my man looks at porn on the computer (he thinks I don't know) often - and believe me we have sex often too! What I don't get is why he finds it necessary to look at porn "after" we have had sex when I am not in the room? Am I not satisfying him or is it just a guy thing? Help me understand this whole porn turn-on thing. Ladies - if your man looks at porn everyday - how do you handle it?
2007-07-09 07:34:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not sure why he isn't satisfied by your sexual encounters. I'm usually good to go for several hours afterward.
However, it sounds like he has a stronger sex drive than you do.
2007-07-09 07:40:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't justify somebody having a porn addition, whether he's getting sex on a regular basis or not. Chances are he had the problem before you and him got together. I have been through this. My husband would look at it while I was asleep, before I got home from work (he got off before I did), anytime I left the house, etc. I got tired of it. I tried to accept it and join in but it just wasn't me. I was just accepting it to make things right between us. If you don't like it, you should tell him and if he really loves you then he will be willing to get some help. The sad thing is that my husband still hasn't quote unquote gotten any help for it. He claims he hasn't looked at any porn in the past few months but I don't believe him, and I don't have the energy to follow-up behind him right now. I believe some women say it's okay for their man to look at porn just to make the man happy. It thing is an unecessary hobby to have. It's NOT okay nor it is normal for a man to spend time looking up some other woman's butt.
2007-07-09 07:44:39 · answer #2 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Men look at porn because of some of the things they see they have never done with their own partner. We talked about that and I allow him to pick one thing a month to do that we have never done. Some of it works out some we never do again. There are only so many things that can be done I think he will soon run out of ideas. Then maybe he will not be curious anymore.
2007-07-10 07:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by amyc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all - it is NOT normal. Lots of men do it - but that doesnt' make it right. Porn destroys thousands of marriages a year. He's looking at porn because he's addicted. If he's still getting sex from you and still feels a need to look - he's got a serious problem. I personally wouldn't put up with it but it depends on whether or not it bothers you? And if it does - SAY SOMETHING! Too many women step back and don't voice their concerns because they are told it's normal. If it bothers you - you have a god-given right (as his WIFE) to say so.
2007-07-09 07:39:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
Ok, I have been there, too. My husband watched a lot of movies after I went to bed, or even in the morning before I got up. We had plenty of sex, as well. When I first found out, I was furious, then I began to accept it. It did not mean he loved me less, or desired me less, it is just something men do. The women of porn are not in reality, it's just a fantasy thing. Of course, we are seperated now... but that is not the reason. I think it is normal. Good luck.
2007-07-09 07:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca H 1 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Do you two try new things while having sex? He may be watching porn to learn new positions to heat up things between you two.
2007-07-09 07:39:49 · answer #6 · answered by AL ASPIRATED 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. Do you continue to love him after your sex?. Pls check it. There are many women, who are violent against their hub in the day time....like abusing him, have lots of quarrel, talks against him....
2. Do you have enough fore-play?. If the thing is short, make it lengthy.
2007-07-09 21:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by murali_siddharth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am still young (mid 20s) and after the fiance and I have a long lasting romp she's completly worn out, but after about 20 minutes I want to go again and so I go off to the PC and rub one out on my own.
It doesn't mean I love her less, it just means that I seek alternate means. I am not going to pressure her for more when she's worn out. Also sometimes it feels good to do it yourself.
As well, you say you have sex 'a lot'. Perhaps your a lot and his a lot are 2 totally different numbers.
2007-07-09 07:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by Chris O 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I just saw this post on DearSugar that may help you out. Check it out.
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2007-07-09 10:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is biology. Men need variety. It has nothing to do with you. He could be shacking up with a porn queen and would still be surfing the net.
2007-07-09 07:42:40 · answer #10 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋