, by then his friends are tipsy and he just wants to come home. So, no not all men.
2007-07-09 22:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by Bragg Wmn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋