Marriage & Divorce - 10 May 2007

How can i change man's way of thinking and his beliefs?

2007-05-10 08:48:31 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and i seperated for 6 months, in the first months end, i ran into an ex/friend of mine. We had rekindled our friendship, and then pursued more of a relationship come Valentines Day. We both decided we could be adults about it and have fun while it lasted. Well, we both decided to end it when it became too intense. We still remained friends as we had before time and again, however just put the romance on the shelf. 3 weeks ago my husband wanted to have a chat so we talked and wedecided to give us a go. I thought marriage counseling would be my last step to making this marriage work. For the first few days it was amazing as if I felt like we did in teh begining. However, after the 5th day.. i remember sittin in my living room thinking.WHAT THE HECK AM I DOING? Then I knew i didnt belong there anyore. SO now, we are seperated again but living in the same house, has anyone been n the position before and care to share your experiences, advice? Thanks.

2007-05-10 08:47:05 · 6 answers · asked by Jen J 1

i dont know i love him so much....
he cares for me, i know he loves me also..
but theres something missing from him...
like when were together we never have fun.
i want to dance, and watch movies, and do other stuff
but he seem to only like to eat and sleep.And the worst thing is that he gets mad when we dont have sex..... i hate that because i want to get married first,i think is just wrong.
i always end up leaving mad from his house,i am afraid that when we get married is going to be a boring and i am going to be stuck with him for the rest of my life.what do you guys think........

2007-05-10 08:44:13 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

to love someone but treat them like complete garbage, and not know why or be able to control it?

2007-05-10 08:43:43 · 11 answers · asked by juggalizzle 3

My wife commited adutry and i had it all on tape. During our marriage she cheated 3 freaking times that i know about but i forgave the first two. We have 2 children. During the divorce i was strongly hurt. At first i had the kids (2 girls). But i couldn't trasport them to school and back and do the regular activities due to my job requires some travel and some long hours also it's in another town. So with this and her pleading i told her she could have them back. I mean girls should be with there mother right? Anyways, I have been pretty successful through my career due to my hard work ethics and strong determination to get them everything they need plus my spouse while she worked a minumal job making just over the min wage. I paid for her to go to school which she dropped out! Now i'm finding out that basically i'm in finacial ruin. Instead of living off of 3500 a month i'm now going to have to live off of 1200 a month. With this it may cost me my job since commuting is a daily task

2007-05-10 08:27:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

am currently having marital problems. I am 30 and my wife for 7 yrs. is 34. We have 2 kids 6 & 4. My wife told me she was not in love with me any longer. She had been feeling this way for some time but never revealed her true feelings to me until now. To her, our marriage is over and there is no chance for recovery. She is determined to find her "happiness" somewhere else. All this time I thought I was providing her with all the happiness she wanted -- emotionally, mentally and physically. I don't drink, smoke, and I'm not abusive to her or the children. But for some reason I'm not worth a second chance. She wants to continue to stay here until we can financially afford to separate. But I'm living an emotional roller coaster. I never thought she would stop loving me. What can I do to save my marriage when she is so determined to be by herself. She tells me she wants to find her happiness with herself. What can I do? I will always love her and do not want to lose her.

2007-05-10 08:02:08 · 60 answers · asked by Angelboy00 1

I,m a father of 4 kids and having seen or heard from them in14 yrs. I don,t own any childsupport, also disable. I love my kids, and do whatever just to see a pictures of them. Barbara O,connor is Evil, and she got the DEVIL inside her. WHY?

2007-05-10 07:57:43 · 8 answers · asked by riccibigm47 2

We are not married just celebrating two years together.

2007-05-10 07:56:59 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Two of my kids are over 18. The oldest wants nothing to do with his sex offender/abusive father. My 18 year old daughter started a my space page and my ex found her. She went behind my back and asked him to meet her at a concert we were performing at. She wants to have a relationship with her father and did not want to hear me freak out. This man likes to have sex with 12 year old girls and blames them saying he was raped, when he was over 30. I don't want this person near us. Yet, she thinks she wants a chance.
I can't get her to understand. I had the phone disconnected and internet turned off at the house. But, I worry he may find our house. I had protection through Friend of the Court and Sole custody. He was not to find us from them.
I need to know what to do. I have a 12 year old I share custody with from a later relationship. Her dad is going to flip out and may deny me my visitation when he finds out.
No I can't kick the older daughter out, just not what I can do.

2007-05-10 07:51:39 · 14 answers · asked by MaryJean 2

Don't ask me why I ask, just answer the question.

Basically I am just curious how many white people today have whether it was discreetly or not.

2007-05-10 07:50:36 · 15 answers · asked by Momma K 1

Ok, the girl and I have been going out for 1.6mnths she stuck thru me thru my divorce. Thru the 1.6mnth we broke up a couple times, cuz the divorce was a lot of pressure. But there were alot of gooddtimes. She finally broke it off with me a couple months ago and her reason was that it was a lot of stress for her. I didn't treat her very well, but I was going thru stress of the divorce aswell. But when she cut it off, I realized that how much she meant to me. I have tried to get back together with her, but she is happy now, but at the same time she thinks about me. I know if you take the divorce stress out of the mix we had a great relationship. She still wants to be my friend and but I can't stop thinking about her. I I have made major changes in my life to show her that I have change for hte better and she told me see them. I feel we have left a book that has not finished and she still has feelings for me. I have stop calling her, but she calls me.So I don't step my boundries.

2007-05-10 07:47:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

What is the best way to recover some of the investment into the ring. Want to avoid the pawn shop if I can. We were engaged for about a year so it has some user wear on the ring itself. Some one even suggested turning it into a pinky ring for myself lol.

2007-05-10 07:47:01 · 10 answers · asked by newburg_2_fine 3

i am so jealous it is going to hurt my marriage. i get upset with everything my husband does i am too the point were i almost want him to quit his job cause of the girls he works with. i don't know why i am like i am. but i don't know how to control it either. it just hurts me so bad watching him look at other girls even if it is on tv. does anyone have any ideas how to control it. cause it is hurting me deep inside and hurting my marriage. i am always asking him if he is cheating and why was he talking to her. so on so on. i know down deep he would never cheat, but i always feel like he is or wants too.

2007-05-10 07:46:19 · 12 answers · asked by joseismyworld 1

I found a tab for match.com under it. so then i looked on match.com for his profile and he doesn't have one. should i confront him? if so, how should i do it without revealing i was being a snoop?

2007-05-10 07:44:17 · 38 answers · asked by eboogie 1

2007-05-10 07:43:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-10 07:43:39 · 23 answers · asked by flowerskelsey 1

2007-05-10 07:41:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok this is not short but i will try. My Grandad has been married to my grandma for over 40 years (in their 60s) He has been really faithful and a pastor for 30 years. The last 2 years (only the last 2) he has been very sneaky and we found out he was cheating with another woman of the church. When confronted he tries to make us feel guilty for finding out. recently we found out his has been renting another place for 3 months now where they can meet up. My Grandma does not know everything yet. How would you deal with something like this because we have a big family (i have around 30 cousins and like many many aunts/uncles) just on my moms side alone. Its affecting the whole family and many have looked up to him for so long they dont know how to handle this.. What should they do? Tell my grandma who is having bad medical problems? How do you grieve with something like this? In my heart he is not a bad man even though my mind sees him as one. Any advice? please serious ones only. Thanks

2007-05-10 07:39:08 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

His idea: Have his parents ( who are decent) and his sister and brother in law ( who are not decent ) over for Mothers Day. Translation: I clean, cook and put the party on for his mommy and sister on Mothers Day. Important fact: We have 3 kids. Does this sound like the idea of an A** or a Mamma's Boy? I agreed, just to avoid the argument, and plan to enjoy my day some other time, but still..should I point out to him that he is an A** ???

2007-05-10 07:35:21 · 15 answers · asked by undone 4

2007-05-10 07:33:07 · 47 answers · asked by andrew b 1

2007-05-10 07:31:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

When my husband and I got engaged, I was not aware that him and his ex-girlfriend(also mother of his first 2 kids) had only been split up for 4 months and that he'd cheated with her once in the beginning of our relationship. By the time I found out this stuff,(about a year later) I was already pregnant and planning a wedding so I went through with it. Now I can't stop wondering if I am just a rebound even though he assures me all the time he loves me and that wasn't the case. Is he just trying to spare my feelings?

2007-05-10 07:27:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

the papers from court say she has mother day, she is telling her daughter it is a legal holiday week-end, that starts friday- till monday. I don't think this is so.

2007-05-10 07:19:49 · 9 answers · asked by ds1075 1

I don't enjoy my Mother-in-law's company at all, but we're very civil, and I do spend holidays at her house. But I'm a mother of four, and my husband expects us to spend the day at his Mom's house- isn't it my day too? Last year there was a huge fight when I tried to stay home instead of going- but I had no problem with him going on his own. My gift would've been not having to go to his Mom's. My Mother has passed on, and I do not want to spend another Mother's Day unhappy.

2007-05-10 07:19:13 · 7 answers · asked by rabbitsrabid 2

I'm near the end of a divorce, but I filed this years taxes as single, and my payroll still says married, can I change that or do I have to wait until the divorce is officially finalized?

2007-05-10 07:17:28 · 3 answers · asked by walkinbyfaith7 3

My friend is 19 yrs old & has been married to a man 8 yrs older than her since 2003. They have 3 kids all under 3 yrs old. Back in 2005 they were both unfaithful to each other. She cheated w/ a stranger she met on the phone & he cheated on her w/ one of her good friends (not me).

Anyway they stayed together despite that, but all the trust is gone. She's never had a cell phone & now she can't get one because he thinks she's going to cheat on her. Well she can't leave the house for more than 15 mins without him calling her obsessively from work and accusing her of having an affair.

Currently she's talking to two guys because she's tired of her husband & his domineering ways.

Is there any adivce you can give me so that I can help my friend because she admits to being lost and confused about this relationship. BTW I'm 19 yrs old also.

2007-05-10 07:12:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a 37 year old male i've been married to my wife for 8 years,i've never cheated on her,but she did on me once.But for the past year i've had shoulder trouble,due from work and stress,i've been going to a massage therapist that seems to help.i hate taking pain pills,so i lean torwards natural healing if possible.but the therapist seems to be really nice and caring and has never said or done anything out of the way to me.but my wife is extemely jealous of this lady.once the therapist gave me a hour and a half massage and i only paid for 30min.She just seems like a concerned,and caring person.Am i missing somthing?Or is my wife just being crazy?My wife thinks she's got the hots for me,because she has gave me free massages before,i think she is just being really nice.

2007-05-10 07:12:21 · 27 answers · asked by 8seconds 2

i found out that my beautiful wife is a stripper and hooker after 15 years of our marriage. she told me that she has been a prostitute since before we met and our daughter suddenly wants to be like her. i want to leave her, but i love her so much and i care for her... i thought about adjusting to her lifestyle but i've been having second thoughts. i really really love her to death...what do i do?

2007-05-10 07:07:59 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

For one, was online YEARS ago and met a girl who is like 7 years younger. And they talked off and on for about 5-6 years. He kept wanting to meet her but she kept refusing because he was/is married with two kids. He kept getting frustrated and would constantly get mad at the girl for not meeting him. Anyways, just recently the guy texted this girl and said he felt stupid and hopes nothing comes of the situation. He said he didn't want to go into what happened but he asked why he always thought of himself first. So the girl assumed he went and cheated on his wife with another woman only when she hinted at it, he said it wasn't what he did, it's more of what happened. Then she hadn't seen or heard from him in weeks. Now from the sounds of it, he got in big trouble with his wife but why would he want to do something like that if he was/is married? Why wouldn't he end it with his wife if he is/was not happy?

2007-05-10 07:05:26 · 14 answers · asked by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3

When I was pregnant with our son in December 2005, i caught my husband in a locked bedroom with his ex at his brothers house. When I told him "lets go right now" he hesitated, pacing back and forth for an hour and walking outside until he was ready to go. Also after I had our baby, almost immediately he avoided me for 2 months and his ex started showing up at his cousins house(where he lived before we got married) "visiting his cousins wife" and "bringing the kids to see him" all of a sudden, sometimes even when my husband wasn't there. Do you think he really wanted to be with her and just stayed with me because I was pregnant?

2007-05-10 06:59:52 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous