She is 37 and she is getting too desperate, and though she is a "little" overweight, she is really pretty. She is Belizean and has two kids, me and my older brother, both teenagers. Or do you you know anyone, or anywhere she can go to to get help? Thanks in advance.
2007-07-09 13:00:09 · 18 answers · asked by 2cute4u 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Fine, I guess you guys are right. But I just feel sorry for her. But Ill try to mind my own love life, that is when I get one.
2007-07-09 13:13:56 · update #1
Dear 2cute4u
You are too nice looking for your Mom to find boy friend. I have a girl friend or I would be interested to have children that think that much of their Mom to try and help her. There is a lot of dating sites she can sign up for and not pay till she finds some one she is interested in Yes there is perverts on those sites just like in real life. Once your Mom write to a guy on the Internet have her send him a card. This way she gets his address. Then you check him out on www.familywatchdog.us nice site to check out Internet dates. Yes the guys can change their names and send picture of some one else but if you write to them and have their address it well help you. Also you can put your address and see who the people are that live close by, you want to look out for. Good luck and you are very nice. Do not let the people on here that hate themselves give you a bad time. People that run you down only do it to try and pick them selves up but we all know they are just hurting inside them selves. Mostly due to things that have happen to them. They are down on their luck feeling bad and and can not catch their dogs to kick or they would have a big heart like you do.. Good luck
2007-07-09 13:23:43 · answer #1 · answered by kiss4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't solicit your Mom for marriage over the internet sweetheart. She could use a dating service, etc... But only if SHE is willing to do so. Why do you say she is getting too desperate? She has a lot of living to do still, 37 is not that old. :) The biggest thing you can do is support her in what she does, let her know you love her, etc... That is more important than having a man in her life, honestly it could be she just wants to focus on you and your brother until you are in college.
But all these things are up to her. You could join a gym as a family. Encourage her to make better eating choices, etc. Go for walks together to work on her getting healthy. Not just slimming down for some man.... She needs to do things for her..
2007-07-09 20:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, tell her about this:
When I found myself single, and didn't like it. and I don't hang out in bars, am not a church goer, but I am very smart, and very pretty, and 20 years older than your mom... (yup, believe the pretty part, hon, it ain't ever the years, it's the mileage)
I as well wanted to be married, or at least in a very serious relationship. Sooooo I put up an ad on Yahoo Personals... I answered as well looked on my own.....Here's the trick... Firstly she needs to drop the pounds, (fat isn't pretty, and if she is toooo heavy, that has gotta go----- then get a few nice sets of clothes, have her hair done by a pro, help with her make-up, too... sorta a mini-do over. Then she needs to have some nice photos taken, and get help with her ad.... It costs $20 a month for Yahoo Personals.... She needs to use brains whenever she chooses to meet one of these guys. I never met a nut case, but for sure there are some out there, just like those you sit next to in church... If after someone wrote me, and I was interested, and he gave me his number, I called. And if I liked what I heard, I made a date in a public place... say a restaurant... Men who are single are as well having difficulty meeting nice people. On line dating is the modern way to meet people. I confess, I'm very educated, very pretty, very slender and all the rest of it. I have a killer smile..... and hon, if she fixes nothing else, she's gotta have that killer smile... beautiful teeth radiate health and healthy is sexy... she needs to see the best cosmetic dentist in her area, and yup, it ain't cheep. I sometime had three dates on a Saturday---breakfast, lunch, and dinner with someone else... She'll pretty much know if she wants to see a man a second time.... I met many who wanted to see me again, and for sure there were several I wished to see again, but they weren't interested, or perhaps had someone they liked better. I met my husband this was 20 years ago, when it wasn't very popular... He was a lovely man, and my equal. When I was again single, there was Yahoo personals.... The man I am with now I met on Yahoo Personals... We have been together going into the third year And I have several friends who met their lady on line.... Helpful????
2007-07-09 20:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hehe... I don't know if you want to tell her this, or can think of a way to do it. But the best advice you can give her is to stop thinking that she's a ticking time bomb when it comes to marriage.
It's like a mathmatical formula, the amount of desperation a person has about getting involved with some one is an inverse proportion to their desireability.
In other words, if a person is desperate for love and goes about "hunting" for it, and is "unhappy" about it, people will sense this and find them undesireable.
This is one of the harshest rules of dating. I don't know if you've experienced this, but whenever I was happy and "fufilled" with my life, myself, etc... I found people hitting on me everywhere. When I was sad and depressed over being single, my love life was a wasteland (It's why happy couples tend to find they get "hit on" alot when they're out and about. Alone, hopefully!)
Therefore, she would need to focus on finding happiness in her life as it is now. When she achieves this, people will sense her happiness and sense of fullfillment, and be attracted to it.
Good luck!
2007-07-09 20:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by Pooka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents got divorced when i was 2 and my sister was 1 and im now almost 25 and seriously my mom hasnt dated or seen anyone since. everyone and my younger sis thinks shes a lesbian lol cuz all she has is girl friends and she spends a lot of time with them when she can. i dont know what to think but i wish my mom would find a guy too!!
2007-07-09 20:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 2cute4you I'm sure that when the time is right that your mom will indeed find someone with whom to share her life. It is actually quite thoughtful of you to want to mate your mom off but she must find the person that is able to melt her heart, and not some complete stranger that her daughter is trying to hook up with her. Sounds like you are pretty proud of you mom so please continue to show her how proud you are of her and allow her to find herself a partner if and when the time is right.
2007-07-09 20:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's nice of you to be concerned with her love life, but that one's up to her. She might not want to remarry. If she does, she'll find someone. Everything happens for a reason. I have friends and relatives that have had a lot of success with eharmony.com Don't worry about your mom, she'll be fine. Good luck!
2007-07-10 10:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry kid cant give agood answer for that .im a 39 year old mom to and its hard to find the right one that will except a moms way of life
2007-07-09 20:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, put up her pic on the net and ask for the Mr. Right, I'm sure without a week there should be alot of response.
2007-07-09 20:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by madity78 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop trying to pimp your mother. She would have a fit if she knew you were on here putting her out there like that! She does sound nice, though, but she's got one crazy daughter. LOL
2007-07-09 20:04:06 · answer #10 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋