MY BABY'S FATHER AND I WERE TOGETHER FOR 2 1/2 YEARS WE WANTED A BABY AND WE TRIED OUR BEST BUT IT NEVER WORKED. WELL THE DAY WE STOPPED TRYING IT HAPPENED. I FOUND OUT 6 WEEKS LATER WELL EVERYTHING WAS GOING GOOD OR SO I THOUGHT TURNS OUT HE STARTED CHEATING ON ME HE LEFT ME 3 MONTHS PREGNANT AND AT THE POINT TO WHERE I ALMOST LOST THE BABY NOW THAT ME AND THE BABY ARE GOOD AND I'M BACK ON MY FEET HE WANTS ME BACK. I STILL LOVE HIM BUT THATS BECAUSE HE GAVE ME THE ANGEL OF MY LIFE BUT I KNOW FOR A FACT THAT ONCE A PLAYA ALWAYS A PLAYA SO SHOULD I TAKE HIM BACK
2007-07-09 08:39:23 · 17 answers · asked by playgirl69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would never take him back, because he left u at a time when u needed him the most. he has a problem with commitment, and what makes u think that the same stuff will not crop up again, if u are okay now, don't take the risk with him don't let your guard down. he left u because he didn't want the responsibility and he didn't want to make the commitment, now he sees u are doing well and wants u back, but it is probably because things did not work out with him and the other woman, not because he has learned his lesson, or that he loves u, because if he truly loved u he never would have hurt u in the first place. don't fall for his lies again.
2007-07-09 09:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how hard it is, but if it was me I would say no. He left you for someone else and at such an important time in your life. Maybe it is just me and my morals I would say no. By all means if he wants to be involved with the kid then let him as he has a right to if he really wants to be apart of the kids life, but I don;t think he deserves a second chance with you. Everyone makes mistakes, but in my opinion cheating on someone is the ultimate mistake that should not be forgiven. Good luck with what ever decision you choose :)
2007-07-09 15:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by Mr looking for answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, are you nuts?! If you take him back, you'll be in store for some major heartache, headache, etc. This guy sounds like a loser...you don't need to associate with people like that when you have just gotten back on your feet. He'll just drag you down with him. If you have any doubts, just think about your angel. Your child doesn't need this type of negativity in his/her life. Your child needs a positive example and this loser is not the answer.
2007-07-09 15:46:19 · answer #3 · answered by J.C. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want a guy who cheated on you AND left you 3 months pregnant to be the one that is in your life and in the life of your child? She will watch him as she grows older, and you don't need to her to be thinking that it's okay to cheat on women. Have some respect for yourself and for your little one. He can be there for his child (and should be), but you don't need to give the guy a second chance to break your heart again.
2007-07-09 15:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by Manda B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope and you just answered your own question you think he is an imature player and once a player always one.Well you know him better than any stranger here so if you think that go with your gut and dont take him back.Maybe one day he will mature up but he most prove himself worthy of you if that day ever comes.
2007-07-09 15:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want him back? Do you think he'd stick around the next time things got tough? Do you really think he wouldn't cheat on you anymore?
If the answer to any of those is "No" then don't bother - find someone who deserves you and who deserves to be a father instead of just a sperm donor.
2007-07-09 15:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Up to you..but if you are not willing to put all this down completely, then NO. But, do sue for child support either way..have it legally in place, regardless of what you do. Taking him back has nothing to do with the security of your child. Good luck.
2007-07-09 15:46:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO..im going through the same thing(though im due Aug 10) it amazes me how they dont want to be bothered with you when your down but he's the reason whay you are...but when your grass gets greener he wants to come back over the fence to your side...lol (not)
...he helped me realize time is valuable and since he didnt value me why should i give him my time...it still hurts...but i know i can do better... im moving forward..!!!
2007-07-09 16:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by valued_maturity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you deserve someone who will stick with you thick and thin he deserted you when you needed him the most. move on it's not just about you anymore you have that beutiful baby to think about. do you want your child to consider him to be a role model
2007-07-09 15:48:33 · answer #9 · answered by sweet young thing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you try to have a child by a man who hasn't married you? I don't get that. And why would you take this man back, when he has proven himself to be unfaithful and undependable? Makes no sense.
2007-07-09 15:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋