I am mad because ever since my husband has gotten this game console he has done nothing except been on IT!!! He wont keep ajob or even look for one anymore, He wont help clean or cook when he is hungary he asks me all the time for stuff, and if I dont get it for him he doesnt eat and complains his head hurts cus of it. He doesnt do the greatest job watchin the kids..they are in to everything by the time I get home. Anyways my question is Is this an addiction? What can I do about it? Does anyone else have this problem. If I mention that he is on it too much and try to get him off and to spend time with me and the kids he makes up excuses not to go or he just gets mad...I am at my wits end and really thinking bout divorce..but why over such a stupid thing..if he were working and playing it .I wouldnt care. HELP!!!!
2007-07-09 06:34:20 · 9 answers · asked by QTforlife 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For some, the games are addicting. Not sure of any website that can help you, other than calling around to marriage counseling centers. They would probably lead you in the right direction.
If I were in your shoes, I would remove the X-Box from the home, and tell him unless he gets a job you will pawn the silly thing off to help pay some bills.
Maybe when you drop the kids off at daycare, see if they'll take your husband too.
2007-07-09 06:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to sit down with him and have a serious talk. But before that I would try to teach him a lesson. If it were me, as a female, I would probably tease my way into getting him away from the game system. If he doesn't stop playing for that then there is something seriously wrong with him. Perhaps he doesn't like women anymore if that is the case. But if plan works, then keep in interested and then just stop! Don't go any further! Just start reading a book or something and act like you are really into it like he does with his games. Then I would ask him to get you a glass of ice water or something. Perhaps wake him up in the middle of the night and ask for some eggs and toast or something lol. Just make sure he knows how you feel.
2007-07-09 13:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anthony C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is addicted. Anytime something takes someone away from really important things like work and school, it is an addiction. I think the best thing you can do is tell him that you will leave over this, and maybe take yourself and the kids away for a couple of weeks so he can see what he is causing. Go to your parents' or a friend's house. Good luck.
2007-07-09 13:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you have had serious conversations about this topic and nothing has changed, you do not have an addiction, you have an immature husband.
It is one thing to be lazy and your priorities out of line, it is another to neglect your own children. If you believe their health and safety are at risk under his care, you must become the mature adult in this relationship and take action ~ counseling, separation, divorce, etc.
We all have our vices, his just causes more harm to your family than what should be tolerated.
2007-07-09 13:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by Open Your Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he just ignored you but still functioned in everyday life I would say just wait for the new to wear off and get over it but it sounds like you can't do much worse alone than with him. Cut him loose and see how long he stays addicted to his video games when he's sitting on a park bench b/c there is nobody there to be the adult for him.
2007-07-09 13:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by Neka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1] hide the comtrols - put them in someone else's house
[ also hide the money, credit cards, and atm card.
2] refuse to return them or buy a new one until he goes to counseling with you
Then:
3] do not feed him. medicate him, etc.until you go to counseling
Then:
4] don't leave - kick him out! You married a grown man, not a 12 year old child! if he can't be a grown-up, get rid of him - and if anyone asks, tell them why
2007-07-09 15:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry bout it cuz if he keeps playing it like alot alot then 1 day the xbox will mess up and hes gonna have to send it bak to microsoft for them to fixx it ioo let him keep playing soo u can get ur revenge!!
2007-07-09 13:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by Syph3onn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's addicted to it and that is a problem. They are fun though...
"Game consoles and wives will forever
be arch enemies"
- Pimp SugaWater
2007-07-09 13:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it means you must of married a 13year old kid
2007-07-09 13:37:23 · answer #9 · answered by im feelin this 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋