I have been married for three years and I still don't know what it is my husband really wants from me. I try so hard tofigure it out that it is literally driving me crazy. At times I feel loved and at times I feel like he hates me...What am I to do???
2007-07-09 11:44:14 · 19 answers · asked by nevaeh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Firstly, the feelings you are getting are more likely from within you than from him. Love doesn't come and go like that, if he loved you a week ago he loves you now. The problem you are having is insecurity, you worry that you aren't good enough, or that you aren't living up to his expectations and needs. I can assure you that if you weren't, he would tell you. All that men want from a wife is just that - a wife. Don't worry about what it is that he wants from you. All he wants is you.
As far as practical "what to do" advice, I would talk to him, explain to him how you are feeling. If he understands, then he can be more sensitive to your needs in that area. He can also reassure you that there is nothing you are doing (or not doing) that is going to hurt your relationship. Or, if there is, which I doubt, then he can tell you what that is, and the two of you can work through that together. Key word being TOGETHER, that is what marraige and love are all about.
2007-07-09 11:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by Exosus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the best thing that you can do is talking to him, ask him what is it that makes him act the way he does. sometimes we dont even know what want but if he's open to talk about it you might find out a lot of things that could make your relationship work much better. comunication is the best way to keep a relationship going firm.
2007-07-09 18:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by 2muchfreetime2think 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has nothing to do with your question but is your name heaven spelled backwards??
That's my nieces name too...
You are over thinking him. Guys brains don't work that way. They are really very simple. Sex, food, TV, Sex and work. and they are good to go.
Oh yeah don't ask more than 2 questions in a row and let them do stuff for you they like to be heros.
2007-07-09 18:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unconditional love never fails. Be yourself and just love him and be the best of friends to him. If this doesn't work, it is because you are carrying all the load and He needs to also apply himself to loving you the same way..
2007-07-09 18:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by *DestinyPrince* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just might be that he himself does not know either. A long bedside chat might work out the details for you both.
2007-07-09 18:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by cadaholic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lady in public
His mom in the kitchen
His nurse when he's ill
A whore in the bedroom.
And don't squeeze the toothpaste tube in the middle.
2007-07-09 18:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by Paul H 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Relax, all this worrying is what guys don't like. There will always be ups and downs. Just be patient and faithful.
2007-07-09 18:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are love spells. Maybe he doesnt find u
attractive anymore.
http://www.egyptian-witchcraft.com/
http://www.morespells.com/
http://www.angelblueessential.com/
Good Luck!!
2007-07-09 18:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect, trust and caring coupled with good communication.
Sounds like its time for the two of you to attend marriage counseling.
Good luck.
2007-07-09 18:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by kearneyconsulting 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
heres a really good one for u
confidence and security
the no. 1 turn off for me is when girls doubt my feelings and are paranoid. i understand u care but really..
2007-07-09 18:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by Alex S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋