I am a normal muslim and so is my husband. But since we came to Australia some muslim families want to mix with my family through my husband whom I consider extreme (their wives wearing borkhas/hijabs and husbands with long beards and very dominating). I already have friends who are normal white Australians and also from various nationalities and we go along very well. We invite them to our house and we go to theirs because by background we are not conservative, rather very liberal people. Now the problem is that when my husband invites these muslims to my house their wives have a tendency to try to take me into their groups by saying my husband is good friends with their husband so we should be good friends too. But I do not like them or their lifestyles and I am happy the way I am. Tell me what to do to get rid of these people and what should I say to stop them from coming to my house?
2007-07-09 13:41:18 · 9 answers · asked by love 2008 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I sometimes refuse to accept their invitations so that I do not have to return theirs later. Am I doing the right thing?
2007-07-09 14:02:52 · update #1
I would try to explain to them that even though we are the same basic religion, we evidently have a difference of opinion in the way we live our lives. While you appreciate the invitation to join them in their group, you currently have no time to join them; but if you ever decide to change your mind, you'll let them know. Thank you, but no thank you.
2007-07-09 13:54:45 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should know that posting here will get your primarily westerners' suggestions. This is an important point because you are addressing a cultural question or behavior. The group you wish to dissociate with is from a different culture. So what works in western cultures most likely don't work in your case.
It seems that much depends on your husband. Suppose you go out frequently as a western woman and your husband doesn't object, then he is your greatest ally. If these friends are steadily influencing him, you are up for a disaster.
2007-07-09 20:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
here is the best answer to get rid of houseguests, no matter the situation..invite them over every night for a few days and eat with them and be polite and then on the 3rd night right after dinner is over lay all the plates on the floor and have your dog (or borrow someones) lick all the plates clean and then put them up like its no big deal, theyll think youre gross and never want to come over again.. good luck
2007-07-09 21:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by lifeissimplysweetandsour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have a discussion with your husband that these extremists make you very uncomfortable and they should him as well and that you would prefer they are not invited to your home.. You also have the right to tell these types of women that you are not interested in their lifestyle and don't care to fit in. This is what freedom is about. The right to make decisions as to how we live, who we see, and how we dress. Take a stand and speak up for yourself. They can see that you choose not to be invisible so don't be and don't let your husband choose your friends. It is insulting to see women in free countries wearing burkas etc. Don't give in to them and their idealogy.
2007-07-09 20:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it seems that a conversation with your husband might be a good starting point. He should know how you feel and stop inviting those people.
2007-07-09 20:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by ((♫♥♪♫♥♪♫ Shivers ♫♥♪♫♥♪)) 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should stop them but set boundaries...one can not ignore others because of their lifestyles...we all must respect each other cultural differences in order to all get along...set your boundaries within your territory, this may keep them from choosing to enter your space but if they choose to enter, be yourself...it may be that they are more interested in your ways than persuading you to theirs.
2007-07-09 20:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know how you could get rid of them all. Invite them for a meal and cook pork, I swear they never cross your door again.
2007-07-09 20:46:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
seems like you have no great muslim value in you. don't see why others are treating you nice and you are not being appreciative.
2007-07-09 21:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by Bront L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoop their butts?
2007-07-09 20:45:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋