I cheated on my husband in December with my ex. Then he caught me talking to another dude will two other we have three kids together. I swear I have changed aI got o church for God to help but m7y bf keeps giving crap and makes me feel worthless and unhappy. he accuses me everyday and runs his moutha bout things and it is getting me tried. i mean he is giving me another chance but what do i do. Do i put up with it because I did so much wrong?
2007-07-09 08:51:47 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to conquer your mistakes not run away from them...
2007-07-09 08:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's kinda tough to answer but I would say No. He shouldn't be making you feel worthless but you broke his heart and not only did you do this to your husband but you did this to your kids too. What if he didn't give you a second chance? then your children would have to go through a divorce right along with you. Maybe next time you feel like your gonna cheat, call your kids. As for your husband, he's feeling betrayed, insecure, jealous and so much more. If you really love him and want to make this work then you have to understand that this is not an easy fix and it's always going to be in the back of his head. Your relationship may never be the same and he might never be able to forgive you and get past this. If it continues to get worse and worse then I would let it go. Good luck with everything.
2007-07-09 15:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by chelsea 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A person who writes as poorly as you do is likely to be pretty stupid and as such will never be able to change their life to anything but the shambles it now is. No doubt you will continue in your own silly, misguided, ignorant way and will further screw up your life, your husband's life and the lives of your three children. But, of course, your children have your genes so already have three strikes against them there.
For those of you reading this, this woman and her kids who will likely eventually enter the adoption market are a good argument why adoption is a risky undertaking to be avoided at all costs.
2007-07-09 16:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way hes going to get over it is time and that may take years either that or he needs to cheat on you an eye for an eye . Do a threesome with him if you want to keep him or he may run off if he cheats with out you .
2007-07-09 16:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont really think it would be a good idea about going back not because off how he treats u but because u cheated on him that has to say something and if he's giving u a second chance mabey instead u could just ask for joint custidy. then there's also wat someparents do to were they live in the same house and pretty much sleep in the same bed or u can like sleep in difrent rooms w/e u want and wat u do is u both date other people and just introduce them as friends to ur kids and only ur friends and ur spouse no that ur dating other people that way the kids dont have to go through the oquard** mommy daddy custady and propperty battle devoirce.
2007-07-09 15:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by just ME 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to stay in this relationship, you need to know that it will take time for him to trust you again. It'll probably take a lot of time and a lot of accountability (let him know where you're going, who you're with & when you'll be back & consistently tell him the truth & let him know he can check up on you until trust is built up.
You also need counseling. You probably need couples counseling & each need individual counseling.
SG
2007-07-09 16:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by StacieG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're facing the consequnces of being faithless.
You're lucky he decided to stay with you at all, given he could celan you out in a divorce. The whole "Women get everything" rule breaks down when the woman has been running around screwing everythign with testosterone and a pulse.
2007-07-09 15:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by cornswalled 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if you love him yes.
In a way he's right and wrong. Really he shouldnt have given you another chance. But since he did, you need to get counseling for the both of you due to this difficult situation.
2007-07-09 15:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by djc07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No don't put up with it. In order for you two to reconcile your relationship there needs to be a line drawn. You both (him especially) need to let the past stay in the past. Agree with it, accept it, deal with it and MOVE ON! If he can't do it, then you will be constantly miserable being with him. Let him know that and hopefully it dies down. Good luck!
2007-07-09 15:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have really changed, then no, you shouldn't put up with constant verbal abuse. You should certainly expect him to be jealous of you going out alone, or something like that. You've lost his trust and have to prove it to him. If he actually accuses you instead of just asking first, or if he's calling you names or threatening to divorce you or something, then that is an unhealthy situation that you need to get out of.
2007-07-09 15:55:44 · answer #10 · answered by Dovienya 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your in the same boat I am. Once that trust is broken, you have a 98% chance of NOT getting it back. It sux I know, but things like that can't every really be fixed. It sounds like you guys may never get past this.
2007-07-09 15:57:48 · answer #11 · answered by satanicsex101 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋