Me and my husband have been married 11 months and we don't have sex. We had a child before we got married and he's 3 now but our sex life used to be wonderful we would have sex 2-3 times a day. It was wonderful. Then I got pregnant with my son and started producing milk and he kind of got grossed out about it so my whole pregnancy we didn't have sex what so ever. Then we do it once a month if I was lucky. And then we got married and didn't even have sex on our wedding night! I ask him is it me do you not find me attractive but he says he does. And that the problem is that we have both put on more weight then we liked and he says that we are too fat to have sex, so we have been married 11 months and he still hasn't done anything about losing weight but I have lost about 45 pounds. So what's the deal, with him why doesn't he want to loose weight so we can have regular sex again? I am so frustrated with this. How can I talk to him about this?
2007-07-09 07:28:32 · 11 answers · asked by Melanie N 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe he is depressed or having some emotional issues. I too have gained more weight than I would like. I also have self-esteem issues and I am depressed. That has severely affected our sex life. I am always worried about bills, etc. and if I don't have a clear mind I think nothing about sex. Sometimes I just have to relax and do it ... something is going on with your husband though. Maybe he can go talk to a counselor.
2007-07-09 07:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being over weight can certainly shut down a persons sex drive. I would advise you to see if you can seek counseling for this problem. The counselor will probably advise you to start working out together and eatting healty. Make sure he knows how important this is to you. Perhaps he doesn't realize.
2007-07-09 14:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by Angie D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and let him know that you are a young woman and need sex in your life. You have done your part by loosing weight, now it's his turn. Make love to you or explain why he can't. You are a young woman and need sex...
2007-07-09 14:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it has anything to do with weight gain or loss. There is another issue at hand. Did he want to have children, was he ready for marriage? Maybe he feels trapped. Not trying to be rude just feel there is something else going on.
2007-07-09 14:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by curious1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jump him in the shower. If you want sex initiate it. We kinda think thats sexy.
As far as the weight goes, invite him, to do what ever your doing, and then Jump him again. We really like that
Good luck
2007-07-09 14:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by Brett H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey just because you are fat doesnt mean you cant have sex . I think you need to get rid of the lazy *** and find someone that loves you
2007-07-09 14:59:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even the most fun roller coaster gets tiresome after a while. There are just so many times you can do anything and it stops being as much fun. This is normal human nature.
2007-07-09 14:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by Steve C 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if he thinks you 2 have put on too much weight - tell him you need to "sexercise" to help take it off.... hehe ... might get you a little bit :)
2007-07-09 15:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by lambchop09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you marry my ex husband?
2007-07-09 14:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to tell him how you feel about it, do not sugar coat it... its a serious issue,
2007-07-09 14:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋