Marriage & Divorce - 9 July 2007

A. Feeling like you must stay together because you are married, regardless of personal will and preference
or
B. Feeling like you can leave any time you want (even though you are married) but you stay out of choice.

2007-07-09 09:14:02 · 9 answers · asked by danashelchan 5

2007-07-09 09:08:39 · 12 answers · asked by Oliver Sta. Maria 2

My parents have been on the verge of a divorce for months now. My mom has already seen a lawyer and has filled out divorce papers but she hasnt filed them. She is waiting for things to get bad again.

The other night i asked my mom if she loved my dad and she said 'of course'. this answer didnt satisfy me so i asked if she was 'in love' with him and she said 'its complicated' I told her that i didnt want them staying together just because of me.

today she called from work and asked me of i wanted to leave or not and i told her 'i guess'. she said that we would talk about it later. I dont really know what to say to her.

i want to leave, its hard seeing my parents fight all the time. I dont know how i am to tell her this though. But i guess the real reason i am posting this is for your views and for your support.

Thank you and God bless

2007-07-09 09:08:18 · 5 answers · asked by Rissa! 3

MY HUSBAND TOLD ME THIS MORING THAT HE DOSE NOT WANT TO DO THIS ANY MORE BY THAT HE WANT OUT OF THE MARRIGE . I AM EXPECTING TWINS I AM SO HEART BROKIN WHERE DID I GO WRONG I HAVE HIM EVERY THING NEVER TOLD HIM NO TO ANY THING HE WANTED TO DO I EVEN FORGAVE HIM FOR CHEATING ON ME WITH MY BEST FRIEND . WILL I EVER GET OVER THIS AND BE HAPPY AGAIN . HE'S MOVING WITH MY EX BEST FRIEND. I AM THE *** RIGHT TO HAVE FORGIVEN HIM WHY ARE MEN PIGS.

2007-07-09 09:08:07 · 21 answers · asked by mary 1

OK I was friends with him first, then met the wife and we all get along. Now I just found out that he hit her, I know that when a man hits a woman, he will repeat that and she told me it hasn't been the first time. I don't know how comfortable he'll feel with me knowing. I believe she did the right the thing by calling the cops cause she was in danger. I want to help him get help, how do I go about that? She is hurting inside but women are not punshing bags. My heart is breaking for them both. They just got married but have been together for a few years already. Any way to help them or should I stay out of it?

2007-07-09 09:05:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

How offen should you get it cut ?
And how short ?

2007-07-09 08:58:44 · 4 answers · asked by Me 3

please see my previously asked questions before answering
story is there
i have basically decided i do not want to be with my husband any longer. i have determined that i dont want to drag it out, i have already gone through the "wait-n-see" phase.
I think he will be relieved to hear it, but i just cannot get the words to come out of my mouth. we have been together since 1994 -he has been jobless for over 5 years, i still care about him, but if i do this, he will literally have nothing, no roof over his head, no means of transportation, just his clothes really.
i want dont want be married to him, but i dont want to see him go homeless either.
i kicked around the idea of giving him time to get fast food job or something for quick money so he can get himself an apartment, but i am really not sure how to go about doing this
any words of wisdom? any suggestions on what to say, or the logistics of getting him out? i know this is worded harshly, but i dont know any other way to put

2007-07-09 08:56:36 · 9 answers · asked by Shake-Zula 3

I cheated on my husband in December with my ex. Then he caught me talking to another dude will two other and me and my bf well we have three kids together. I swear I have changed aIl lot and I go to church to help but my bf keeps giving crap and makes me feel worthless and unhappy. he accuses me everyday and runs his mouth about things and it is getting me tried. i mean he is giving me another chance but what do i do. Do i put up with it because I did so much wrong?

2007-07-09 08:53:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-09 08:52:17 · 27 answers · asked by Geronimo5 3

I cheated on my husband in December with my ex. Then he caught me talking to another dude will two other we have three kids together. I swear I have changed aI got o church for God to help but m7y bf keeps giving crap and makes me feel worthless and unhappy. he accuses me everyday and runs his moutha bout things and it is getting me tried. i mean he is giving me another chance but what do i do. Do i put up with it because I did so much wrong?

2007-07-09 08:51:47 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am going to list some things and Then I want your imput.

Husband won't stop looking at porn.

I have many faults but constently working on them or stoping things like quit smoking for him.

He Don't do anything at the house with out asking millions of times.

I am very depressed and not happy. I have put up with it to long and I don't know if I should work with him still or leave.

Only problem he is in counsling...and were in the process of moving to our first home together. He did good for months and looked at the porn again and just says he has no self control.

I just feel like I made the biggest most worst decision getting married to him and for putting up with this for so long.

Yes It is my fault I knew of this before I married him...I am already severly depressed, I just want some guidance on where to go from here Please don't say anything mean. I can't take it.

I am lost and have no one to talk to he is the only one I have.

2007-07-09 08:51:33 · 11 answers · asked by ina_ivy_love 3

it turns out that we got into an argument and i ended up leaving the house. i didn't want to go back home because i knew it would be ugly so i checked into a motel and guess what. she decides to go look for me and of course she finds my car parked at a motel. i can understand why she thinks that i cheated on her, but i didn't. i explained it to her a million times but no progress.

2007-07-09 08:50:22 · 27 answers · asked by **** 2

2007-07-09 08:47:44 · 16 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6

Personnally I think yahoo is the biggest collection or freaks, nut cases, and fools on the net. ANYONE who takes the "advice" given from the teenie bobbers and mentally ill internet addicts that troll this board is just plain foolish!

Peace out and remember, whne it comes to advice, yahoo is NOT the answer!

2007-07-09 08:45:51 · 30 answers · asked by Just_the_facts 1

2007-07-09 08:43:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

MY BABY'S FATHER AND I WERE TOGETHER FOR 2 1/2 YEARS WE WANTED A BABY AND WE TRIED OUR BEST BUT IT NEVER WORKED. WELL THE DAY WE STOPPED TRYING IT HAPPENED. I FOUND OUT 6 WEEKS LATER WELL EVERYTHING WAS GOING GOOD OR SO I THOUGHT TURNS OUT HE STARTED CHEATING ON ME HE LEFT ME 3 MONTHS PREGNANT AND AT THE POINT TO WHERE I ALMOST LOST THE BABY NOW THAT ME AND THE BABY ARE GOOD AND I'M BACK ON MY FEET HE WANTS ME BACK. I STILL LOVE HIM BUT THATS BECAUSE HE GAVE ME THE ANGEL OF MY LIFE BUT I KNOW FOR A FACT THAT ONCE A PLAYA ALWAYS A PLAYA SO SHOULD I TAKE HIM BACK

2007-07-09 08:39:23 · 17 answers · asked by playgirl69 1

My husband and I were serious issues within our marriage and general homellife. I moved out and took the kids with me. He has since begun counseling and seems to be trying to make the effort. In the meantime, I am living with my mom and being here introduces a whole stack of new issues. My husband wants me to come back home, and I want to go back. I want to be back in my own home, and I want my kids to be in their regular surroundings again. The problem is that my family will give me a ton of grief about it. Since the seaparation, they do not like my husband and are against me going back. I dont want them to think that I dont appriciate them putting us up and helping me out, but I really feel like I should go back home. I told my husband we can have separate rooms and work it out slowly, but I just want to bring us back for our general comfort. I know that they will still love me and all if I go back, I just worry that the relationship will be strained. What to do??

2007-07-09 08:35:55 · 17 answers · asked by My two cents 4

2007-07-09 08:35:46 · 14 answers · asked by ronald m 1

Hello, i recently got married and moved from my home country to be with my husband. Since i got here, i've found porn in his pc (cam stuff), condoms, well, a couple more sex-related things like that, and yesterday he accidentally put a tape in the vcr and it was porn. I'm a naive person and i feel weird about those things, but he says that all that stuff was from his friends who used to crash in his apartment (i'd rather believe that than believe it was his stuff), and now hes acting like he's mad at me and offended because he says i'm blaming him. I dont know what to do, i dont know how to act, i wasnt mad at him, i just told him that i dont know what reaction to have to all those things, i told him whats past is past but he's still mad at me. I told him he's not supposed to turn the tables on me like that. What should i do? How would expect your wife/gf to react?

2007-07-09 08:32:13 · 16 answers · asked by spidina 2

My fiance works for a video game developer and basically debugs games all day. On Friday nights he gets together to drink with his fellow gamer dorks usually at a reataurant/bar. Then they go back to one of the guys homes to play more video games. I want him to come home at a decent hour but he says he doesn't want to drive home drunk so sometimes he'll pass out there and come home early the next morning. He will send a text message to say he's too drunk to drive but I still feel really upset that he doesn't come home earlier. We have a 3 yr old together by the way. Am I being stupid and giving him too much freedom or is this just normal healthy guy stuff? Thanks! :)

2007-07-09 08:29:59 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am getting a divorce after a marriage that lasted a little over 6 yrs and for 2.5 yrs out of the 6 were spent seperated.That does no including the many more times we were on/off before formally(legally) seperating.Anyway after this last seperation one of the patrons of my husbands expensive resturant that serves (lithuanian,ukrainian,and russian cuisine)asked me out on a date we have been seeing each other a year now.This man always complimented me whenever he saw me at the resturant even slipped me a box of chocolates with a rose a few times and no i never cheated on my husband.My new man(the patron) is 10 yrs older than me russian business man from moscow works in jewlery particularly dimonds and as it turns out supplied the jewerly used at my wedding?He actually attended my wedding!?though i dont remeber him being there since we had some many guests but is this not really creepy?

2007-07-09 08:29:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

What looks hotter on a guy... a white polo shirt, or a yellow polo shirt? With jeans or shorts?

2007-07-09 08:12:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-09 08:12:20 · 9 answers · asked by Ashers 1

No....not the toilet!!!!

Every marriage has a chair. The chair represents the control seat of the marriage, and represents what the marriage revolves around. The person sitting on this chair is the person who is the control and center of the marriage. For a marriage to work, the person sitting on the chair needs to be the right person. In your marriage, who is that person? Choose from the list of possible combinations below.

1. The Husband
2. The Wife
3. The Husband and the Wife
4. No one at All
5. Jesus Christ

In our marriage, Jesus sits on that chair. However, there are times when we try and take control. Those are the days when everything goes wrong.

2007-07-09 07:57:58 · 11 answers · asked by Dead 2 Self 4

2007-07-09 07:57:07 · 13 answers · asked by DK 2

I want to leave my husband to be with someone else. I live in nevada and want to leave and go to CA. Can I legally just walk out and take kids with me? i know if i file for divorce i can't leave the state until it is finalized and judge ok's it. I want to try to beat that so i can leave sooner. I'm not trying to keep kids away from their dad. he's not abusive or anything, the marriage just is over. I will go out of my way for kids to see dad when ever possible and for the whole summer if need be. I just don't want to wait a year or longer for the divorce to go thru and what if judge says no. Is there away to just leave and then file? any suggestions?

2007-07-09 07:53:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

in general, life wise, workwise, personally? what makes you get up in the morning to go to college or work or both? ok i'll break the ice.


Every morning i try to wake up at six to be able to get myself ready and get my husbands lunch ready. Although i dont feel like getting up early the thing that motivates me is the fact that i can go to college and i am almost done with school. this motivates me because my husband would like to have the opportunity to go to school but he cant and i do it for the better of our future. so what is your motivation?

2007-07-09 07:51:06 · 8 answers · asked by Lovable ♥♥♥ 3

My boyfriend has never met his father. His mom says all these bad things about him and how horrible he was, but I'm not sure how much of that I believe b/c she's really dramatic. We had a daughter together last August and I think he thinks about his dad a lot more now that he's a father. My parents have been together all my life so I wouldn't know how he feels. I know there are probably a lot of people that have never met their father, so just kind of give me an idea of what you think.

2007-07-09 07:50:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

We just got married June 30th of this year. Everything was going well for a few days. All hugs -n- kisses! Until one night my husband decided to sleep on the floor. I thought it was very weird. I asked him why the next morning and he told me, sometimes he likes to sleep on the floor. So, I just let it go. Then it happened again 2 nights in a row, but only this time he sleeps in a whole another room. I asked him again, what is wrong? Is it me? or what? He said, it wasn't me at all, he just likes sleeping on the floor sometimes. I asked him, but why in another room? He could never answer me. So yesterday I just got fed up with it and called a friend and crashed at her place. I left him a little note stating, When I married you, we became one. If I wanted to be alone, I would have stayed single. Since you want to sleep and be alone. I'll let you be lonely!!! It may sound immature to some. But for a woman like me being 22, him 29, and never being out on my own, 1st marriage, it sucks! HELP

2007-07-09 07:50:11 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-09 07:43:55 · 14 answers · asked by Ashers 1