2007-05-10 05:04:24 · 35 answers · asked by felotha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband &I have a tight friendship. We are like best friends. The guy that claims his love to me I never slept with but when we were friends he was excellent to me::: as a friend: What do i tell him I love my husband and he's not respecting that?
2007-05-10 05:07:45 · update #1
I need more answers
2007-05-10 05:09:29 · update #2
What you do is tell this guy that you're married and his advances are not welcome. If he continues, tell him that there are stalker laws and please don't make you get a restraining order, but you will if you have to. Then if he still doesn't get the message, file a restraining order against him. I would let your husband know this guy is making advances, he needs to know. He'll be glad you told him, since YOU have nothing to hide. Make sure he knows that you have, or are going to, warned the guy about having to get a restraining order if necessary. Make this guy respect the boundaries you have set due to your marital status. Best wishes.
2007-05-10 05:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People of the opposite sex come from out of nowhere the minute you get in a serious relationship/marriage. Some people even go after married individuals because they think it is more of a challenge or more of a victory if they can sway you. Be strong and don't think about what if...? Focus on making your marriage the best it can be. Obviously you pictured yourself being happy with your husband enough that you married him. Don't jeopardize that, you might end up with nothing! Tell your "friend" that he is just feeling the love that is radiating from you because you are very happy.
2007-05-10 05:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your old friend doesn't clearly respect your friendship. Should he really love you, 1) he should have continued being your friend and not have messed up your life OR 2) He should have told you that BEFORE you got married.
If you love your husband, say faithful to him - he's a good guy.
Think twice if you want to stay friends with this old friend because he's trouble!
2007-05-10 05:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by rosaria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "What do I do?" You are already married. Are you asking for someone to tell you to get divorced and get together with the old friend? No way. Obviously you cared enough about your husband/wife that you married them 6 months ago. Just because someone else has expressed interest, that does not change your current relationship. If you are questioning your marriage now, I would strongly suggest seeking counseling...the foundation of your relationship needs strengthened, if one old flame could shake it this much.
Good luck and hang in there
2007-05-10 05:09:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that by having a friendship with this ex-beau would jeopardize your relationship with your husband then you need to tell this guy exactly that, and tell him you cannot have any further contact with him for this reason.
If however, you and your husband are secure enough to allow you to have platonic relationships with opposite-sex individuals, then you should at least consider having a FRIENDSHIP with this guy....as long as he is under no misunderstanding about the fact that it is ONLY friendship and will NEVER go any further.
its entirely up to you.
2007-05-10 05:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married the man you love right? Whats so hard... Dont let an outsider destroy your marriage because he's not happy!! Right now he has successfully started his mind game...end it...do not socialize with him on any level because his motive is not good...let him no upfront your not going there with him so there wont be any room for confusion or mind games. Show him that you and your husbands relationship is strong!! Stand up to him...dont let him think he can turn things around...
2007-05-10 07:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by valued_maturity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly loved and respected your husband this would be a non-issue. Simply say, "I'm very happily married" and leave it at that. The guy probably just wanted to bed you anyway.
2007-05-10 05:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing with this man but wish him well, send him on his way and go back home. Tell him you love your husband and don't want anything to jeopardize your marriage. Tell you husband what happened so this guy can't come between you!
2007-05-10 05:08:23 · answer #8 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he had his chance and you've made your choice. If you were ever interested in him you should have spoken up. You've taken vows to be with your husband, this shouldn't even be a problem. You get married for life, not until someone better comes along.
2007-05-10 05:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by Dawn-Marie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't think you should be considering this as a problem. You love your husband. State that to your friend and simply tell him that you love him as a friend but nothing will change farther than that.
2007-05-10 05:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by jeniel17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋