still have feelings for her my ex?

Question

Ok, the girl and I have been going out for 1.6mnths she stuck thru me thru my divorce. Thru the 1.6mnth we broke up a couple times, cuz the divorce was a lot of pressure. But there were alot of gooddtimes. She finally broke it off with me a couple months ago and her reason was that it was a lot of stress for her. I didn't treat her very well, but I was going thru stress of the divorce aswell. But when she cut it off, I realized that how much she meant to me. I have tried to get back together with her, but she is happy now, but at the same time she thinks about me. I know if you take the divorce stress out of the mix we had a great relationship. She still wants to be my friend and but I can't stop thinking about her. I I have made major changes in my life to show her that I have change for hte better and she told me see them. I feel we have left a book that has not finished and she still has feelings for me. I have stop calling her, but she calls me.So I don't step my boundries.

Answer 1

If your ex girlfriend is stillcalling you and telling you she has feelings for you - maintain your current firendship. She may be very leary of getting involved with yu again as she needs to feel confident; without you proving it to her; that you hvae set aside your past.

I am currently dating a man who's coming off his divorce after a 26 yr marriage. He is very unstable at times & just when I think he's on track, something happens or a sing comes on the radio or etc.. Even during the times when we are together just us, it sit's in the back of my head that maybe he's not reay to tackle the everyday ongoings of a new relationship.

Your ex is happy right now - you need to focus on being happy yourself. That cannot come from her or anyone else - it must come from within. Once you have your entire life back on track - it will happen & maybe with her if she's willing to stick around.

Answer 2

Hi! I gotta tell ya what has just happened to me and I and my husband are so happy!
31 yrs ago I was married to a man, but things did not work out, we were very young, me 16 him 22. I left him ( though I loved him so very much he was and is my first real love) he was cruel and my heart could not take the pain anymore. Well, after many years of taking lifes challanges learning and growing we made it back to each other! This time I wanted to see him and when he called me,he came right over. I could not believe the love in my heart when I saw him, I was overwhelmed! He too, then he began to tell me how I had broke his heart in leaving him, that he really didn't blame me cause he knew he had been a jerk,lol, but that he had been "pineing for me for all these years" Pineing means yearning. and knew in his heart that some day we would be
back together. I am still amazed that we are together again! what my answer for you is if you are absolutly sure you love this girl, keep telling her, show her your love for her, if she is responding in any way, don't give up!

Answer 3

then maybe you feel like your not ready to move on yet, you wanna stay with the past, but you can't do that, if you have changed though why don't you guys just remain for the time bieng friends that way you too can catch up and have a little fun, because jumping back into old flames is a risky thing

Answer 4

If you cannot just "be friends" then you need to tell her that. Say look, I still have feelings for you and it bothers me to be around you as just a friend, knowing you aren't coming home with me. She will either tell you about her feelings for you or understand and leave you alone so you can move on.

Answer 5

my advice, go slow!!! you can be friends etc but you both need time to heal and no man out of a divorce is really ready to get back in..

Answer 6

Trust me, she managed to ruin your marriage so what did you expect? You cheated on your wife with this bimbo. Why should she have any reason to think you would not do the same to her?

Answer 7

Starla has a point...