Two of my kids are over 18. The oldest wants nothing to do with his sex offender/abusive father. My 18 year old daughter started a my space page and my ex found her. She went behind my back and asked him to meet her at a concert we were performing at. She wants to have a relationship with her father and did not want to hear me freak out. This man likes to have sex with 12 year old girls and blames them saying he was raped, when he was over 30. I don't want this person near us. Yet, she thinks she wants a chance.
I can't get her to understand. I had the phone disconnected and internet turned off at the house. But, I worry he may find our house. I had protection through Friend of the Court and Sole custody. He was not to find us from them.
I need to know what to do. I have a 12 year old I share custody with from a later relationship. Her dad is going to flip out and may deny me my visitation when he finds out.
No I can't kick the older daughter out, just not what I can do.
2007-05-10 07:51:39 · 14 answers · asked by MaryJean 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I KNOW THAT YOU ARE TRYING TO PROTECT YOUR KIDS AND I UNDERSTAND WHY, BUT SHE IS OVER 18 AND IS AWARE OF HOW HER FATHER IS....LEAVE IT AT THAT...BECAUSE IF HE TRIED TO DO SOME FUNNY STUFF TO HER YOU KNOW YOUR DAUGHTER WILL NOT STAND FOR THAT KIND OF BEHAVIOR FROM HIM. TRUST YOUR DAUGHTERS DECISION...EVEN THOUGH YOU AND I DO NOT AGREE WITH HER SEEING HIM, BUT SHE IS OVER 18.
2007-05-10 07:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by NEWPORT BEACH GIRL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your 18 year-old has every right to see her father. You should explain your concerns to her, but ask her not to reveal either your phone number or address. She could see him in a public place.
12 year-old girls don't rape 30 year-old men. If necessary, you can get a restraining order keeping him away from your home.
2007-05-10 15:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by dirty t 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some that are sexual abused still seek the praise from there offender.she is 18 and if she is willing to do such a thing and get all cozy there isnt much you can do. My sister did and she is still to this day messed up at 36yr old. I hope you got your daughter help when this all happenend. He might also be on parole in contacting her that might be your only means of safety. Keep your chin up and keep up the good fight if you can.
2007-05-10 14:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by keithleyjustin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does your daughter know all this?? If not, tell her.
Also, phone the police. If he's a registered sex offender planning on meeting with her, they can at least follow him and make sure nothing happens.
Plus, I don't think they can move or leave the county they reside in without getting permission first.
Report him as a stalker.
2007-05-10 15:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your daughter is 18 or older there is nothing you can do to keep her from seeing him. But you can keep him away from you, your other children and your property. You know and i know this guy hasn't changed i wish all the child molester's would get mandatory life sentences because it's a life sentence for their victims.
2007-05-10 15:07:59 · answer #5 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is rough: but you may need to give your daughter an ultimatum in order to keep all of you safe. If she lives in your house, she abides by your rules...or moves out.
She is over 18, so she can have a relationship with dad if she likes. but not in your house, and not if it puts you in danger.
This is a tough one.
See if she can talk to a therapist, police officer, female abuse counselor, victim of abuse.
Good luck.
2007-05-10 14:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by TNCreature 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I so feel for you...does your older daughter know what kind of father she is wanting a relationship with?? You should ask her how she would feel if he did something like that to her or one of her younger friends...or even the step sister...I would be completely honest with her...if she refuses to listen to you and wants to be with him, the only thing you can do is to let her go...but tell her she can't come back...I know that is hard, but you have to consider yourself and the other child involved...try to reason with her....good luck to you.......
2007-05-10 14:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok. that is very serious. ok. if you know that he is not trustworthy then you need to tell your douhter in some way what he did. i mean i understand where she is coming from. i mean your daughter. i mean what 12 year old dosen't want a relatuionship with there father. i mean i would. but i mean if he is not trusdt worthy then she should not be able to see her.
2007-05-10 15:02:11 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with that daughter and explain to her what happened with her father. She needs to understand why he is dangerous and not to be trusted.
Also go to the court and let them know that he is aware of your location. Ask the court if there is anything else that you can do.
Take care,
Troy
2007-05-10 15:24:29 · answer #9 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to your nearby courthouse and swear out a restraining order. Do this immediately. Then find a lawyer and tell him the whole story. He will fix everything, hopefully including your daughter's misguided thoughts
2007-05-10 15:00:27 · answer #10 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋