I'm married, and recently I became really attracted to another guy and have fallen big time for him. It feels like I've started something with him, but we haven't crossed a line yet.... He's told me that he would wait for me but he needs to know as he doesn't want to be hanging around all this time for nothing.
I told him I was leaving my husband, but that its not something that is going to happen overnight.. there are things to sorted out and arrangements to be looked at - he understands all this - and has now said that he wants to be just friends and needs the time apart so he can get sort him out - and that if when I'm ready he's still around.. then maybe!!!
Can we still be friends... did I get played some how or have I done all the playing... I can't help like feel I've been made a fool about by this other guy... let alone what I've done but haven't done if that makes sense to my husband?? Is he worth still being friends with.. or should I just cut my loses??
2007-07-09 16:37:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
here we go again, read my question from the past and you'll see where I'm coming from. I too was the one at home caring for the kids while she was out "just talking with the boys" let me tell it to ya like this, where do you want to be? if you want to keep your husband and put the past behind you you need to know that in time it will tear the two of you apart, you need to come clean with him and let him make that call, or you may want to run off with your new found love and end up within a few years alone anyways. your best bet to do it tell your husband what and how it happened, and let the love lead you two where it will. knowing you are the one that crossed the line for letting yourself get that close to another, if he wants to work it out you have one good man. and yes to getting rid of your friend, he's not playing you, your playing your husband, and your friend will play you in time if you keep him around that long.
I pushed my cheating G/F of 20 years out to the street and ended up with both houses (one was our rental) and the kids, she lives in her mothers garage with the dog, yes it can be done, and without a layers help.
2007-07-09 17:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sugar, you didn't get played. You played him and your husband at the same time. If you didn't want to be with hubby, you wouldn't still be there. You keep thinking that you can ease your way out of the marriage, but it's not that easy. You're waiting on him to give you a reason to leave, but he hasn't really done anything wrong. You just aren't happy with what you have.
Now, about being friends....you'll never be able to be friends with him. Any time there is anything friendly between you two, you will both wonder "what if?"
Crap or get off the pot.
Do yourself, your husband, and Mr. other guy all a favor and just make up your mind. You can't be honest with either of the two guys if you aren't honest with yourself first.
2007-07-10 00:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by less_nrg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only one getting played is your husband.
No you can't be friends with this guy, not with the attraction you feel, it's impossible.
You are the one destroying your marriage, but your husband will be the one that loses his house, his kids and anything else he has.
Plus get socked for child support, so you can run off with your new man.
Hope your proud of yourself, f u c k ing over your husband like that.
2007-07-09 23:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "crossed the line" when you betrayed your marriage vows. You've messed it up! You'll lose both of them and when you start over, you'll hopefully be wiser.
2007-07-09 23:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS A USER AND A LOSER,AND YOUR NOT MUCH BETTER.I FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR HUSBAND.
2007-07-09 23:56:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋