What do you do when an ex comes back into your life after 20 some years. And they say they only want to be friends.But what do they really want?
2007-07-01 18:10:09 · 14 answers · asked by lisaurban_2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
they are wanting to rekindle the relationship, but don't want to appear desperate, saying they want to be just friends will save them the rejection just in case u don't feel the same about them, they say this to protect their ego's in case their plans don't work out.
2007-07-02 00:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, after we broke up we didn't talk. I had broken it off with him, so I think he as more hurt then I was. But took it okay. Eventually we got talking again, we had a good friendship beforehand so it wasn't that bad. After a few weeks we started dating again, he asked me. I think I missed what we had, rather then I actually felt that way again. After about two or three months he cheated on me. So that was the end of that. Were still friends, but I can't say I trust him as much now. But that doesn't mean you can't get back together and be fine. Good Luck :)
2016-05-21 00:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since it has been so long. The proble just want to be friends is that what you want? You have to decide and then go from there. If you think there is more to there feeling then ask, that is the best way to find your answer. Good luck.
2007-07-01 18:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by Midnight 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My exes are exes for a reason, and I would keep it that way, I would not encourage a friendship with them, especially after 20 years.
2007-07-01 23:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. Be Guarded.
2. Be Cautious.
3. Be Wary.
...and if you do socialize with them - when you think you can trust them - thats the time to repeat steps 1, 2, and 3 above.
2007-07-01 18:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line is not what they want but what YOU want. It's your life and you have the right not to have the person in your life (even just as a friend) if you don't feel comfortable with it.
2007-07-01 19:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by Dick Jones 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They must remember you as a good friend, regardless of the other aspect of your relationship. It is a huge compliment for them to desire your friendship.
Just remember they are an ex for a reason and be careful with your heart :)
2007-07-01 18:15:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
when one comes back after that time i would say he still loves you i know for a fact i was married to a good womanmyself and every day i still love her yet this isnt no jok he still loves you . in my opion?
2007-07-01 18:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be friends with an ex, especially if I didn't know of their real motivations.
2007-07-01 18:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell you their war stories and the tremendous knowledge they have since acquired.
2007-07-01 18:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋