Lately my wife gets ill with me over trivial things. she tries to fuss sometimes and she gets smart with me too. How should a person deal with this? The silent treatment? Or "Being cool" towards her? Or something else?
2007-05-10 05:44:08 · 10 answers · asked by Chewy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar
2007-05-10 05:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go to couples counseling - at least you'll have a mediator.
There's obviously something bothering her and she doesn't have the internal tools to express precisely what's getting her goat.
That said, what are you doing to irritate her? Don't say "nothing" because obviously SOMETHING is wrong.
That's what a good counselor is for.
If she won't go - you go yourself.
You may find that inadvertently you've really wounded her. You may find that the whole thing is wrong. You may find that you need to listen more and think about her first. It could be a whole host of things - but you won't know unless you ask her. Preferably 1. with a mediator to keep things on track and 2. before the whole thing blows up in your face.
2007-05-10 12:52:30 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To the first person that replied, why would you want to catch flies? Eeww!
Sounds like you're not paying enough attention to your wife and she feels being snippy with you is the only way to get through. I suggest if she starts being snippy that you go hug her and say, "I'm sorry you're frustrated. What can I do?" That will reduce the snippy episodes and your marriage will be happier.
2007-05-10 12:53:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the way women behave badly in romantic relationships. Make sure you're not doing/neglecting to do things that she wants/doesn't want. She might have become a witch, and there's no recourse other than divorce for a true witch. Men and women shouldn't stay with unsuitable partners that aren't going to communicate effectively and work on their problems.
2007-05-10 12:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication.... talk to her about your observations and how this is making you feel... don't place all blame on her (even if it is her) or put her on the defensive, but talk to her about so you can resolve it. Maybe she is stressed out about something.... see if there is anything you can do to help her.
2007-05-10 13:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to avoid her and only talk to her when she talks to you. Dont give her the silent treatment, it will just make her mad.
2007-05-10 12:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your dad how to tune out the noises and act dumb, fat, and happy. It is the family secret every father passes on to his sons.
2007-05-10 13:14:20 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive asked my husband to start pointing it out when i do that to him, check her on it. I mean, if she is like me then she may nt even notice she is doing it.
2007-05-10 12:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore it at that moment and try talking to her about it later and let her know that it bothers you.
2007-05-10 12:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by #1 Lucy Fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dr. phil
2007-05-10 13:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by Kramer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋