Marriage & Divorce - 9 July 2007

My husband and I have been married for 12 years. We've had some great times and some really sucky times. The entire relationship can be described as a roller coaster ride. I think I'm ready to get off of the ride. We seem to have no conversation, no physical intimacy or do any fun activities together anymore. At one time we had all of these things, until his porn and cybersex addiction became such a problem. He says he will never do it again, and I want to believe him, but I just have no more trust in him. He has said, "I will not do this anymore," several times. I've always given him another chance, once again to discover he had not given up his addiction. I cannot get past this. I really don't know if I even want to try to anymore. I just want to be happy, and I keep having this reoccuring feeling that I need to move on with the rest of my life without him. I feel like I'm stuck between the past and the future, but am unable to live happily in the present. What should I do?

2007-07-09 13:12:31 · 14 answers · asked by rachel 1

She is 37 and she is getting too desperate, and though she is a "little" overweight, she is really pretty. She is Belizean and has two kids, me and my older brother, both teenagers. Or do you you know anyone, or anywhere she can go to to get help? Thanks in advance.

2007-07-09 13:00:09 · 18 answers · asked by 2cute4u 3

2007-07-09 12:59:23 · 6 answers · asked by robd 1

I want to hear from woman only on this one.

We've been married for 15 years, together for 18 years. We've had problems from the start. I asked her if she had met someone and instead of saying "no", she paused momentarily and then said "why would you ask me that?"

I'm leaning toward that meaning that she has met someone else. Am I wrong about this?

2007-07-09 12:53:19 · 16 answers · asked by Avatar 4

2007-07-09 12:36:05 · 24 answers · asked by Alisha 3

please, this is not jocking question.

2007-07-09 12:36:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

When you realized that your spouse was the one for you, when you had fallen so incredibly in love, how did you view this person?

2007-07-09 12:34:19 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

on the bed or in the bathroom.

please help me,this is not jocking Q.

2007-07-09 12:31:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

In my marriage I have experienced getting yelled at, told to shut up , i've seen things hit and thrown around the house, and I've had things thrown at me. I have been told that based on intimacy in my marriage my husband does not know if he would marry me again. I feel so much inside that my husband does not love me and these things make me feel so bad and worth nonthing. I have asked my husband if he loves me and he says he does. H is reply confuses me because of how he treats me at times, so I don't beleive him when he says he loves me . Since i 'm doubting him i always feel so much axiety around him. This anxiety fmakes me want to ask him everything that he does, like when he's on the computer, or phone calls that he makes . It drives him craz y. My husband says i have no self confidence because of these behaviors, but i feel I don't have confidence because of him. What is going on here? How can I just focus on me and get my self confidence back not to worry about him?

2007-07-09 12:00:30 · 9 answers · asked by ilih2006 1

2007-07-09 11:56:03 · 9 answers · asked by ace 1

My husband cheated on me with a young girl and got her pregnant .I left him and moved about 15 hours away he has sinced moved down here to try to work things out for are children .At first i thought we may be able to work out but now it seems i am unsure but here is the even more complicated part i had started seeing this guy before my husband came down here and i really like this guy but i know it is more of just something to do because i know he is in the military and will be leaving next year so do you think i should leave this guy alone or should i leave my husband alone or should i leave them both alone?

2007-07-09 11:52:28 · 15 answers · asked by hcj25 2

I have been married for three years and I still don't know what it is my husband really wants from me. I try so hard tofigure it out that it is literally driving me crazy. At times I feel loved and at times I feel like he hates me...What am I to do???

2007-07-09 11:44:14 · 19 answers · asked by nevaeh 1

I've been with my fiance' for almost 2 years now, but the whole time I've still been married. I was never able to afford a divorce and my ex wouldn't pay for it... even though he was the one who ruined our marriage.

Anyway, can I get married while my divorce is pending? It will be official in Septmeber, but I am sick of waiting to marry my fiance'.

2007-07-09 11:39:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok shame on me but I went ahead and emailed my husband pretending to be some other woman. I made it a short flirty email on purpose hoping he would ignore it since it was obviously sexy and not just some innocent hi hello how r u? But, he did actually reply. We've been together for 7 years, married for 3 and have a beautiful baby girl. He always claims he is good to me, would never do anything behind my back and would never cheat. So I was pretty hurt that he is actually so easily tempted. I don't really know what to think to be honest. He will be going away soon for bootcamp and training for the us coast guard. I was in the Air Force so I know exactly the kinds of things that go on. I don't really think I can trust him. I don't think he would go out looking for trouble but if it came to him.... is every man a cheater? does every man flirt to other women? I mean this is my husband you know? I never thought he would be talking to other women in a sexy way. is any man different?

2007-07-09 11:37:05 · 28 answers · asked by bella 1

My best friend says me and hubby should try sex "toys" cause their a lot of fun and i told her that i wouldnt be into that and i know my husband wouldnt be either and she said we are a weird couple cause most married people use them..Is she right? We have been happily married 16 yrs and i wouldnt feel comfortable and i know my husband wouldnt either besides i dont need a "toy" to satisfy me..So like i ask is my friend right?

2007-07-09 11:33:27 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a single Mom who filed for child support for my 14yr. old daughter 3 months ago. She has never recieved support and I haven't seen her Dad in 8yrs. I don't know where he lives. CSE, in our state, found his last known address. We were then scheduled to take DNA tests seperatley. We took ours, then two months later I found out he didn't show for his and all correspondence was sent back to CSE. They said he probably didn't live there anymore and they couldn't do anything without a current address. So now it's up to me. I don't even know where to start. Any advice?

2007-07-09 11:27:33 · 8 answers · asked by trulve 1

one married life broken ,should a man go for a second marriage ,what are the chances of sucesfull and what will be the acceptance level?

2007-07-09 11:06:35 · 18 answers · asked by vinaychoubey 1

he cheated last year and we got married in february, i havent been able to forgive him and it's been many times where i feel like leaving him and going back to my parents, but when i tell him this he starts crying begging me that he is a changed man and that he is never going to cheat on me again. I loved him before he did that, but after that things have been different and i feel like i don't love him anymore, i want to try to love him again and i know i can do it but im afraid he will do it again. Everytime i tell him im going to leave he says he will go and get drunk and i know that he gets extremely depressed to the point where im afraid that he might commit suicide.

I don't know what to do sometimes i think im just with him because i worry too much for him, but what about me??? who worries about my feelings?? what should i do?
should i try to work it out or just leave, deaf and blind not caring what he does after.

ps im 3 months pregnant.

2007-07-09 10:55:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my guy, but I just have these "warning" signs and I'm wanting to give my guy the benefit of the doubt, but the warning signs just keep poping up. Little things that are said, seen, or done that just are "out of place" if you know what I mean. All I want to do is "check". But I don't want a relationship where I have to "check". Talking to him won't do any good, I feel I'll just be told "its in my head". Does anyone else have this problem?

2007-07-09 10:55:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

if male spouse is deseased can surviving spouse prevent deseased spouses parents from visiting their grandchildren

2007-07-09 10:48:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay im pregnant and me and husband are seperated for certain issues. one being that i dont trust him. i have caught him talking and txting to other women on 5 occasions and each time he has lyed about it even though i have proof. since then i have been very self concious about myself and our relationship. i got upset the othe night cause he went out and did not tell me where he was at, he was with a cousin but his cousin isnt the best person to be with considering her reputation. i also went out with a friend of mine. he got mad because i went out and i got mad cause he lyed. last night when we were talking he said somethings that got me thinking about the night he went out and i asked him about it. he said that if i didnt stop accusing him of things he was just gonna leave me for good and the furniture i left he was going to sell or destroy. i know i have over reacted in the past but what am i suppose to do now? pretend he never did anything and act like a stupid wife?

2007-07-09 10:44:17 · 10 answers · asked by Becky 3

Before we married he was known as a player, is his past catching up with him?

2007-07-09 10:26:49 · 10 answers · asked by Yatta76 1

My husband is very funny and charasmatic and that's what i love about him, however, lately I've found out mostly by accident that he has long conversations via phone and text with attractive woman. He says they are just friends and that he only loves me, but this intimacy makes me question his commitment and makes me feel very insecure and jealous. I feel like my new jealousy pushes him away and the last thing I want to do is push him towards these new friendships. I myself have male friends but don't speak to them to the extent he does to his female friends. I don't want to overreact but i find myself questioning his every action and feeling very insecure about myself.
I am a fairly mature girl who is attractive but I feel like i've been punched in the stomach with this new peice of information about my husband.
Help.....?!!?!?

2007-07-09 10:22:28 · 34 answers · asked by boomchickyboom boom 1

2007-07-09 10:16:58 · 12 answers · asked by Monika 1

Why aren't there more interracial couples?

2007-07-09 09:59:06 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-09 09:58:51 · 14 answers · asked by themanwhometkobebryant 1

2007-07-09 09:58:14 · 29 answers · asked by themanwhometkobebryant 1

I'm at the point in my life where I'm thinking it's time to get married. I've had many girlfriends, a few I would have considered... but it just wasn't right.

In the last year I have date a LOT of women, but surprisingly haven't found 1 that was even serious girlfriend material let alone wife material.

So I'd like to know from all the HAPPILY married people out there, where did you meet your spouse?

Please also let me know any other details :-)

- How long you were together before you got married.

- How long ago that was (very important, times change).

- How long you have been married (I guess that fits with the last one).

- What ever else you'd like to share... I'm all ears.

Thanks.

2007-07-09 09:52:08 · 40 answers · asked by looking for 2

I left my husband 6 months ago but came back because he made me a bunch of promises, which he broke with in a month. We started marriage counceling at that time but he quit after about 5 sessions. For the past 2 months I've gone by myself. He hasn't expressed any interest in returning. He does not talk to me about anything and the only answers I ever get are "I don't know" and "I don't care". When he F's up, which is on a pretty regular basis and I get upset, he just asks me "How do you think I feel". Should I feel guilty for leaving him? I'm so confused!

2007-07-09 09:51:13 · 6 answers · asked by Blue Love Aura 2

This Friday the movers are coming to move my things back to my house. I had to get an apartment last July, because my son, and his stepmother hate each other. At the time he was 17, and I felt since his real mother doesn't want anything to do with him it was up to me to get him through school. He skipped most of the year, and failed every subject, now since he skipped work and went to the shore for a week he just got fired. Also he got a DUI, and as of July 25th has no license. The service won't take him, he wouldn't go anyway. I've had it, and want my life back, but as rotten as he's been to me I'm having a hard time comprehending putting him on the street. He just said to me, when the movers come he'll have his bags packed, and will be sitting on them awaiting my orders as to where to go, and what to do. His friends are all bums, whose parents put up with thier garbage, but I'm sick of it. What happens to 18 year olds who are put out? Where will he stay. Fired and a drop out.

2007-07-09 09:34:57 · 45 answers · asked by Paul G 2