What kind of women loves her husband and then?

Question

leaves him for a coworker. She called me from work told me that she loves me and misses me. kissed me and hugged me before work . Even made love to me 2 weeks before. Then whamo left me and moved out. She even told me that she was kissing him and stayed the night at his house. Please tell me that after a 16 year relationship and two children that this is not normal. Was she looking for a way out for a long time and just acted to love me and then left me for the first available single guy to come her way?? I was a good husband father and provider exept I worked alot to give my family a good life.

Answer 1

Well this new man must be something if she walked out on you, and your two children. Maybe this affair be going for a while that you don't know about. Sounds like this was planned the way she hugged you before going to work.

Answer 2

I'm really sorry you're going through what you're going through, and I truly hope it gets better. As for the situation, no this isn't normal, but the fact of the matter is that it does happen like that to some people. And I think you're right about her thinking about this before she actually did it. She could have been unhappy for a long time and just never told you about it. Shame on her, because she didn't even give you the opportunity to know if it was something that you were doing wrong or if it was something you two could work on together. There are children involved here and I think she is really selfish for cheating them out of a real family. I have two children and I see what divorce is doing to them. It's a horrible thing and us as adults tend to forget that children also have feelings and it's not all about us. I will tell you this, don't dwell on the situation or disect it, trying to figure out why she did what she did. That will drive you NUTS! You try to do what is best for you and for your mental well being. I would strongly suggest counseling to help you cope with the situation. Trust me, you would be amazed at how helpful and insightful therapy can be. Your wife is obviously someone not worth holding on to, and this guy is taking a lying, cheating, heartless woman off your hands. Be grateful! I'm sure you were a good husband and provider, so you don't deserve a wife like her. Let her go on her merry way. I can only imagine the devistation, but with time you will be okay. The grass isn't always greener, so let her find that out herself. She will one day realize what she left behind.

Answer 3

I know you love this woman.... but she is very insecure, and more than that, she is very manipulative. She should get an Academy Award for her performance in "acting natural" so you would not become suspicious during the final days. I hope you don't think that your whole marriage was "fake". I believe this was a recent event, and a shameful man at her work decided to “have” what was not his to “take”. Your wife, most likely a weak person, took the easy road and decided to satisfy her desires, rather than take the high road, which is much harder to follow. All people face inappropriate flirtations….. but it is what the individual does when it happens that separates the weak from the strong… the right from the wrong… the selfish from the generous !! I am so sorry that your wife took the low road !! She will be sorry. Keep your chin up and know in your heart that YOU are NOT the cause of this situation.

Answer 4

No, this is not normal. But you can bet that she was thinking about doing it long before it actually happened. Women don't give up a good thing on a whim and without ensuring that there is some sort of security waiting for them in the new relationship. Chances are that she was giving you lots of signs (probably very subtle ones) for the longest while that she was unhappy in your relationship but you just didn't clue in to them. Talk to a mental health worker about what happened and how you are feeling. You need to come to terms with what happened - and deal with the shock of it all - as well as own up to the role that you played (knowingly or unknowingly), in your wife leaving the relationship. It is not easy, but you WILL get through it and come out a stronger person in the end.

Answer 5

Haaaallooooo, This is what women dooooo... You better liquidate whatever you have and I mean quickly and bury it in a jar some where....You'll have to come up with some excuse later for laundering it and it ain't gonna be easy...You can usually finance it but at least you will have the capital somewhere and she can't touch it cause buddy she is gonna fleece you and screw you through the system like you ain't never been screwed before and the system is setup just to let her do that... Cover your butt... If you have any cash assets of any kind...tap those off first in the most indistinguishable and untraceable way and hide them somewhere where no one will possibly find them but you. Do not tell anyone what you are doing. Bury them in the ground somewhere. Get a lawyer now and prepare to lose custody of everything you own.

BTW: This is really only conceptual or theoretical since I have no idea what state you are in there fore have no idea what laws you are bound to and would/could never advise or counsel you to contravene any laws anyway so just do what is best to protect your interests is the principle...

Answer 6

First ask do I want her back. If so you have to forgive and never bring it up again if she comes back, A little attention and not so many hours working. Take her out without kids. a bouquet of flowers or a small gift does wonders and a motel candles burning bathe together go slow and tell her how much you love and appreciate her . Women like being told and shown Good Luck

Answer 7

The kind that feels that she has to do some changes and does. Think, is better to walk out on you now then latter, much better yet is do not wait until the relationship get to the unacceptable levels of everyday arguments and fights.

Now, work a lot to give her a good life...Are you sure this is what she was expecting from you?

I'm afraid you gonna need to move on on your own.

So, try to accept her decision and I wish you Good Luck with your future wife.

Answer 8

This is not normal, apparently she was not telling you what she was feeling, don't blame yourself, you didn't know, the key to a relationship is communication and seems to me she didn't tell you what she was feeling, from a womans point of view i really can't understand why she did this, acting like everything was fine then just leaving , maybe she wasn't happy so she was just being nice till she decided what to do, you at least deserve a explanation....maybe she felt lonley, my dad worked alot to and was gone alot due to the army but like you said that was due to giving his family a good life, but maybe she was feeling abandoned and just didn't tell you, it all boils down to she never told you why this happend, so you couldn't of done anything to help it since you didn't know, so like i said don't blame yourself, try to get her to sit down and talk to you and explain if she won't as much as your heart will hurt move on and find someone who deserves you ...

Answer 9

sorry to hear that, i had two wife's that also cheated on me and then left, so i know the fear and hell your going through, there are tons of fish in the sea, don't wait, start looking now, thank God for the Internet, back in my time i didn't have it good luck, God is on your side. I was divorced for 25 years, the good Lord blessed me with a good christian woman, that i married last Summer.

Answer 10

I feel for you. Don't feel like this is all your fault. A marriage takes two. If she expressed your working to much was a problem maybe that was her way of telling you there was something wrong. If you still want to work it out with her try asking her to get together and talk. NOT ARGUE. Talk like two adult people. Also listen to what she is saying. Best of luck.