My wife says she doesn't love me anymore?

Question

I want to hear from woman only on this one.

We've been married for 15 years, together for 18 years. We've had problems from the start. I asked her if she had met someone and instead of saying "no", she paused momentarily and then said "why would you ask me that?"

I'm leaning toward that meaning that she has met someone else. Am I wrong about this?

Answer 1

My husband has asked me the same thing before, and my response was the same as your wife. It shocked me that he would ask such a thing and I wanted to know why he would even think that.

Please don't jump to conclusions....ask her again and get a definite answer....wondering and assuming things will drive ya nuts.

Answer 2

I'm sorry. I think that she has met someone else.
If it was simply that she did not want to be with you, but wanted to be on her own, she could have said no. But she didn't. It sounds like she has met someone. I could be wrong, because I'm not married.
On the other hand, it could be that maybe she does just want her own space. Some women get tired of taking care of their husband, their kids, and never having any time for themselves - they get tired of getting last place. They get tired of getting crumbs. Maybe she feels like she's always been last on the list - this happens to women a lot. Has that ever come up in conversation, that she works and does housework, and does stuff for everybody else, and nobody ever asks how her day was? It's like that Kenny Rogers song, "Buy me a Rose." If her discontent started like that, it could have led to meeting someone else.
Do you love your wife? Do you want her back? If she has met someone, and has cheated, would you be willing to go get counseling and try to work it out? Think about that, and if you're willing to work at it, then there is hope.
Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

Sorry you are having problems in your marriage. I think she responded with "why would you ask me that" because she is wondering if you already know. Most people don't start saying serious stuff like they don't love you anymore unless they have someone waiting in the wings. I wouldn't waste another day dragging it out. Get your ducks in a row and start the process. I'm sorry, a 15 year marriage carries alot of baggage and I am sure it will be hard for you to separate yourself. Be strong and good luck.

Answer 4

I don't know why your asking anyone but your wife that question. Everyone else can only guess, maybe mis-information rec'd. You mentioned that from the start there were problems, where is the communication. This has to be there in order to maintain a relationship. I'll tell you a secret.. Women like mystery, surprises, spontanaity. Maybe she is feeling in a rut. Make a date with her, tell her how to dress (casual or dressy depending where your going to take her) and due something fun, different, exciting, something you know she would like. THEN COMMUNICATE WITH HER--LISTEN TO HER--PAY ATTENTION--TELL HER SHE LOOKS NICE. I'll tell you this for sure, if you make her happy your life is happy. Think about that for a while. Oh yeah, don't tell her where your going till you get there. Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

I am married to my husband for 10yrs and I am no longer in love with him because if you are married to someone you are suppose to have sex with them, take them out to dinner, just be romantic to keep the sparks going in the marrige. All we do is argue and he sleeps on the counch everynight. So I am very tempted to cheat on him actually I want to divorce him because I do not believe in cheating but some men push you to do that. When your wife told you that she did not love you anymore, did you asks her why? If she paused about the question you asked her regarding cheating most likely she might be or she is thinking about it. If you still love her I suggest that you try to make it work. Good Luck to you!!!

Answer 6

you maybe wrong - she probaly took a check on the way her life has gone being married and not happy and the first thing you go for is "have you met someone else" most women leave first, your wife is missing something maybe you stopped, such a dating - ask her what could you do to make your marriage work instead of accusations. good luck

Answer 7

I think she might have been quite offended by the fact that you would consider her to be cheating. Whether or not that's what you meant, consider the possibility that this is exactly what she thought. I know that if my husband and I were in a similar scenario and he asked ME this, I'd be livid.

So she doesn't love you anymore; have you considered getting counseling? Have you worked toward the REASON she's no longer interested in participating in the relationship with you?

You need to talk to her, and not accuse.

Answer 8

I think that you are fishing for a reason that she might not feel the same about you. I wouldn't jump right into thinking that she has met someone else. What has changed in your life's? There are other reasons that people fall out of love. Don't jump to conclusions

Answer 9

Then she realy nevr realy loved you at all....You can't fall in and out of love that easy...Just let her go.... It is easier then dealing with the pain...I'am not saying it will be easy but who ever said life was!!??People are werid.. Just take a look at these movies like jet lis hero or house of flying daggers...Watch those and you will realize and understand how letting go ....

Take itt easy and just tell her you would rather hear the truth then let her go on hurting you with a lie ...because it is more than likely hurting her just as much

Answer 10

Your wife may have told you this during the heat of battle, a time when some of us do not mean what we are saying--you definitely have some problems to work out--sometimes your gut feelings are right. Talk to your wife and both of you lay ALL your feelings out on the table---try to solve your problems before it is too late---ask her if she wants to save your marriage and tell her your feelings also.

There have been times in our marriage when my husband was being rude and "a jerk"---I felt like I didnt love him during these times--I am so happy that, most of the time, he is a great guy--we have always wanted to work our problems out and we both want a great marriage. You have to both want your marriage--TALK to each other.