/laundry/bill paying/chauferring, and the woman still feels that she is being treated unfairly? I suspect that when this happens, it's usually that she doesn't feel like he's romantic enough, after all that work. How often is this the case?
2007-05-10 06:27:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not the case in my household..sorry
2007-05-10 06:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an unfair set up and a wife that is spoiled.
But you need to ask HER what her problem is. It's possible that you don't have the full picture of what she acutally does. Cleaning and cooking are only a VERY small part of running a household.
But also, she may not be getting enough time to herself. Just because you do things around the house, doesn't mean that she's NOT doing anything.
When was the last time you and your wife went out and just had fun? I mean really, silly fun? When did you take her out for a night just to enjoy yourselves. Not for a birthday or anniversary or anything like that...but a date.
Of course, it's also possible that she is a spoiled brat.
The best person to talk to about this is HER. Ask her why she feels that way. And really listen. Often times the first reason given is NOT the real reason. When she tells you what is bothering her, repeat it back to her in your own words. What she is SAYING and what you HEAR may be two completely different things.
2007-05-10 06:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by teacherintheroom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are YOU doing all the work in the relatinship? EIther you have enabled her into a lifestyle to which you are now deciding is too much effort - OR - you are being taken advantage of. If ou started treating her this way & got comfortable with it - shame on you! You need to sit her down and edplain that while you would love to continue pampering her - you'd like some pamperin gin return! If it's the later - then you had better reasses your position and do what you must to demand some changes that make the relationship a more 50/50 split or find yourself another partner.
2007-05-10 06:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by martiek7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens more often than women are willing to admit.
I believe its not that men don't clean/cook/etc... its that women expect men to comply and do it the "woman's way".
The woman's or man's way of doing anything is not automatically right.
Women, however, complain more about when things are done their way. So long as the dishes are clean does it matter how I filled the dishwasher? If the end result is the same and no one or thing has been harmed in the process does it matter how it was done?
2007-05-10 08:15:41 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, baby. That's a pipedream. I don't mind paying for everything. But I want a good woman cooked meal. I don't mind helpin out around the house and some cleanin. Sometimes I'd cook, but not all the time.
2007-05-10 06:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see how this could happen in some homes...but last I heard the stats it's actually much more common for the wife to be working full-time, and still carrying out the majority of household chores.
2007-05-10 06:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I do the exact same thing and I can assure you mine does appreciate what I do.
Now I will tell you would happen if she didn't.
I would talk to her about it, if that didn't work
I would stop doing those things, if that didn't work
I would have to decide whether or not to stay, as I'm sure there are plenty of women who would love a man who does all those things and maintain a full time job
2007-05-10 06:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by walker9842 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of that before actually. A man that shares the housework and pays for things and the woman is still ungrateful?? That's news to me ... I want a man like that too.
2007-05-10 06:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by NoSurrender 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure... but I think many women feel like they are entitled to be catered to by their husbands. They think there should be an absolute equal division of labor, which is seldom the case. That or your wife is simply insatiable, which would drive anyone nuts.
2007-05-10 06:33:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do all the cooking and cleaning and the kids homework and my wife do the bills and i pay 1/2 of the bill she pay and it work out in my house hold and I'm OK with it we are are happy and that all the counts.
2007-05-10 06:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband works.... and he doesnt do crap around the house. I'd be happy if he picked his dirty socks up off the living room floor and stuck them in the laundry hamper.
2007-05-10 06:47:12 · answer #11 · answered by crazyworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋