how soon is too soon?

Question

to get married? should it matter at all cuz they say it takes a good year to know someone maybe depending on how much you see them in the beginning i think? opinions, please. thanx

Answer 1

A year is a good guide line. If you spend alot of time together while you are dating that cuts down on the year thing as well. However it also depends on weather or not you have lived with this person. Living with someone is alot diffrent then dating. Also, their are some people in this world who get married for LOVE, (imagin that) and if you have ever been inlove you will know that it has no timeline. You also know that love is what moves this world. Funny isn't it?
For me my ex and I got married in less then a year. We were together 8 years and married for 7 of those years. I will say that now that I look back on it I would have waited alittle longer and maybe never have married him at all. I don't regret being married. I do regret the fact that I jumped into it. It took me a long time to realize he was not the one.
You see I belive that God made someone for everyone. Also, not many poeple are intouch with their souls and their hearts. So, when God does present them with their soul mate they can't see it. There are very few people in this word that have the patence to wait for that person. You see people mature at diffrent speeds. Some never at all. Alot of times what happens, is that when God does present you with them they are not able to see that and that is why people marry whoever these days. That is why we have such a high rate of divorce in this country.
Side note: I tell every one I can this. Belive me when I say this. I know what I am talking about. After my divorce I really took some time to get to know myself better. It is an amazing thing. You begin to have a diffrent view on live and what is importent to you. If you have not already gotten to know yourself you should. You will be amazed at the things God presents you with. I know I was.

Answer 2

I asked this same question once before. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 8 months now and after hearing " its too soon" to even think about it I feel like this :

Marriage isn't about the length of time. Its not a trophy for longest time you put up with each other's BS. Marriage is about feeling the same in your heart as someone else and working towards building on that for the rest of your life. Just as many people get divorced when they marry when things are new as when people marry after years. Many people feel its best to wed while the feelings are strong and fresh, not to wait until you can't stand looking at the person 4 years or 8 years later. I feel the longer it takes you to decide in yoru heart you would want to marry someone, the more its settling and the less because you are sure of yourself.

Take your time and enjoy the person's company. I spendd alot of time with my boyfriend ( almost every waking moment) and I feel like i've known him a lifetime and we act accordingly. I know where we both stand. Too soon would be when views, future plans, goals, ambitions, and child raising hasn't been discussed in detail and when you dont know anything about their familiy ( no surprises once you're married.). Once you get the details ironed out, its a matter of when you have no more doubt.

Answer 3

I think 2 months and under is definately too soon, it really depends on the situation though. Some people honestly know that they are meant for each other. Some people just automatically click. It takes WAY more than a year to get to know somebody it can take a lifetime. But you can get to know how a person is for the most part within a few months, at least thats my experience on it and my opinion.

Answer 4

That is a tough question. I have experience in marrying someone after dating for years and then marrying someone I dated for just months.

I knew when I married the long term relationship guy that I shouldn't. We were divorced after 11 years.

I married my husband after only dating months. There was never a doubt in my mind and we are uberhappy.

I guess there is no timeline in my opinion.

Answer 5

Too soon? I don't know. That's kinda like someone telling you what love is. You gotta find it on your own. But it also depends on where you live, and your age, if your parents say yes. Different cultures. Personally, I think that you should get married above 21, it's hard and two people can get on each others nerves. Like me and my brother, always fighting.

Answer 6

well its never too soon if you both love eachother. you should at least have been living with them for a year before getting married so you really know eachother and and to see if living together works. i now live with my boyfriend, things are going good and i love living with him its so much freedom! i wanna get married and him and i have only been together for 9 months but ive known him for two years, i moved in with him just after 2 months of dating. but its never too soon if both are 100% in love with eachother. if your asking this question because a pervius question about a girl i hope your not thinking of getting married already tho but i dont know your whole story. Good Luck with everything!

Answer 7

i knew my guy for over a year, lived with him for 2, then we got married. There are stil some things about him that totaly gets on my last nerve. But we have been together now for over 12 years, So my advice is Get to know the person that you think you are gonna spend the rest of your life with. People change when you live with them, or you start to see things about them that you didn't see before.

Answer 8

I don't think it matters, because I have been married for 6 years with my second husband and I still am finding things out just as in my first marriage after 9 years I found out that he was not the person I thought he was. LOVE IS LOVE.....
You have to have HONESTY to make anything work........

Answer 9

You need longer than a year - at least a year and a half to two yers to get engaged, then another eight months to a year before you get married. You need the time to get to know each other really well, and one another's families.

Answer 10

I don't care how long people have been together. If you have never tired living together will you never understand how each other live their life with someone they love. You have to find out what each other likes or dislikes in your relationship living together. You might just find something that you really hate about her, that you would have never found out if you did not live with her for a year or so.