My husband and i seperated for 6 months, in the first months end, i ran into an ex/friend of mine. We had rekindled our friendship, and then pursued more of a relationship come Valentines Day. We both decided we could be adults about it and have fun while it lasted. Well, we both decided to end it when it became too intense. We still remained friends as we had before time and again, however just put the romance on the shelf. 3 weeks ago my husband wanted to have a chat so we talked and wedecided to give us a go. I thought marriage counseling would be my last step to making this marriage work. For the first few days it was amazing as if I felt like we did in teh begining. However, after the 5th day.. i remember sittin in my living room thinking.WHAT THE HECK AM I DOING? Then I knew i didnt belong there anyore. SO now, we are seperated again but living in the same house, has anyone been n the position before and care to share your experiences, advice? Thanks.
2007-05-10 08:47:05 · 6 answers · asked by Jen J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being sepearate and in the same house doesn't work... b/c in essence you are still living together. What are you guys just saving money on rent? Cr*p or get off the pot....
I think if you are over him and want to move forward then cut the cord and find a place, or let him find a place to move too.
The situation that you are in now "seperated" yet married on paper and living together sounds more like an open marriage.
Also, if you even attempt to get into a relationship with someone in that wacked out lifestyle you are living, you are going to play with everyone's feelings.
Don't get me wrong, Marriage can be tough... but I don't believe in being seperated and living together.
2007-05-10 08:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by joy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you gave up.
It sounds like things were going well, but you decided that you should not have to work to keep your relationship going. Damn lazy and stupid thing if you ask me. Relationships take work and its only fools that think they don't need to work at it or that you should be the "special one" were normal rules don't apply.
If its over, its over and you should move on with your life. Living together is just dragging things out.
2007-05-10 09:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try it if you want but i wouldn't. Wait till one of comes home with someone else.. I would love to just sit and watch that.
2007-05-10 08:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I've been there, and it's one of the most uncomfortable situations I've ever known.
2007-05-10 09:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but close. My heart goes out to you. My advise: Don't go back if you have doubts. It will complicate things. I'v battled that problem for years.
2007-05-10 08:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by Caribbean Queen 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you were in denial of the end of the relationship....let it go for both of your sakes.....
2007-05-10 08:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by caraanne2005 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋