For those are or were married : Is / was he or she perfect in every way, can do NO wrong? (In your eyes)?

Question

When you realized that your spouse was the one for you, when you had fallen so incredibly in love, how did you view this person?

I am so crazy about this guy, I just don't think he could do anything wrong. (intentionally) I see him as perfect, his looks are perfect, his voice, his personality, his relationship with other people, everything about him seems perfect to me.

I have decided to extend this question. I am so frustrated that people can not read what I asked. I simply asked how did you view your spouse WHEN YOU FIRST FELL IN LOVE? I said those very words.

Right now I am very tired and maybe later when I am not will I go through and read these answers. I just kept getting more and more frustrated that I was being told "no body is perfect" thirty- three times!

Answer 1

He can be perfect in "your" eyes.
But don't forget the phrase:
Love Is Blind ;)

We all have our faults (yes, even your man), but if you look at his faults and still love him anyway, know you don't want to live without him, then that is true love.

After 30 some years, I have finally found my true love. And after 8 years of being together, I'm happier than I ever thought I could be :)

Go for it, this may be YOUR true love ;)

Answer 2

I realized my husband was the one for me after a few dates. He is a great husband, but all of us have faults---even tho you love each other---there can be a lot of struggles during the first year of marriage.

You sound like you are really in the clouds over this guy and I can understand, I have been there too. When I was dating, I had what I called the "three month rule"---I found that a phoney could only not be themselves for this amount of time---after 3 months, this is the person you will get.

This guy could be the greatest, but give this some time and see if "mr. perfect" will stay that way.

Answer 3

Yeah, you're screwed :)

I think when they are perfect for you, you actually see some faults rather than not see any at all. Seeing faults means you're being honest to yourself in how you see the other person and it's a lot harder to be honest and admit to things that aren't perfect - in others and ourselves.

In the past I've had that "he can do no wrong" attitude and it just gives one an excuse IMHO to ignore things that may be problems - yeah, he may not _intentionally_ hurt you but that doesn't mean he's inconsiderate sometimes or doesn't lack a teeny bit of common sense :)

It's a fun stage of a relationship to be in, but it's not the only stage and it's not the best, although I am a bit jealous :)

Good luck!

Answer 4

Marriage brings two people together who are different and have grown up differently.

Let me say, marriage takes a whole lot of committment, respect, flexibility and understanding. And it is not always perfect. There will be a point that you realize the person you love is not perfect. But you need to learn to focus on the good.

I loved my husband when we got married (& still do even though we are now divorced). But one of the things I learned early on is that he is human, he is not perfect, he will make mistakes.

View your future spouse as an imperfect person, as you are. But choose to work together to make things better. Most importantly, COMMUNICATE. You both should be willing to talk without accusing and listen because you are concerned with each other's feelings.

Answer 5

At first, I loved EVERYTHING about him, even when I knew he was wrong. That's the kind of wife/girlfriend I am though, completely devoted through everything. I can tell you now, after everything I've been through, I'm not that naive. I'm still VERY devoted, but I have a sound mind about it now.
When I got married, no one could have ever told me it wouldn't last forever. He was the guy for me, through everything, no matter what. Turned out, I was not the same for him. He cheated on me while he was overseas (he was deployed in the military), then when he got home, left me for another woman. They're married now.
I know now that he was a user, but back then when I was so infatically in love with him, I didn't see straight. I didn't see him for what he was, and he did a great job of convincing me that he was everything he wasn't. But remember, actions really do speak louder than words.
I'm wiser now, and jaded, but it's a good thing. I don't get taken advantage (as much) of anymore. :-)
P.s. I don't mean to scare you with this... I just don't want anyone to get hurt like I did, just because they're "in love". You have the rest of your life to enjoy that person, and for them to enjoy you. Just make sure he can "walk on water" ... Mr. Wonderful for real, ya know? :-) Good luck!

Answer 6

Well I was dating 6 years before we got married and I was madly in love to see some red lights. Now that I'm married 4 years they are even brighter. Love is blind according to what they say. Oh I am happily married you just have to be commited and rooted in God to keep your sanity. Cause its a bumpy ride. But guys do a lot to get you but after they got you they stop trying so hard so you have to be the spice sprinkler and change the flavors to keep things going. But remember to follow your intuition and again keep God as your best friend for the days you feel like breaking dishes or breaking out a can of woop a**.

Answer 7

my husband is by no means perfect. We fight like any other couple. The only thing that he is perfect at is taking care of our children. I do however think he is the sexiest thing on the planet and would not change him for anything in the world. When things are good everything is really good, but when things are bad it feels like the whole world is crashing down around me. He does things wrong, but when you really love someone you learn to take the bad right along with the good. That's love.

Answer 8

Back then, YES she was perfect; but I was young and stupid then................



After 31 years of marriage, yeah she seemed perfect, but life is not perfect. No one with free will would marry second or third best, knowing no#1 was out there. As we get OLDER(out living decisions experiencing rethinking) events, mother nature and perceptions change, you won't want to be the same in five or ten years. Just take it day at a time and be all you can be for that time.

Answer 9

Nobody is perfect. And when you fall in love with some one it won't be because you think they are perfect. It will be because you love them despite their faults and their flaws. You know them inside and out, you know what they are apt to do or the mistakes they are bound to make and you accept them for just the way they are. You come to love these things about them. Its what you have in common- the bond between you. You know each other inside and out and know that the other is just as human as you are- not perfect. Obvisouly you like this guy a lot but you've got to realize he is not perfect in every single way. And it's probably better that you realize this sooner than later. Every couple in every relationship is going to fight... it just comes down to being with the person you love and wanting them to be the one that you're going to fight with and work your problems out for the rest of your life yet. No person or relationship is perfect. But I'm guessing it's the beginning of your relationship because you sound head over heels about him. There is nothing wrong with that. But in time you will come to learn his faults and accept them for a part of who he is as a person... Hope I helped and good luck with everything. :)

Answer 10

My first marriage was a disaster not long after the marriage. My 2nd husband of 15 years I fell madly in love with and still madly in love with. Perfect? No. A perfect partner? Yes. Can do NO wrong? No, he sure can, as I sure can. But I love him enough and he loves me enough to either live with it and compromise, or work it out. It's called unconditional love.

Addition to your addition:

Let me rephrase this so you can understand it. My 2nd husband of 15 years now I fell madly in love with and still madly in love with. IS he perfect?... NO. WAS he perfect?... NO. A perfect partner now?... Yes. Now to answer your question you REALLY want to know.... Was he perfect in every way, can do NO wrong (in my eyes)... again the answer is NO. I was realistic then and I'm realistic now. I could see his flaws and new I loved him enough to live with his flaws. I'm afraid dear if you are looking at Mr. Right as Mr. Perfect.... you are in for a big let down. That was the problem with my frist marriage.