Marriage & Divorce - 1 July 2007

My wife of fifteen years left with my four kids. We had a fight. Things got bad. She left. I was arrested and jailed for 28 days. She didn't press charges, but the Police did. I am under orders not to contact her or the kids until my case is resolved, which will still take many weeks to resolve. I really love her and the kids, and am making changes in my life to deal with my issues. Should I hold out hope of us ever getting back together? Having no contact for so long is driving me crazy. Can someone out there offer me any hope? Be honest. I am dealing with things one day at a time.

2007-07-01 18:21:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I saw the interest in his eyes and I felt connected with him. Do you think it could work?

2007-07-01 18:14:57 · 12 answers · asked by lovelyeyes 1

to get married? should it matter at all cuz they say it takes a good year to know someone maybe depending on how much you see them in the beginning i think? opinions, please. thanx

2007-07-01 18:12:07 · 20 answers · asked by sweetnstubbornsensitive 3

ive ben dating my gf for about 6 months but ive known her for about 4 years.. i know her like the back of my hand... i want to be with her and love her for the rest of my life... should i ask her to marry me... i know she loves me and we have spoken about marriage... what should i do?

2007-07-01 18:10:20 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do you do when an ex comes back into your life after 20 some years. And they say they only want to be friends.But what do they really want?

2007-07-01 18:10:09 · 14 answers · asked by lisaurban_2000 2

My husband and I have been together 9 years now, 4 of those married. 6 years ago he cheated on me and I can't seem to get over it. I love him so much and I know he loves me just as much. At the time I was really unaffectionate toward him. I barely showed him any affection. Neither of us knew I was Bipolar until a couple of years ago. He's told me everything there is to know about what happened between him and the girl and that he just wanted to be wanted, but for some reason it's not enough. I've never seen the girl until recently I was at a friends funeral and she just happened to be there and my sister recognized her. I went home and told my husband that I had finally seen her. That brought the whole situation back up between me and my husband. He keeps saying I should be over it by now and that I'm the one he married and had a child with and he loves me. Please help me. I need some advice on how to let this go.

2007-07-01 18:09:17 · 13 answers · asked by closure 2

We've been together for 15 years, and married now for 6 years. He cheated on me before. A whole secret life deal. While I was pregnant with our first child. I was 17 at the time. We reconciled, married, and have had another child since then. He started a new job working 3rd shift. I knew it would be hard on him so basically I babied him. He would stay up all night long even on his days off, and I would let him sleep all day. Yes I did talk to him about it. He made the usual excuses. So even though I would cry myself to sleep most nights I allowed it to continue. Then I found out the reason why he stayed up all night. It was talking to girls on the internet. (Some local, some not) I thought we were finally at a point in our lives where our family and relationship was coming together. I WAS happy. Now I am not. The trust is gone. I don't even look at him the same way. All we seem to do now is argue and my kids are seeing it. Is it possible that sometimes love isn't enough???

2007-07-01 18:02:21 · 11 answers · asked by reel_diva 2

im 19, and by the time i become say 40 or so i wanna have a son without a wife. the reason for this is because my parents broke up, and so my view of marriage and love is very superficial. but i still wanna have a kid. i just dont want my son to experience the pain of seeing his parents separate, as i have. is this a good idea?

2007-07-01 17:55:39 · 30 answers · asked by teenboy19 1

"Mate" of 3yrs, best friends for 5 years...I found a number on the phone bill that he had been calling several times a day, some days more than he would call me. Found messages on his voicemail from "her," nothing that REALLY indicated a "REAL" relationship, but "she" seemed like too close of a friend...and I never met her. They have been "friends" for 3 months according to him. [and the phone bills] I also had a miscarriage at 3months just recently...I confronted him about this "friend," and he apologized and said he would stop all communication with "her," and change his phone number. Well he never changed the number, and 1 week later [the day we were "celebrating" our "healthy" relationship] I heard ANOTHER message that she left him. "She" said she was returning his call. I wont be 100% sure that this is the same person until the phone bill comes out in about 3 weeks...but I am about 99.8% sure that this is the same person.

Now my question is do YOU think I should confront him?

2007-07-01 17:50:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My bf and I have been together 8 months and are doing wonderful. He tells me all the time i'm someone he could see himself with for life.... I'm 24 he's 23.

I watched a show about vegas weddings and playfully he says lets go get married. I say smiling and laughing OK meet you there! Later, he's asking me different scenarios and what would i do if x y and z was going on in his life, would I be there by his side and i'm answering accordingly to the situation. he makes a comment that i'm so good to him and when i try to respond, he blurts out "can I ask you something serious?" I say yes. There's a long pause and I get nervous. He says " Depsite how long we've known each other if I asked you to marry me right now what would you say?" I told him I would say yes and he asked would I have to think about it. I say no. I asked him would he consider popping the Q he says deffinetly if he's asking me about it.

Do you think the marriage gears are turning in his head? what does this mean?

2007-07-01 17:45:38 · 8 answers · asked by Berta 1

past 5yrs i am enjoying the x-dressing i looks so beautifull and sexy than a real woman. i am very happy to have this fitness
now i got married i love my wife somuch. now i wanna convince her to for my x-dressing support. becoz i cannot stay without doing xdressing. it is a part in my life. i do seecretly but really i enjoy it. even some times i shown some of x dressing sites for her she apreciated some of the beautifull x dressers(tg) also. now please guide me how can i convince her - and how can i make my life happyness please help me

2007-07-01 17:43:12 · 11 answers · asked by sonu 1

He calls me names...he screams in my face...tells me that he hates me and wished he never married me..that he doesn't care ...that he is gonna find some "hot A** B****and F*** her and that it's going to feel sooo good...He tells me he doesn't care at all...just to go ahead and leave...that he is sick of me...I offered free counseling...but he doesn't want to spend the gas money (it's 15 min away)...... I want to hold on to my marriage but not like this..should i divorce him now?

2007-07-01 17:33:41 · 23 answers · asked by beautiful_mind1217 2

WE have known them for years, they are our best friends. We are going to Vegas and sharing the same room. What kind of things should we prepair for? Or what should we expect. I don't know if I'm ready for this?

2007-07-01 17:32:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I posted a question last week asking if my marriage could be saved. Well since then I found out my wife had an affair (her second in 6 years) and I am devastated. After the first one we came to an agreement on ways to fix our marriage, but unfortunately neither one of us acted on them. So now we're back to square one. We have 2 beautiful children and I truly love this woman, but am I fooling myself by trying to make it work again? Do you think counseling and really making an effort can work this time or is she bound to continue this behavior when things aren't going well? Please advise.

2007-07-01 17:32:08 · 19 answers · asked by almost_pa 1

doing the oral wrong :0

2007-07-01 17:29:11 · 13 answers · asked by 4xsamommie 3

I posted a question last week asking if my marriage could be saved. Well since then I found out my wife had an affair (her second in 6 years) and I am devastated. After the first one we came to an agreement on ways to fix our marriage, but unfortunately neither one of us acted on them. So now we're back to square one. We have 2 beautiful children and I truly love this woman, but am I fooling myself by trying to make it work again? Do you think counseling and really making an effort can work this time or is she bound to continue this behavior when things aren't going well? Please advise.

2007-07-01 17:26:24 · 11 answers · asked by almost_pa 1

My husbands friend is totally hott. He flirts with me and when we went to the store he grabbed me and placed a deep passionate kiss on my lips and asked me to leave my husband and come to him. I know that he is a good man and that he would treat me so much better than my husband but I do love my husband.
I am so torn. I have really got to know this guy over the past 2 years and he has grown on me. I am not a slut or anything. I do not want to wreck a friendship or marriage. My husband and I have become very successfull together and I do honestly love him even though he is not very nice verbally to me. What do I do??? Help please.

2007-07-01 17:24:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-01 17:24:18 · 4 answers · asked by kenneth h 6

2007-07-01 17:17:57 · 19 answers · asked by leilanibabyblu206 2

2007-07-01 17:15:21 · 8 answers · asked by .:: mocha ^_^ ::. 2

I felt like i needed to add something because it seems that everyone is miss understanding what I was trying to say. Yes i have been with my husband for 10 years total, however, in those 10 years I have always loved him where as he has not always loved and been in love with me. The statement that my husband is a good man, is based on now, he just started to do the things that i was asking of him which was not that much like spend time with me and not hours on the net, lets go out together, help me around the house. He only started when he thought he was losing me becaues i became tired of being in a one sided relationship,I have never before now talked to another guy let alone cheated on him. I miss worded what i was trying to say, I want to be with my husband i just dont know how to stop feeling the way that i feel about the other guy. My husband is like a see-saw he changes his feels like i change my clothing, I am just tired of letting him hurt me. So please answer that question.

2007-07-01 17:11:43 · 12 answers · asked by youngwife23 1

leaves him for a coworker. She called me from work told me that she loves me and misses me. kissed me and hugged me before work . Even made love to me 2 weeks before. Then whamo left me and moved out. She even told me that she was kissing him and stayed the night at his house. Please tell me that after a 16 year relationship and two children that this is not normal. Was she looking for a way out for a long time and just acted to love me and then left me for the first available single guy to come her way?? I was a good husband father and provider exept I worked alot to give my family a good life.

2007-07-01 17:00:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay well my parents never get along, well sometimes but sometimes no. Well this morning my mom was cleaning our office room, she yelled at me for not cleaning this shelf that was really messy, MY STUPID SELF ROLLED MY EYES AND WENT BACK ON THE COMPUTER My dad came in and yelled at me and my mom. My dad pushed my mom and scratched her. My mom called the police. And now my dad blammed me. Ive been crying all day because my mom told me she has to sleep at a hotel today(im crying even writing that my mom is gonna sleep at a hotel.. sorry:( WOW i just want to kill myself right now!!! I really want my mom tho, i love her so much I wanna stay with her not my dad!

2007-07-01 17:00:40 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Here is problem, I been married for about 7 months now but I have been having an affair for about 4 of those months. A little background we have been together for 10 years, we have had many problems but we also seemed to work them out. I thought that getting married would make our relationship better but it just really tanked after we said I do. My husband is a good man, but for years now our relationship has always been one sided. I got sick of it so, there was a guy at my job that I had crush on and told him that i was interseted in him and that is how it started. All I really wanted was for him to do what my husband wont do for me, and now its been 4 months and we are in love with each other. No one has ever made me feel the way that he does(physically, mentally, just everything) I am so happy when im with him. I dont know what to do, I know that I want to be with him but I dont want to lose everything in my life by leaving my husband right now

2007-07-01 16:08:51 · 28 answers · asked by youngwife23 1

hiya

slightly older ladies (30+) would you do this to a younger guy that you fancied?

You see that has started to happen to me lately! when i start work and say hello to this hot, single mother she has started to hug me.

Also, if i ask for help, and she comes over she will also hold onto my arm or forearm, quite touchy.

Slightly older women, would you do this to a younger guy you fancy? thank you!

2007-07-01 14:45:12 · 25 answers · asked by lololololo 1

2007-07-01 14:42:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife wants a divorce. I am a jokester and she is serious. she wants me to change and/or not joke with her. Its hard. we have a < 1yr old baby. i try to be serious but i am a happy person, it's hard to be serious all the time. she doesn't understand that is how I am. I don't want to lose my baby. she'll move to another city with her family if she leaves. i Love her and my child alot. We are always arguing for minor things or at least I feel like she does most of the arguing. She is very good to me as I am to her. I work 80 hours a week and she is a stay home mom. I need some good advice, help.

2007-07-01 14:37:18 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

So I have been with my boyfriend for a year. He is a drug addict/alcoholic. We have had trust issues with his relapsing and cheating. We are going to counceling. But today he told me that a month ago he relapsed again. He just told his sponsor today also. My question is what do I do. Do I continue to be supportive or do I go my own way. I told him that this doesn't make our trust issues any better, but he doesn't see what he did is wrong. By not telling me that is. He says it is not lying...but it is. Does anyone have experience with this sort of thing???

2007-07-01 14:33:47 · 17 answers · asked by pink 3

It's obvious this thing around my finger is a ring. I just don't understand. I have 4 kids all under 8 years old and if I'm out with them without my wife, I feel like a 21 year old girl that just walked into a truck stop biker bar.... I'm serious too.

Even when we went out to buy a Mother's day card I thought I would never leave the card isle...

Just wondering why this happens.

My wife says that they find me "hot".

Well this is me and I don't think I'm ugly but not "hot".

http://www.myspace.com/crasster

2007-07-01 14:30:07 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-01 14:22:26 · 2 answers · asked by xfactormaster 1