2007-07-09 08:35:46 · 14 answers · asked by ronald m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Communication is vital to keeping a marriage not only together but healthy and thriving.
When communicating, you should agree on some basic ground rules. You should agree that you will only say things that are true and helpful or kind, you should "fight" clean and not bring up past hurts, you should avoid things like "you always" and "you never"...those are just some ideas for ground rules in communication.
When talking about feelings, it's important to help the other person to not feel like they're being attacked. If they feel attacked, they will get defensive and instead of listening to and trying to understand your feelings, they'll be working on their defense. One of the best formulas I've found in talking about feelings is, "I feel ___ when you ___ because ___." "I feel umimportant when you interrupt me because I was trying to talk about the situation." or "I feel threatened when you yell at me because it reminds me of how my dad dealt with me." are a couple examples.
Talk, talk, talk. See if there's 15 minutes you can carve out of your day that is just for the two of you. Tell any children you might have (that are three or older, probably) that this is Mom & Dad's time and they need some time together. Ask the little ones to play or read quietly...or maybe just have some alone time of their own. If you have really little ones, maybe you could do it during naptime or after their bedtime. It's important, though, so make the time. It can be on the couch, it can be a Starbucks over a mocha or a walk around a park, but make it a priority.
SG
2007-07-09 09:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by StacieG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-01-12 03:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. But you have to learn to communicate. Communication is compiled from listening (not "hearing") and discussion.
What tends to confuse some people is that they may have to change their technique of communication from person to person. i.e.. you talk to your spouse in one manner and your child in another. HOWEVER, when talking to two different adults you still have to change your way of communication to each subject. Many of us do it already but are unaware of it. Learning how to do it and use it is what helps save relationships of all kinds.
2007-07-09 09:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by Frosty Burton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication....open and honest...is most important. Then respect and trust don't become an issue.
2007-07-09 08:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely.
2007-07-09 08:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yeah, if you guys have no communication, everything is wrong! You need to talk to your partner about his/her feelings if not, then you won`t know if you guys are really meant to be together!
2007-07-09 08:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes communication is key in your marriage. Lack of coomunication is what results in divorce and adultry.
2007-07-09 08:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It and trust are the 2 main glues to any relationship.
2007-07-09 08:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by New Nana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one of the most important things.....
2007-07-09 08:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the glue that holds a relationship together.
2007-07-09 08:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋