Was i over reacting ...?

Question

Okay im pregnant and me and husband are seperated for certain issues. one being that i dont trust him. i have caught him talking and txting to other women on 5 occasions and each time he has lyed about it even though i have proof. since then i have been very self concious about myself and our relationship. i got upset the othe night cause he went out and did not tell me where he was at, he was with a cousin but his cousin isnt the best person to be with considering her reputation. i also went out with a friend of mine. he got mad because i went out and i got mad cause he lyed. last night when we were talking he said somethings that got me thinking about the night he went out and i asked him about it. he said that if i didnt stop accusing him of things he was just gonna leave me for good and the furniture i left he was going to sell or destroy. i know i have over reacted in the past but what am i suppose to do now? pretend he never did anything and act like a stupid wife?

Answer 1

You just don't trust him period. Sounds like somewhere down the road you gave him your "power" and now you're just questioning. Maybe what you really need back is your power..then you can trust your "gut" more clearly. Stop, breathe, and remember what it was like to be strong. That's the first step in fixing....this

Answer 2

First, very sorry about your situation, I will pray for you and your family. Now, what to do about it? In my opinion, marriage is a commitment that you've made or promised to yourself, to your husband, to your family and to God (if you do believe in God). When you make a promise, do you intend to keep it, or are you a flake? A promise in marriage is just as important as any other promise, don't take it too lightly. I'm very sad to see that every little problem in a family could results in divorce now a days. People take marriage too lightly like it's a free trial offer that you get to return if you don't like it. But marriage is about togetherness in good times and in bad times. This is just one of those bad times, but w/o "bad" how would you know what good is? Take a deep breath and pray on it, ask God for wisdom and have faith in him. With God, nothing is impossible. Also, you wouldn't want your child to grow up w/o a dad would you? Would you put your child through the stress of "a weekend w/ mom, a weekend w/ dad," and being made fun of or out casted by friends because his/her parents are divorced.

Answer 3

Okay.... wow.... so this should be the best time of your life. You have LIFE growing in you... its all good. But instead you and your husband are involved in a pissing match.

You need to decide if this is how you want to live your life... cuz its not going to get better unless one of you makes a change. You don't want to be the "stupid wife" and he still wants to go out and party. Personally, when my wife was pregnant, it was all she could do to get me to leave her alone. I wanted to be there for everything kick.... but that's just me. I wanted to be her protector, you know? No one was going to come within inches of my wife and unborn baby.

Your husband isn't wired that way, I guess. So the balls in your court... do you want to raise this child alone? Or do you think he'll grow up?

Answer 4

Frist thing don't listen to this guys oppion about the relationship. He's it for one thing, and apparently you've already given that up just a tad to willingly, now he knows. Time to gain back some power in this relationship, or just cut this man off, you think he's a bad boyfriend, just wait tell he is a dad. Next thing to relize is that your actual UNDERREACTING to this guys actions. Get it thru your head if he isn't welling to deal with you, and just wants you to be a certain way, then he doesn't love you, he loves what he can do with you.....

Answer 5

Why are you staying in a relationship that clearly isn't working?...and please don't say for the sake of your child, because the home is already split up and the stress from a child will only add more stress on the relationship. Find someone who is willing to give you the RESPECT you deserve. There ARE men out there who ARE faithful, this one clearly isn't capable. You deserve better and so does your child.

Answer 6

i could flippantly say i'm undecided what they are conversing approximately. Then ask them what the crime is they are conversing approximately and ask how and why they think of it replaced into me. i could then supply them a proof on why it wasn't me. in the event that they nevertheless want to have self assurance it replaced into me, so be it, i'm going to enable them to think of incorrect, the certainty will come out one way or yet another.

Answer 7

dont ever change who you are, if he doesnt have the decency enough to change his ways and understand why you have trust issues then let it be! dont allow him to put you into guilt mode by saying if you accuse me again...if he is conducting in a manner that is conducive to cheating or being disrespectful then MOVE ON...it may be hard, but your peace of mind is way more valuable!

Answer 8

WHY THE HE!! DID YOU GO AND GET PREGNANT BY SUCH A JERK? NOW THIS BABYCHILD WILL NOT HAVE A HEALTHY 2 PARENT HOUSEHOLD WITH BOTH PARENTS TO RELY ON AND TAKE CARE OF IT. SHAME ON YOU! HE SOUNDS LIKE A REAL CHARMER! YOU PICKED A GOOD ONE TO BREED WITH.

Answer 9

both of you get to marriage counseling and fast...preferably before you give birth...you need to work these issues out together!!

Answer 10

if you are seperated, why would his going out be any of your business? just wondering