My parents have been on the verge of a divorce for months now. My mom has already seen a lawyer and has filled out divorce papers but she hasnt filed them. She is waiting for things to get bad again.
The other night i asked my mom if she loved my dad and she said 'of course'. this answer didnt satisfy me so i asked if she was 'in love' with him and she said 'its complicated' I told her that i didnt want them staying together just because of me.
today she called from work and asked me of i wanted to leave or not and i told her 'i guess'. she said that we would talk about it later. I dont really know what to say to her.
i want to leave, its hard seeing my parents fight all the time. I dont know how i am to tell her this though. But i guess the real reason i am posting this is for your views and for your support.
Thank you and God bless
2007-07-09 09:08:18 · 5 answers · asked by Rissa! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
by the way i am 13
2007-07-09 09:12:01 · update #1
Sweetie, you're going through a rough time, and I'm sorry you have to see your parents marriage break apart. Your mother (and your father, both) love you and all you need to do is talk to her honestly about your feelings. She only wants the best for you. Just tell her what you told us that you hate to see them fighting all the time. If she leaves and you want to leave with her, just let her know that. Don't worry about what you're going to say to her, just follow your heart. I will keep you in my prayers.
2007-07-09 09:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know what to say, you can say that! Your feelings are obviously mixed up and confused in a situation where you shouldn't have to be called on to make judgment calls. You shouldn't have to say, "please stay" or "please leave", or be pressed for that answer, because in a way you probably want both -- to stay if they can straighten things out, and to leave if they are just bent on fighting.
So be honest about your confusion! Separation and divorce are just messy and not easy for anyone. If anything, you might nudge your mom to pursue counseling -- if your parents are perpetually fighting, it may be a sign that a counselor might just be more effective than a lawyer.
You are obviously a kind-hearted person to say "God bless" at the end of such a post. I wish you God's strength and a sense of peace to run through you in the midst of the mess. Hang in there.
2007-07-09 09:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by waldguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that you and your family are going through this rough time.
You do sound very kind and mature.
Tell your Mom that you trust her judgement, and that you will try to be as helpful and supportive as you can. And let both your parents know you love them. If this divorce does happen, you can still have a happy family life, specially if after its all over, they can both talk to each other and communicate about you and family in a mature, reasonable, friendly way. Don't be scared, I know your Mom will do whatever is best for you. You shouldn't have to worry yourself over all this, and there are probably some issues going on that you don't fully know about.
:)
Good luck to you.
2007-07-09 09:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are verry mature for a 13 yo, and props to you for handeling this that way, im am also the product of divorce and we all live through it even though it may sound like the world is over, but its not, love your mother and your father dont allow one to talk bad about the other to you, and enjoy what you do have with each other, and if it gets too much remember, now you get two X-masses
2007-07-09 09:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by eyesinthedrk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck and hang in there. I know this is hard right now, but who knows, maybe things will improve.
2007-07-09 09:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋