Question for HAPPILY married people only please...?

Question

I'm at the point in my life where I'm thinking it's time to get married. I've had many girlfriends, a few I would have considered... but it just wasn't right.

In the last year I have date a LOT of women, but surprisingly haven't found 1 that was even serious girlfriend material let alone wife material.

So I'd like to know from all the HAPPILY married people out there, where did you meet your spouse?

Please also let me know any other details :-)

- How long you were together before you got married.

- How long ago that was (very important, times change).

- How long you have been married (I guess that fits with the last one).

- What ever else you'd like to share... I'm all ears.

Thanks.

Answer 1

We met at a coffee shop.

We were friends first 4 months; dated for 3 years before engagement, were married after a total of 5 years.

We were married 8 months ago.

Our marriage is only as strong as WE are individually. We spent that 5 years prior to marriage working on our own improvements. Can honestly say that "friendship" is key for us. Romance, spontaneity, and honesty also play key roles.

(Every relationship is different, and must be nurtured every day)

And as said above, true love cannot be planned, it just happens. Then you work on the rest. Hope it was helpful!

Answer 2

I met my husband since his Dad was the pastor of my church at the time. We dated a year and a half with a three month break in between. He then moved away out of state. We kept a long-term relationship for 5 months(part of the 1 1/2 yrs). We still kept in touch over the years. He joined the Army, and I went to college. We knew each other for over 5 years, when he came on leave after his first Iraq deployment. I had just been accepted to a bachelor's nursing program when he proposed. It was a big cross road for me. We had always talked of getting married when we were young and naive. We still cared for one another at this point and decided we spend our lives together. We've been married two years now. He's in the field a lot training,etc. and he works many long hours. So, sadly half our marriage we have spent apart from one another. We have moved more than five times in two years (looks like we are running from the law;) I am finally a senior in college and working on my last year in psychology. All this moving has made finishing a degree harder. I'm not sure if I'll ever try out nursing again. Shame too. We are putting kids off while we try to accomplish some goals, enjoy, etc. I love him so much. I hope to see him again by November:)

Answer 3

More important than the questions you are asking is what you and the woman you ask are going to give to the marriage.
If the marriage is to survive years together you must be friends as well as lovers. Both are equally important.
You must both be committed to working at your marriage so you dont take each other for granted, you make the effort to show the other person you still care even when you're tired or when you've been together for a long time. You need to respect each other , but be able to have a laugh together, and to work together through problems rather than shut the othr person out.
You must not want to dominate the other person - you should be sharing your live's not dominating both.
The answer is you can meet your prospective partnr anywhere,but you will need time to get to know them away from noisy drunken pubs and clubs to find out whether you share the values and outlooks and desires of life that will make you compatible.
My husband and I went out for a year then lived together for a year b4 marrying.

Answer 4

A friend had tried to play matchmaker about 15 years ago. We met at a happy hour at first and I didn't see her again for about 5 months (I was dating someone I thought I was serious about) After that relationship ended, I didn't want to date for two more months so I could concentrate on my degree.

We met again at a night club and it was pretty awkward. My friend was playing matchmaker, but didn't tell me that I was the man she wanted. What I originally thought would be a couple of booty calls turned into a good friendship with a lot more booty on call. (Hey I'm being honest)

We were together another two years before we actually decided we'd jump the broom, living together one more year to see if we were compatible. 12 years later, we're still here. It's been up and down. Mostly up. There's nothing we can't ultimately work out.

My advice if you're ready to do this long term, give a little and get a little. You're not right 100% of the time You're not wrong 100% of the time. Realize when you're wrong and bend to her needs. And make sure you make time for fun. If you let work, kids and life drive the fun out of your marriage then you're setting yourself up for failure. Keep playing with each other.

Good luck

Answer 5

My husband and I met through a mutual friend who set us up on a blind date. I had never had good experiences with blind dates but I decided to take another chance on this one and it turned out to be the best decision I have ever made. We date over a year before we got married and we have been married for the past two years. We are expecting an addition to our family in about 7 weeks and we are so excited. I realize we haven't been married a very long time and I don't have all the wisdom that comes with being married for years and years, but my advice to you is that sometimes the most wonderful and surprising things come to you when you aren't expecting them and there isn't a person out there that can help you meet the person of your dreams. When its meant to be it will be.

Answer 6

I met my husband when I was in 7th grade. He was a friend of my 9th grade sister. We were not in a relationship at any point though middle or high school. I was in my 1st year of college when we finally admitted to wanting to give it a try. Once we did, I think both of us were comfortable moving fast on the relationship, because we knew eachother so long. We married about 10 months after we started dating ( an no, there was no pregnancy involved!).

We've been married now for almost 8 years, and are expecting our 2nd child. We're very happy. We've been through some trials that have made our relationship stronger (death of his parent, repeated miscarriage, etc). Oh, and by the way - we still have a great sex life!

Answer 7

I have been married for 18 years. We have 2 wonderful teenage sons. He is 11 years older than me and has 2 adult kids from a prior marriage. I get along with them very well. We actually met when I was 17 and snuck out of the house to go to a party. He happened to be there. And no, he doesn't drink, smoke or do drugs. He is my best friend and my hero. I forgot to let you know that we were together for 2 years before getting married.

Answer 8

She was a friend of a friend. I hung out with my partner in crime and my wife hung with his sister. She is 3 years older than me. We dated about 2 years then got married. That was 23 years ago this coming September. If you're wrong about something be a man and apologize. If she's wrong, don't rub her nose in it. BE faithful, so be sure she is the woman you want to live with forever. Learn to watch some movies she likes and vice versa. I night out with the guys should always lead to a night out for her with the girls. Don't like being cross examined when you go out, then don't return that favor. Share the household chores (including children's needs), things get done faster which gives you more time together. An hour at the end of the day is much better than no time at all.

Answer 9

My husband and I met through my sister, we dated almost a year before we got married. He is 12 years older than I am and one of the things that made me fall in love with him was the fact that he was so respectful to me, my mother and my children (which he adopted by the way). We just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary last year and there a couple of things I always tell young people. If you don't respect each other then your relationship won't last. We are also best friends and by "best" friends I mean he knows EVERYTHING about me, he still loves me and I can trust him with anything and everything. He doesn't cuss in front of me, nor does he allow other people to cuss in front of me. Our daughter is 31 and has three children and our son is 30 and still single but he is still very uncomfortable watching R rated movies with them in the room. If you haven't found "the one" then maybe you are either looking to hard or expecting too much. Figure out the 3 or 4 things that mean the most to you in a mate, don't put everything on the line for superficial things like certain weight, hair color, facial features the important things are heart, soul, mind, morals.....

Answer 10

Well, I met my husband when I stopped looking. It just so happens that he is my boss's son. We have known each personally for 5 years. We knew who each other were but weren't friends for 6 years before that. We dated for 2 years and have been married for 2 years. We were a perfect fit instantly. He tells me all the time that he knew on our first date that he wanted to marry me. We probably meshed so well because we took an entire year to become friends before we started dating. A year later we were engaged. A year after that we were married. Yeah, so I guess love found me in the workplace. It just goes to show that the one for you could be anywhere. Good luck with your search, and remember, don't date as a way to interview potential wives. Just relax and let things happen. You never know when love might blossom. Best of luck.