I Didn't Go Home Last Night?

Question

We just got married June 30th of this year. Everything was going well for a few days. All hugs -n- kisses! Until one night my husband decided to sleep on the floor. I thought it was very weird. I asked him why the next morning and he told me, sometimes he likes to sleep on the floor. So, I just let it go. Then it happened again 2 nights in a row, but only this time he sleeps in a whole another room. I asked him again, what is wrong? Is it me? or what? He said, it wasn't me at all, he just likes sleeping on the floor sometimes. I asked him, but why in another room? He could never answer me. So yesterday I just got fed up with it and called a friend and crashed at her place. I left him a little note stating, When I married you, we became one. If I wanted to be alone, I would have stayed single. Since you want to sleep and be alone. I'll let you be lonely!!! It may sound immature to some. But for a woman like me being 22, him 29, and never being out on my own, 1st marriage, it sucks! HELP

Answer 1

IF? You really want to save your marriage then you have to pray to the Lord starting immediatly. I have no idea why or what is happening in your life but you must really pray about it.

Answer 2

congratulations, newlyweds;)
since you've been married fairly recently, i assume you're still on the honeymoon stage..
how was sex, by the way? sorry, i dont mean to ask such a personal question, but did you both have a good time? are you sure that he was satisfied?did he have problems satisfying you?
you should have talked to him about the sleeping issue when it happened 2 nights in a row, not after he moved in the other room. Even if he couldnt answer you, you still should have talked to him...it wouldnt have hurt to open up and tell him that you are seriously offended with him moving out of your room.
Crashing at your friend's place wont solve your problems. Go home, talk to your husband, let him know how exactly you're feelin right now, and ask him - once again- why he moved out. Dont take silence for an answer. You're married, for chrissakes! If one of you has a problem, it's both your problem! Just assure him that whatever reason he has, you'll try your hardest to understand, and do whatever you can to help out or solve whatever it is. Dont sulk and mope and leave messages for him. You wont get to the core of it unless you talk it out.
goodluck!

Answer 3

Sorry to hear that you're going through this as a Newlywed. They say that the first few years of a marriage are the hardest. I understand how you are feeling but I have learned through experience that COMMUNICATION will bridge any gap and NEVER go to bed angry. I agree that once you got married you became ONE with each other. With that in mind, keep trying to have an open line of communication. You did at least try to let him how it's making you feel by writing him a note. Now you need to talk to him face to face. Marriage is not something that should be taken lightly. I am not sure what your religion is or if you are of any religion, but I would suggest praying and keeping God first and ask him to help you in your quest for communication.

I am not going to bash you or your situation as my marriage had issues in the beginning and we lived together for a year before we got married. I am only giving you the same advise that was given to me and that has proven to be effective. I can talk to my husband about any and everything.

Good luck and may God Bless you and your marriage.

Answer 4

Sleeping on the floor is strange. I did it once when I was having muscle spasms in my back, but not as a matter of course. My wife and I have been happily married for 20 years and sleep in separate rooms because I snore and it is the only way for both of us to get a good night's sleep. You probably need to talk with him rationally before leaving. Don't give up on your marriage after a few days. I am sure there is a reason for his liking to sleep on the floor in another room, but he should be honest with you. Your marriage will fail if you continue to leave when anything bothers you.

Answer 5

I think you're being immature. My husband and I SLEEP IN SEPARATE ROOMS & BEDS. The truth is many people do it. He works second shift so he's not home at night anyway and on the weekends we like to relax & we do not like to watch the same shows. If other things in your marriage are fine then I wouldn't worry about it.

I just read in a magazine that John Travolta and Kelly Preston sleep in separate rooms because he snores. It's a reality.
My husband said just this morning that we do more talking than average couples. He calls me on his way to work at night so we talk the entire way there and on weekends we do take walks together.
I do think you have an issue. He can't explain why he likes to sleep on the floor or in another room???

Answer 6

Guess what everyone has quirks. And if that is your attitude about what happened you were far too immature to get married. Stop being a baby and act like an adult. Being 22 is no excuse for being immature you should know better. Go home talk it out. There could be a thousand reasons why he sleeps on the floor find out what they are and address them. Stop acting like a two year old

Answer 7

You did very well trying to communicate first before leaving and leaving a note explaining how his bizarre sleeping ritual makes you feel. Now that you have given him time to think, go back and try to open the lines of communication again. You two cannot have a successful marriage unless you are BOTH totally open and honest and communicate all the time especially in odd cases like this because it seems he is blowing it off.
It could also be that he is not used to sleeping with someone else and is trying to adjust. He may need to sleep elsewhere to get a decent night sleep because another body in bed with him may cause him trouble with sleeping.
With my first marriage, I didn't mind cuddling before I fell asleep with my husband but when it was time to actually go to sleep, I could not be touching him or I would sleep like absolute crap and feel wretched the next day. It is just a sleeping quirk, everyone has them, needing their own blanket, having to have a fan blowing on them, needing a little light, can't sleep with socks on etc.

Answer 8

When i get really fed up with my wife I would leave for the other room, b/c I wouldnt get any sleep by lying next to her.

The way she'd treat me would make me so upset I couldnt relax and its pretty wierd sleeping next to someone youre angry at...

My anger was usually from being rejected so many times from my advances. You need to try to talk to your husband b/c hes not being 100% forward with you....noone sleeps on the floor b/c they want to...I bet he is upset with you and the fact you took off to your friends and left an equally immature note most likely only made it worse.

Answer 9

That is very weird on his part. It may not be you since he is sleeping on the floor. If it was you, why not sleep on the couch. Could it be something with his religion? Has he contacted you since you didnt go home? See what happens over the next few days. Good luck

Answer 10

I would sit him down and ask him what the deal is and to answer you flat out of say goodbye until he becomes a man and stops this romper room crap. My ex did the same thing when she started cheating, first on the floor then in the living room so I hope it is not that but he made you a promise to love you no matter what, confront him or kick him out.
The first reaction is usually the correct one.

Answer 11

That is really too bad for you, I am very sorry. I think you two need to sit down and have a serious discussion. Your note was very good and makes for a good starting point of your discussion. It is better to find out now if something is wrong and this marriage will not work rather then hanging around for years wondering.