this might be my last chance with the girl i love. i talked to my x gf this past weekend and she told she might be gettin engagement and leaving to california with this guy that she met 2 months ago she live out of state but she came to town for a conference i asked to meet and she agree, she agree to meet me with the attention of just seeing but it ended up that her feelings resurrected for me. i love her too. we talked and i told her to not leave with me that it should be me that should be with at the end of the convo she told me she is torn between me and this new guy she still loves me but is scare of getting hurt again but she also mention now she is confuse, she also mention his negative side. i ask her think about it and she said she will, because she doesnt want to leave with him and be thinking about me she call me 5x today and text me 4x
what can i do to convince her that i m the one for her
any one ever in this situation
2007-07-09 05:57:31 · 17 answers · asked by simple J 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if it's meant to be, fate will play out.
don't push too hard for it, or you'll push her away.
just let her know how much you love her.
2007-07-09 06:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by Kaja 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have no idea what has gone down with you two in the past. But it sounds as if it weren't so hot. I suggest you be very careful here, your affections don't seem to hold up in the long run..only by threatening you with marrying another do you feel panic. Make sure you are NOT losing a toy in this deal, not a girl friend. IF you are operating out of possessiveness, you are going to hurt this lady very deeply. It is odd to me that all these feelings suddenly pop up when she is about to leave. Stand back, take a breath, and see what happens...if see leaves, it is for the best. If she stays, I hope it is for the best. Again, be very careful here, you may be biting off more than you really want to chew.
2007-07-09 13:03:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's planning on leaving with a guy she met two months ago?!? It doesn't sound like she really knows what she wants. If you try and pull her to you and it isn't really what she wants she will only end up feeling resentment towards you in the end. Tell her her choice has to be her decision no matter what she decides. Then give her some space so she has time to think about what it is she really wants. If it is to be with you there isn't anything you need to do but wait. If she just wants a way out of this new relationship it is easy to fall back towards the old instead of looking forward to the new. Honestly though, it really sounds like she doesn't want to be with this guy or you, but wants you as a security net. That isn't really in your best interest. It sounds like you really care about this girl, but you have to look out for yourself too. I hope it all works out for you no matter what she decides.
2007-07-09 13:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. This sounds like a case of wanting what you can't have. I think she should go back to her life and make a rational decision. If she wants to pursue a relationship with you, then she will need to break up with her boyfriend. She may get back to her life and discover she still wants to marry him after all. That's a risk that you should be willing to take.
If she stays here without facing "the real world" you will both have regrets later. Soon you would lose the romantic rush that comes with the unattainable.
Tell her how you feel and encourage her to go home and think about what she wants and to make a well-thought-out decision. That will show that you both love and respect her.
2007-07-09 13:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unfortunately there isn't really anything you can do, and if she does decide to leave him for you and things don't work out she will be scorned forever.
I think you need to talk to her again and tell her there is no pressure but that you were simply laying your feelings on the line for her.
I know how much it hurts to let someone you love go, but trust me in the end It MAY be the best decision.
Only god knows what will happen next..let her go and if she comes back perhaps it's meant to be.
I wouldn't push the issue or you may be sorry later on..good luck!
2007-07-09 13:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by CJ&Drewsmomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear troop, what a tangled web you weave! As much as you probably don't want to hear this, I think you should stand back now. You have declared your undying love to her and she now has to decide. It's not something you should expect her to be able to do at a click of your fingers. She has obviously spent a long time with her bloke and they have built a life together. Maybe she has financial commitments with him, they may have a house together.... it could be messy to just drop her bloke and go for you. I think all you can do now is let time take its course and hope that it brings you both back together. xx
2007-07-09 13:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to go after her steal her away . Bring her some flowers and get down on your knees and propose to her in a loving way . You might get an asskicking from the guy she is engaged to but it will be worth it . Oh and make sure he kicks your *** in front of her to so you will get more sympathy when she tries to stop him from killing you !
2007-07-09 13:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by wishingstar5555 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been here before dude. Someone is is torn between you will never give all of them to you. Just let her go, trust me there are many people out there who you'll love, and they'll love you back just as much.
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2007-07-09 13:02:11 · answer #8 · answered by Belkin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show her that you wont break her heart, take her out... call her constantly and tell her how badly you want her. and how you know you can make it work this time, because there is no doubt in your mind that you want her and only her! but i hope you arent lying cuz ur making her leave this other guy for you! Good Luck! =)
2007-07-09 13:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by Lil Shorty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey....I think you've really done all you can to convince her and she seems to be responding well. If you want to go really extreme, and really love her, you could always propse to her. Just remember marriage is a HUGE financial and emotional responsibility so really be sure if you're gonna go that route. Re-post and let us know how it turns out. Hope it works out for you. Good luck.
2007-07-11 14:26:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you've got to step aside and let her make her decision. You don't want to pressure her to choose you and then if things don't work out between you two she'll blame you for ruining her chances with the other guy. Of course he has a negative side - everyone does! She's got a big decision to make. If she knows how you feel, let her make her decision without extra pressure from you. You should want her to make the best decision she can for herself.
2007-07-09 13:02:00 · answer #11 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋