Marriage & Divorce - 10 May 2007

I've been married for 3 months now. I hate it. My husband and I don't even talk to each other, and sex is every 2 weeks or so. He doesnt even know I'm upset when I try to talk to him he turns it around and doesn't listen. This is not how I want my marriage to be.

Since we got back from our honeymoon it's like we don't even like each other... So far, marriage is dumb and I hate it.

Anyone have any tips on how we can become happy newlyweds???

2007-05-10 06:51:13 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I was 4 months pregnant with our son in December 2005, an incident happened that made me accuse my husband of cheating with his ex girlfriend (not wife, i am his first wife) and of course he denied it. Now just about 2 months ago, my husband finally confessed to cheating with her and ever since i have been depressed and have low self esteem. Since it was technically in the past when he told me, should I forgive or leave? If I stay I will still have to look at this woman because they had kids before we got together but if I leave I will be miserable becuase i love him.

2007-05-10 06:35:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife left me in September with her three kids, 20, 12, 6 to another state; because I advised her, we could not do things her ways. She always puts her oldest son first in everything before the family. I said to her he going to do his own things and he needs to be on his own. We gave him a car, in a month he ran to the ground. After my wife had it for three with no problems, he said to her why we did not tell him about maintenance of a vehicle. Then he moved out got a job and roommate with his friends, then about a month later he quits his job because they asked him to work 12 hours. Now he wants money to hang out. Get a job then quits.
12-year-old stepson is very lazy, ask him to do chords he cries about it, he needs gloves to wash dishes, but when he wants to play football or sports he gone. He does not wants to be late, but anything else he late for. I spoke to my wife about it several times. The 6 year old stepdaughter always wants attention, always want to sleep with us, I told her I do not sleep kids in the same bed. Now after 7 months she want to come back home. Because her sister was, living with her is leaving too and she does not have a babysitter for her kids. In addition, about to evicted, have several evictions noticed posted on her already. Son moved back to the city with friends, now she wants to come back to me. She has no way out beside her mother in another state. She said she stay until she get a job and we could get a bigger place to live in. I am concerned about things are now; I asked her you still love me? She said yes still love you but I do not like the things you did.

2007-05-10 06:35:16 · 10 answers · asked by blkngd 1

My husband and I were at a concert with a bunch of friends and ran into my ex I previously dated before him (7 years ago).
Ex was extremely drunk but everything was civil and friendly. Then he procedes to go into a rant to my husband how if it wasn't for him that I would still be his girlfriend and how he wishes we were still together. My husband gets really upset and lays him out. I was upset with my husband and thought he overreacted because I didn't take my ex seriously at all due to his drunkeness. Did I underreact or did he overreact?

2007-05-10 06:35:12 · 15 answers · asked by Fool in the Rain 6

2007-05-10 06:33:24 · 13 answers · asked by Sana-Chan <3 1

what does it stand for?

2007-05-10 06:31:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

/laundry/bill paying/chauferring, and the woman still feels that she is being treated unfairly? I suspect that when this happens, it's usually that she doesn't feel like he's romantic enough, after all that work. How often is this the case?

2007-05-10 06:27:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

weight off. a few pounds heavier than in my single days. harder to keep the hair away from the places i don't want it and harder to keep it where i want it, my energy level isn't what it used to be.
health problems start to slowly creep up on you ex. high cholesterol, high blood pressure, etc. etc.
although you love your kids, the stress of raising them wears on you. the stress of your job wears on you as well. the feeling of being less attractive than you used to be as a result of the factors i mentioned above is multiplied by the fact that your wife seems less and less interested in sex with you the longer you are married, to the point where you stop asking for it because you figure "why ruin the night with more rejection?"

are these pretty normal feelings that guys experience as they begin to approach the middle age years?

2007-05-10 06:19:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

who yells...I never got my lisence and dont ask why...ok and he is cool with it he has no issue with me not having them but is helping me get them but yells at me loudly if i makea driving mistake... everyone else who rides with me sauys i do fine but all he can do is yell and wonder why im so nervous he yells other times to about other things how can i keep tough i dont wanna leave i love him how can i get past this and just deal with it

2007-05-10 06:17:26 · 15 answers · asked by Lilmisssassy 4

well i was wondering if im married and filling for fanancial aid and i dont tell them that im married would it be a problem. is it realyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy important that they know?

2007-05-10 06:16:21 · 25 answers · asked by john c 1

I worry constantly about my wife. How can I deal with this problem?

2007-05-10 06:07:18 · 33 answers · asked by Chewy 2

2007-05-10 06:04:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughter is marrying a bum. He thinks only of hisself and his wants and needs. She does everything for him, and what I can see he does nothing in return. He's got a good job, and does have a nice future, but I am still a worried Dad.

I have raised her on my own, and she's all I got.

2007-05-10 06:01:10 · 19 answers · asked by therednecknavyman 1

a mothers day gift from ur ex husband? He claims he still loves me but Im totally not in love with him anymore but part of me feels that I should accept the gift either way because of my children (it was my daughter that told me what her fathers idea was for my mothers day). What should I do?

2007-05-10 05:58:19 · 14 answers · asked by memyslf&I 3

Ok we are seperated, he hasn't talked to me in 2 days..Told me he would talk and see me this weekend. Well I tried to call his phone and its out of minutes ( pre-paid) well he wasn't talking to me, so now I'm worried he is talking to someone else. I'm also pregnant with his child and I have asked if I could move back home..He says yes then turns around the next day and says he doesn't think its a good idea.. People have told me to not talk to him for a while and he will start to worry about what I'm doing and call me, but he told me that since we have been apart that he has drifted..so not talking to him might make him drift more..And advice?

2007-05-10 05:46:44 · 26 answers · asked by ERICKSMAMA 5

My best friend asked his wife to bear with him while he decides when to leave his mistress. He wants her to relax and wait, he promised her he will try not have sex with the mistress, but he cannot promise the wife that he will not kiss the mistress. They have two lovely kids, been married for two years, he is cheating for 10 months now. wife needs my advice what advise to give i don't know. For me i would have dump his *** already....as a matter of fact i cannot even speak with him and we were very close friends i am totally surpised at his actions

2007-05-10 05:45:21 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my wife are getting a divorce. She is trying to stay married with me as long as possible, and I'm done. She keeps pushing court dates, now is making me pay her cell phone, washer dryer she bought....ect because she has no job. I don't know how to prevent her from trying to take all my money, and i just want out. I cant support my kids and her.

2007-05-10 05:44:17 · 22 answers · asked by WMY 1

Lately my wife gets ill with me over trivial things. she tries to fuss sometimes and she gets smart with me too. How should a person deal with this? The silent treatment? Or "Being cool" towards her? Or something else?

2007-05-10 05:44:08 · 10 answers · asked by Chewy 2

I know. It is not an easy answer... My wife hates photographic porno because she feels it exploits the people involved... and I kinda agree with her. If it's written or drawn it's a different story. And 99.9% of the time I stay away from photographic porno... but every now & then I look at it.

And she finds out, feels betrayed, upset (all legitimately so), demands I move out, etc. Eventually it all settles back down, to a degree, and we go on, a little more wounded than before. She feels less close to me. She is angry at herself for trusting me again.

I know better. Do I not love her? We have been together nearly 20 years... but she says if I cared I wouldn't do those things that hurt her. And that does make sense...

Is it a way of keeping her at a distance? Is it a way of feeling like she can't control me? I feel like lousy. I know I'm wrong when I am doing it. It happened again this week after 10 months of behaving. She wants me to move out again.

>>>sigh<<<

2007-05-10 05:40:58 · 18 answers · asked by aspicco 7

I want my wife to call me during the day and to generally show just how much she misses me sometimes. I usually call her several times a day,but lately I have thought that I would lay off and let her do the calling. My worry is that she wont call or doesnt really care or miss me that much. what should I do? Call or knock it off altogether?

2007-05-10 05:39:48 · 19 answers · asked by Chewy 2

if you are gonna say it doesn't , don't bother answering cause it is a proven fact that it does. if your one of the few lucky ones to dispell the myth, hoorah for you, answer a question that has to do with your marriage phenomenon.

2007-05-10 05:35:59 · 14 answers · asked by rockstarhooligan 2

We have been togather about 12 years and he has always been a cheater. Every time he said it was a mistake and I was always foolish enough to believe him. I guess that is the price you pay for love? I still love him and had to move 2 states away to make sure I won't go back again. I have our 5 year old son with me and don't know what to do with myself now. I am looking for a job in the medical feild and hope to have my son in school soon, but my problem is I am getting mixed reviews from my family and friends. Some say that I need to go out and experience new things and people because all I have known for so long is my husband. But others say I should just take time for myself and straighten out my emotions about the seperation before I start to meet any one. I guess from being with him for so long I don't know if it easier to move on with or without some one?
If any one has any GOOD advice, let me know.

2007-05-10 05:33:40 · 24 answers · asked by Boogie's Mom 2

My husband loves it from every angle, but he has this thing about s*x from the back...He's absolutely obsessed with the *ss. For guys that cant get enough of the doggy style...whats so great about the view? or is it the power of the position?

2007-05-10 05:32:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

She has been away for few months

2007-05-10 05:23:29 · 20 answers · asked by funguy 1

2007-05-10 05:11:19 · 17 answers · asked by Fashionista22 1

2007-05-10 05:04:24 · 35 answers · asked by felotha 1

Me and my husband are getting a divorce. He is trying to stay married with me as long as possible, and I'm done. He keeps pushing court dates, now is making me pay him his cell phone, washer dryer he bought....ect because he has no job. I don't know how to prevent him from trying to take all my money, and i just want out. I cant support my kids and him.

2007-05-10 05:00:07 · 34 answers · asked by Venus 3

I am in love with this guy. everything is fine. he started talking about marriage. but because both of us are from different countries . I am Moroccan and hes Pakistani. we share the same religion. for me I don't have a problem with it. but he was telling me about hes family and if I marry him I have to move in with hes mom and dad. but I don't agree with it. but he always say oh the are old and thy need my help I told him we can live near them. but I am not okay by living with them because I believer if I get married I wants to be in my own privet house. do whatever I want. but hes not okay with I don't know is it wrong .I don't know what to do. I love him and I am willing to work thing out. by the way hes 23 I am 21. ans also he keep talking about if we have kids he will send them to his country . to learn the culture. but I keep telling him that I have a culture too. and u know it. and u need to respect it. I done know what to do I love him .

2007-05-10 04:58:30 · 12 answers · asked by heregoagain_1 1

Does anyone else have a husband (or wife, if you're a guy) who makes NO noise (other than heavy breathing) during sex? My husband is like this, and has been since we started dating 4 or 5 years ago (we've been married 3 years). It's not that he's not enjoying himself--I know he is. He's just silent--no talking, moaning, grunting--NOTHING. I'm not saying I want him to scream out my name or talk dirty or anything (quite honestly, that would scare me, lol). Is this odd behavior for him, or are there other guys like this out there?

2007-05-10 04:55:50 · 40 answers · asked by brevejunkie 7

2007-05-10 04:55:41 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous