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My best friend says me and hubby should try sex "toys" cause their a lot of fun and i told her that i wouldnt be into that and i know my husband wouldnt be either and she said we are a weird couple cause most married people use them..Is she right? We have been happily married 16 yrs and i wouldnt feel comfortable and i know my husband wouldnt either besides i dont need a "toy" to satisfy me..So like i ask is my friend right?

No thanks bear not interested in trying 1

Kristi we dont have a boring sex life.

And kristi you have no clue what my husband would or wouldnt like.

Answer 1

Sounds like you have a boring sex life. It's not weird to want to try new things. Don't do anything you're not comfortable with but don't knock it till you try it. Believe me he would love it.

Answer 2

Toys can be a lot of fun, but it depends on the couple. I have some close friends with whom we'd discuss such things - 2 of them use toys, 2 don't. If you count us, it's 3 to 2.

We have another 4 couples we're friends with, but not close enough to discuss these things. If I had to guess, I'd say 2 of them would for sure use them, and I don't know about the other 2.

So it's pretty close to 50/50 in my circle. Assuming that the 9 couples (including us) that I know are representative of the entire world, or even just America (which we're probably not), then the answer would be that it's about 50/50.

As long as you have a happy sex life, and so does your husband, then don't worry about your friend. But don't be afraid to try new things, either.

Answer 3

If you ask me, I don't agree with your friend. For one, I know a lot of couples who have never used such toys to have fun. They have fun even without it and they have been together longer than other couples who I've heard, do use such toys. Secondly, why use a toy when you're already happy the way you are now. There's no need for a change. And if you say you're husband won't be comfortable around it, all the more reason not to get the toy.

Answer 4

If neither one of you are comfortable with toys, etc, then don't use them. However, some guys may mask their interest in videos, toys, and games because they know that you will dissaprove. I would try something totally off the wall if you're up for it... give him an affair. Not a real one, of course... but this will allow you both to express yourself in uninhibited ways. Then you can find out if he has a kinky side way down deep. Call him up and tell him to meet you at a bar of your choosing. Get a wig or use a one-day rinse to change your hair color. Buy a sexy slinky dress that is out of the ordinary for you. Wear sexy thigh highs and lingerie, tall heels, and a new perfume (you can get a sample at a department store). Look super hot, but different than usual. He'll sit down at the bar, but talk to the bartender in advance and pay for it (you know what he likes by now and he may need a shot). Have the bartender tell him that someone bought it for him. He'll be wondering who... then you emerge. The rest is up to you, but I think a few smaller items (tingly lotions, massage oil, ah-hem rings) would be a good place to start. Make him take you to a hotel for the night.

I did this for my husband and his friends are still talking about it 6 years later! "What a cool wife, oh my God!"

Answer 5

Some people use toys and some don't and there is absolutely NOTHING WRONG with not wanting or needing them. Sex is very personal and should be between just two people. What makes them happy is what is normal. Your friend can not be right about YOU and YOUR HUSBAND ... see what I mean?

If you found out that over half the couples in your neighborhood were having sex in their back yards so that the chickens could watch would you be afraid that they are "right" and you should try it?

Answer 6

If your sex life is as fullfilling as you say it is...you do not need them. Many men feel threatened by toys because men cannot compete with a dildo which vivrates at high RPMs so they say its not healthy, moral...bla bla bla...but the reality they are affraid. If you deside to try one...you will be surprised at the experience, but only try it if you are confortable with your husband's ability to satisfy you because if you find out that you thought you were having orgasm when you were not and this toy makes you feel like never before, you may end up with a very unhappy sex life after that without the toys.

Answer 7

What's weird is that you're discussing your sex life in such detail with your friend. It's none of her business. As far as "most" couples using sex toys, I wouldn't know the numbers on that, but if you and your husband aren't interested, that doesn't seem to be a problem!

Answer 8

Toys can be fun, but you have to be willing to accept them. If you and your husband are not wanting to try, then don't. Are you sure your husband don't want to try? Toys are not meant to take away the personal pleasures of sex between two people, nor are they for satisfaction. They just allow room for more people to explore each other, and to know what can drive them wild. Don't think that they are to replace your intimacy with your husband.

Answer 9

My husband and I must be weird too because we don't use toys either and we have been married for 12 years but together 15.

Answer 10

If you and your hubby are happy and aren't interested in sex toys then don't listen to your friend. I don't necessarily believe that most married people us them, some do and have a great sex life and some don't use them and also have a great sex life. Your friend is wrong. Where did she get her information I wonder?

Answer 11

It's all about personal preference my dear, while I was married my wife and I tried and liked using toys, but also there are people such as yourself who don't feel comfortable with them or they just dont need them.
We didn't need them to satisfy each other we did it for a change of pace, to try something new and we found we liked it.