i dont know i love him so much....
he cares for me, i know he loves me also..
but theres something missing from him...
like when were together we never have fun.
i want to dance, and watch movies, and do other stuff
but he seem to only like to eat and sleep.And the worst thing is that he gets mad when we dont have sex..... i hate that because i want to get married first,i think is just wrong.
i always end up leaving mad from his house,i am afraid that when we get married is going to be a boring and i am going to be stuck with him for the rest of my life.what do you guys think........
2007-05-10 08:44:13 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know alot of couples that they get married and they think they love each other, but after couple of months they hate each other and can't stand one another.
2007-05-10 08:46:39 · update #1
You are not ready and therefore should definintly WAIT.
2007-05-10 08:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by caraanne2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any doubts what-so-ever, then NO you shouldn't marry him. As far as the sex thing goes, NO means NO! It needs NO explanation! I think it's great that you want to wait. I married my high school sweetheart and he was just like the guy you're describing. We ended up getting a divorce. I am now married to a wonderful man. (11 yrs this past April) I wish I had waited for him! Do what you feel is right for you. Look out for yourself. No one else is gonna do it for you! Good luck!
2007-05-10 15:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on what you've said....PLEASE do not marry him.
You are just going to hurt divorce statistics....and they DON'T need to be any higher!!!!!
If he is rushing you to get married.....could be because he WANTS the sex that you're not willing to give until marriage! Which, is idiotic. He shouldn't get mad at you because of what you believe in though.
Think of that applied into other areas of life. If he is going to get mad at you and in turn make you in a bad mood when the two of you don't agree.....why on earth would you even play around with the idea of making a life-long commitment to him?!?!?!
The two of you don't sound compatable to me AT ALL!!!!
I think all of your doubts are a big STOP SIGN.
Find someone who shares the same beliefs as you, and who will RESPECT your wishes, and NOT make you feel bad/mad all the time!!
2007-05-10 20:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by jezyka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor and don't marry him! You aren't having fun now, so you won't have fun when you are married...
When you meet the right person, you won't have to ask whether or not to marry him, you will just know.
Good luck! I know it isn't easy to walk away from a relationship, but you deserve someone that is compatible with you and someone that will cherish you. You don't deserve someone that will get mad because you want to wait for sex. I say good for you! :-)
Don't waste any of your time on this loser... go out and find your Mr. Right.
2007-05-10 15:50:12 · answer #4 · answered by OffLiCute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT GET MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If he does not like to dance and watch movies now . It will not get better. All he wants is sex!!!!!If he loved you a respected your feels he would not keep making you mad .
All he is going to want when you get married is sex and will not care about your feelings at all. You are in love with the idea of love. You can't have love that is one side and this is what you have a one sided relationship.
2007-05-10 15:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just aren't ready for marriage at least not with this man. You don't share any common interests at all so I have to ask what is it that you love about him? He doesn't even respect your attitude about sex before marriage. Love does not mean ignoring the obvious. And you are ignoring the obvious. Find a man who shares your interests, your morality, religion, and your interests in children and goals.
2007-05-10 16:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think u're meant for each other. Having common interest is one of the things that aid a relationship.
The love is probably one-sided and all he's interested in is having you in bed. I guess if he succeeds here, he'll be tired of you and dump you. a man should respect his girl's feelings. If you say to wait till after marriage, if he's one who really loves you, he'll respect you for this and cherish you more.
Move on girl. You'll geta better amn who'll be worth you. Dont feel bad about it. You leaving him will be good riddance!
2007-05-10 15:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by sholly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you're having any doubts than thats a sign that you do not need to get married at this time.Guys have this stage that they go through some grow out of it and some do not.... I would wait and see if he grows up a little. I also think he would change if he thinks he would lose you.....If not than you don't need him!!!
2007-05-10 15:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by TRISHA S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If things are not working out between you now just think how they'll get worse as time goes on ....if you love him then talked to him about it. share your thoughts make sure he understands how you feel ..you're talking about the rest of your life
2007-05-10 15:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by Just me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't settle. You don't sound happy. Even if you love one another, you may not be a good MATCH for marriage. If you aren't sure, don't - there's nothing worse than regrets.
2007-05-10 16:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on all your doubts i would have to say you are not ready and you should not marry this man!
He doesn't even seem to treat you that good!
2007-05-10 15:55:28 · answer #11 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋