MY HUSBAND TOLD ME THIS MORING THAT HE DOSE NOT WANT TO DO THIS ANY MORE BY THAT HE WANT OUT OF THE MARRIGE . I AM EXPECTING TWINS I AM SO HEART BROKIN WHERE DID I GO WRONG I HAVE HIM EVERY THING NEVER TOLD HIM NO TO ANY THING HE WANTED TO DO I EVEN FORGAVE HIM FOR CHEATING ON ME WITH MY BEST FRIEND . WILL I EVER GET OVER THIS AND BE HAPPY AGAIN . HE'S MOVING WITH MY EX BEST FRIEND. I AM THE *** RIGHT TO HAVE FORGIVEN HIM WHY ARE MEN PIGS.
2007-07-09 09:08:07 · 21 answers · asked by mary 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your not an idiot we all do things in the name of LOVE, but we also learn from that. When he cheated and you choose to forgive him and let it go you should have been more stern then just to say ok dont do it again kind of thing.
One thing we tend to do is show how weak we can be to these men when they do something wrong. He seen that in you and he took it and ran with it knowing that you are a push over. Now that your expecting you cannot let your senses go down the drain, its going to be hard but your gonna have to put him on the back burner and get ready for the babies. Don't fight with someone who doesnt want to be with you, it will have you so miserable you will have a break down trying to please that person and hope they dont leave you. He said what he said and if he didnt mean it he wouldnt have said it. Prepare for the separation and also no matter what he says you petition the court for child support. If he has enough money to go out and enjoy his new life with his new friend he Da-- well has enough to take care of those children, no need for you to suffer trying to buy milk, diapers.
And dont back down when he gets bent out of shape about it hang up when he gets mad tell him you dont have time for his childish ways. You also make sure everytime he sees you, you look nice and refreshed, never let him see you sweat. The last thing we need is for him to think life is over for you cause he's not around and have him think you are weak. GOOD LUCK
2007-07-09 09:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep yourself together for your twins. They still need you to be their anchor in life.
Your husband is the one that is going to be the loser, he will be missing out on every day with his family because he choose to cheat.
It seems as if you may have been too easy on him, and in giving him everything and requiring little even faithfulness, you allowed him to walk all over you.
Use this as a learning experience and do not trust this man again. He is a user and a cheater, which is a bad combination.
Please get yourself some counseling and hire a lawyer to help you through all the legalities without getting walked on.
Your soon to be ex will only turn around and cheat on your ex friend also, and this pattern will never change, he is blaming his problems on whoever he is with...that is a sign of immaturity and no self esteem.
Best of luck to you and your twins, this can be done; become positive and act, do not react. Take charge of yourself and your children and move forward.
2007-07-09 09:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything wrong! Your "friend" was the wrong one. If he loved you and if she respected you, this wouldn't of happened. Don't stress too much because of your little babies. What he did to you, he'll most likely do it to her with someone close or even someone she hates, you'll see. It never fails. Take care of yourself and the babies, make sure you have all the proof and file it with you divorce. Forgiving is good just don't put up with his crap anymore cause it's a never ending story. The door has been open and no matter how much you or anyone tries to close it, it's cracked and it'll keep happening
2007-07-09 09:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where did you go wrong? You list four ways:
1. You gave him everything. In other words, you taught him to be greedy and selfish by spoiling him.
2. You never told him no. In other words, you behaved like a doormat.
3. You forgave him for cheating on you with your "friend" (it's in quotation marks, because, with friends like that, who needs enemies?). In other words, you taught him that there will be no consequences for bad behavior.
Despite all that you did to teach him to be a bad husband, you then go on to way #4 in which you went wrong:
4. You say men are pigs. You behave like a person who deserves to be treated like crap and then make gross generalizations that are not supported by this single example. In other words, you don't respect yourself, and you don't demand respectability in your mate.
2007-07-09 09:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let him get the best of u even though he is your husband and the man that should care for u... but u are a strong women and you will over come every obsticle that is thrown your way.. your going to have two beautiful kids taht are going to make ur life happy and complete.. so dont sit there and duell over a man thats acting like a pig!
2007-07-09 09:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're kidding right?? Sweetie, he cheated on you and always demanded his own way, and you want to know what YOU did wrong???? The only thing you did wrong was staying with him as long as you did!! Get some therapy so you can learn to stand up for yourself and stop getting into unhealthy relationships! Forget this loser - he's not worth your time.
2007-07-09 09:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be strong for your babies they will need you more as for your husband im sorry to say if he cheated on you with your so called best friend it is better that you found out now their relationship will only be based on lies not the love that you gave be strong now and prepare you life for the wonderful gift you will receive from your babies unconditional love surround yourself by people who love you and true friends and maybe start enquiring about meeting other single moms in your area i wish you all the love and luck in the world have faith in yourself you will find someone to love you never give up put yourself first
2007-07-09 09:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by nicola T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did what you thought was best. You can not blaim yourself and need to take this time to focus on yourself and the two beautiful twins you will be having. You and the twins are better to have figured this out now and not later.
You are stronger than this and will come through it! :)
2007-07-09 09:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by aitkenpatty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I hate to be so blunt, but you should never had gotten pregnant. But it is too late for that. MOVE ON. Start planning now to be the best parent you can possibly be, or he will come back and try to get the babies. GET INTO COUNSELING. And make sure he pays child support.
2007-07-09 09:15:27 · answer #9 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u married the wrong guy, it will take time to get over this one, but u are not to blame and u did nothing wrong, your husband did. he may be one of these men who doesn't like commitment, and responsibilities and is taking the easy way out of it, the cowards way.
2007-07-09 09:23:33 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋